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Managing a Paranoid Husband
Good Lord my husband is driving me bonkers. Love the man to death but if he is not the biggest conspiracy theroist I've ever met! I'm wondering if anyone else has had issues with their DH and his paranoia. The man will not let me walk anywhere near a microwave, my pants are fitting tight and he's worried it will hurt the baby, I had to bend over backwards to find an OB he was comfortable with (he had some very strict standards), and now this week we have the opportunity to do a Phillips ultrasound and he told me he's "Skeptical". Um of what? "I don't want anyone experimenting on our baby." Oh for SHAME!! This man is insufferable. Then again, this is the same guy who thought I was going to meet a bunch of loonies the last time I went to a GTG.
Anyone else have a husband who questions EVERYTHING?
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Re: Managing a Paranoid Husband
Sounds like you need to have some research to come back at him with when he's being overly paranoid about something. ?Here's an article about the ultrasound thing (which - how exactly is an ultrasound "experimenting" on your baby?):
https://www.webmd.com/baby/news/20041202/multiple-pregnancy-ultrasounds-safe-for-child?
And here are a couple link about the microwave thing:
https://www.babyminestore.com/edu_microwaveoven.html
https://www.babycenter.com/406_is-it-safe-to-use-my-microwave-oven-during-pregnancy_1245301.bc?
Not sure how to help with the pants issue, other than to say - if they're tight, time to start using a bella band or shopping for maternity clothes. ?I resisted for a couple weeks but was SOOOO much more comfortable after the switch. ?
Good luck!?
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My DH says "Prenatal Vitamins make big babies, and cause c-sections". . . . I still say WTF! Even after DD he still is sceptical.
My OB sat down with us, and went over all the typical paranoid parent things, on our first visit. He even looked DH square in the eye and said, "when you have sex, you are not hurting the baby." Maybe you need to talk to your OB about having a sit down with your DH over these issues.
Thanks guys.
IHHM - the deal about pants was a joke. I'm pretty competent when it comes to the whole dressing myself deal...even in pregnancy. I just mentioned that to illustrate how my being pregnant has made him a raving lunatic.
JDCSKF - DH had the same sex fear, and then I told him to get the heck over himself...he did and QUICKLY. And to answer your question, I married a conspiracy theorist...I am a bit of one myself though so I love that about him. "Question the system" is commonplace for us. But when it's come to this pregnancy he is just super paranoid and it bugs the crap out of me now.
I think I will just overload him with info like some of the links IHHM gave. DH reads about 7 books a week so I just need to start talking his language. (Our Barnes & Noble bill is ridiculous). I think sometimes I forget that he's not surfing messageboards all day like I am so where some things seem normal to me, they feel abnormal for him
I don't have any advice, but wanted to say I'm in the same boat! DH told me not too long ago that I'm going to have to ride in the backseat of the car when I'm pregnant...cuz, you know, its dangerous in the front seat. Um, honey, how am I supposed to drive anywhere?!
I can't wait till I'm actually pregnant...this could be interesting.
Do our DH's know each other??? Mine didn't want me taking them either. Even AFTER my ob told me to.
I think men need to understand that pregnancy is not a disease or a special condition. Women experience it every day all over the world.
Yeah, the best part was that I about fell off the sofa I was laughing so hard...until I realized he was serious! He just sat there stonefaced...
Anyway, I saw some books recently when I was shopping for TCOYF, specifically for the Dad-to-be...perhaps something like will have info to will help ease his fears/paranoia?
I wouldnt if I were you! These books gave my dh some seriously ridiculous ideas about what and how I should and shouldnt be eating while I was pregnant, the best piece of info my dh got out of his expectant dad books was "dont be offended if your wife doesnt want to have sex with you". lol!
If you want him to be ok with something, bring him to your ob appts and have your dr. tell him.
If you want to educate him, send him to this website:
www.thefunkystork.com
It's written for dads, and it's really entertaining. ?DH liked it and he's not much of a reader.?
My DH had the same fear about the Phillips US - so much so I ended up not going after a time or two because he would just freak out every time.
He got crazy ideas about PG as well (usually from his mother
) and sometimes I just ignored him altogether because no amount of talking/reading/talking to the doctor could convince him otherwise). Other times, I just gave in because I didn't feel that strongly about whatever it was he was worried about.