My working mom meltdown...

Re: My working mom meltdown...

• kiki-W

  March 2009

  i am 34 now and was a very successful graphic designer for many years. I left work after DD and now an PG again.

  I fear all the work i did making a name for my self may be lost. It is so hard to know what will happen.

  somedays i regret my choice to stop working. but i know there is no one who would do a better job being a mom to my DD. 

  you are not alone.

  with the same hard work and dedication you can work back to where you were.
  

  Report0 Reply
• Loading the player...
• nuttybunch

  March 2009

  How old are you?

  I'm 26 and also feel like the baby might have put a damper on my career, but you have to prioritize a little bit. AND you have to WANT both a family and career enough to make it work. I want to be a lawyer and plan to go to law school in fall 2010. I will still have to work, too, so it will be rough. But I want this with every fiber of my being, so I have to find a way to make it work.

  DH and I decided to start a family. It's a decision we made because we both really wanted kids and wanted to be young parents. I want to be a lawyer, too, but as long as we can make ends meet financially without too much of a struggle, I can always go back to school later. If it's not working out, it will have to be postponed and I'll just have to work for the money.

  Good luck. Remember--this baby is your #1 priority and you'll love it so much that you'll forget about that other stuff. If you focus on the career-slowing part, you'll regret having the baby and it will hurt the child. You can always build it back up when you're ready, but you can't undo regret.

  Report0 Reply
• christie.h

  March 2009

  kiki-W:

  i am 34 now and was a very successful graphic designer for many years. I left work after DD and now an PG again.

  I fear all the work i did making a name for my self may be lost. It is so hard to know what will happen.

  somedays i regret my choice to stop working. but i know there is no one who would do a better job being a mom to my DD. 

  you are not alone.

  with the same hard work and dedication you can work back to where you were.
  

  I'm also a graphic designer, although I only graduated a year ago, and have only been in the field for a couple years. I'm going to take off as little time as possible before getting back to work, but I'm very worried about how this baby will affect my career as well. DH plans to be a SAHD for the most part, so that I can focus on work, and that has relieved some of my stress.
  

  Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml

  Report0 Reply
• MegDC member

  March 2009

  nuttybunch:

  How old are you?

  I'm 26 and also feel like the baby might have put a damper on my career, but you have to prioritize a little bit. AND you have to WANT both a family and career enough to make it work. I want to be a lawyer and plan to go to law school in fall 2010. I will still have to work, too, so it will be rough. But I want this with every fiber of my being, so I have to find a way to make it work.

  DH and I decided to start a family. It's a decision we made because we both really wanted kids and wanted to be young parents. I want to be a lawyer, too, but as long as we can make ends meet financially without too much of a struggle, I can always go back to school later. If it's not working out, it will have to be postponed and I'll just have to work for the money.

  Good luck. Remember--this baby is your #1 priority and you'll love it so much that you'll forget about that other stuff. If you focus on the career-slowing part, you'll regret having the baby and it will hurt the child. You can always build it back up when you're ready, but you can't undo regret.

  I will be 27 when she arrives. ? I know that the baby is the #1 priority, I'm just scared. ?DH has had so much more time to build his career and I don't want to be a financial burdern on the family because I can't earn as much anymore (he would never say this--ever-- he is super supportive). ?And I want to work and am just afraid I won't be able to in the same way, at least not for a while.?

  

  Report0 Reply
• kiki-W

  March 2009

  ChristieAnne:

  kiki-W:

  i am 34 now and was a very successful graphic designer for many years. I left work after DD and now an PG again.

  I fear all the work i did making a name for my self may be lost. It is so hard to know what will happen.

  somedays i regret my choice to stop working. but i know there is no one who would do a better job being a mom to my DD. 

  you are not alone.

  with the same hard work and dedication you can work back to where you were.
  

  I'm also a graphic designer, although I only graduated a year ago, and have only been in the field for a couple years. I'm going to take off as little time as possible before getting back to work, but I'm very worried about how this baby will affect my career as well. DH plans to be a SAHD for the most part, so that I can focus on work, and that has relieved some of my stress.
  

  DH had to stay working b/c he is FAR to clumsy and absent minded to watch kids.

  HA! seriously tho, I think as far as design goes.. as long as you have talent you can always get back in. It is a great career choice.
  

   
  

  Report0 Reply
• bbin09 member

  March 2009

  Meg, I know how you feel. I have always prided myself in my work and have moved up very quickly for my age. I know that I'm not going to want to put in 10 hour days when I have a baby girl at home and I know that's going affect my performance or the appearance of my performance. I struggle with it now thinking of what is going to happen, but I just have to believe that things will adjust how they are supposed to.

  Report0 Reply