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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
who is still cosleeping
I never meant to "cosleep" with ds, but after this fall/winter when he was sick all the time, and mean "all" the time!! He had like 6 or 7 ear infections back to back it was the only way we could get any sleep..We coslept for about 3 months..
Around 12 months once he got tubes and was feeling better we decided to try sleep training..fast foward to a month or so later, and ds is becoming a "worse" sleeper and gets hysterical in his crib...We have tried EVERYTHING..read all of the books and honestly it is just not working...I feel like giving it six weeks to work should be enough time for CIO, Ferber, sleep associations, regular routines, white noise ect to "work".
My ds gets so hysterical he poops every night when we put him in the crib, and then we change him and try putting him back in and he does it again!!
Anyhow, he ends up in our bed most nights anyways, so I am thinking that we should just go back to "cosleeping"..because ds seems to obviously like it better and he is sleeping through the night when he is with us..
My question is how do you SAFELY cosleep? The biggest issue about him sleeping is that he goes down at 6:30 or 7:30 and we are not ready for bed then..I don't want him to fall out of the bed! so back when we were cosleeping my dh or myself had to stay in the room with him until one of us was ready to go to bed..
Do you have your mattress on the floor? How do you prevent your dc from getting out of the bed? What are your arrangements for naptime if you don't want to take a nap?
Any tips are appreciated! I just want my son to be happy, and safe!
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Re: who is still cosleeping
We are still co-sleeping at almost 15 months. Our bed is against the wall and we have a rail on the other side. We generally spend the last few hours of the evening in our room, even though we aren't sleeping. I work outside of the home M-F and DD will nap pretty much wherever. PNP, crib, floor on a blanket, etc.
Will your DS sleep in a PNP at all? You could set it up in your room, put him to bed in it, and then move him into your bed when you and your DH are ready to go to bed. Other than that, I'm not sure what you could do other than securing the bed and supervising. Sorry I'm not a lot of help! I did want you to know that you're definitely not alone with the co-sleeping though.
We ended up buying a king-size mattress when DS was 6 months, and didn't bother buying a frame for it so it could be on the floor. We had it against one wall, and it worked until about two months ago, when DS was waking up too much with DH and I on either side of him, so we bought a crib mattress. Now we have DS's mattress up against the wall, and our matress on the other side of his. We have a monitor, and if we hear anything while he's sleeping, we go and check on him. I'm considering getting a video monitor for him, bc he's starting to crawl around after he wakes up from naps without fussing when he wakes up like he used to.
Another thing you can do is take one side off of his crib and attach it to your bed frame - you can use bungee cords or moving straps that latch - something really sturdy so his crib won't move at all...I know I've heard of people who have the baby's mattress be an inch or so below their mattress, but ideally they are both the same height and there aren't any gaps between them (you can get a piece of foam that fits over gaps between mattresses, too). Having all mattresses on the floor is the safest, but it's not always possible.
Like pp said, you could also have him sleep somewhere else until you're ready to go to bed - DS has done well sleeping on the floor when we visit family - would something like that work also?
You might want to check out www.askmoxie.org/sleep and search around - I know she's had posts about gently transitioning babies from co-sleeping into their own cribs. hth!
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
We are still cosleeping.
Our mattress is on the floor after a couple incidents where DS crawled off
. We actually put him down for the night in his crib where he sleeps until 10-11 (once until 4 (!!!) but that is usually not the case). Then when he wakes I bring him into bed.
DD goes down in her crib at 8 and remains there until like 3 a.m. and then she comes to bed with us from then until we get up for the day at 445. She takes a nap in our bed when we are at home and either DH or I will lay there with her and either read or watch tv. So it's a nice little break for us.
We are still cosleeping!!! I was going to try to get DD into her crib at around a year, but it just never happened. We all sleep fine, so it hasn't really been an issue except that I know she can't be in ou rbed forever!!! I plan on trying to get her into her own bed in a few months and if she gets up and comes back into our room, oh well! I know that DH or I will have to stay with her until she falls asleep, but she should stay asleep for most or all of the night in her own bed I think, she's just too young right now to try this.
Anyways, as far as putting DC to bed when you're not ready for bed, I would just put them to sleep somewhere else and then in to your bed when you are ready to go to sleep. Being 33 weeks pregnant with #2, I actually go to bed with DD around 7:30, but if I wanted to stay up, I would probably just have her sleep somewhere until I am ready to go to bed.