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WWYD? Possibly turning down a baby gift?
My SIL has offered to have someone paint a mural in the baby?s nursery. At first, I thought it would be really neat, but DH said nothing, which means he?s not wild about the idea at all! Then she told us about how much she charges ? about $300! ? and I started thinking, that could buy all kinds of baby stuff we actually NEED (I know DH would agree - he's a practical gift type of person). Especially in our situation, since I got laid off a few months ago and money is a bit tight. DH and I haven?t had a chance to talk about it, but I?m sure he?s also thinking about later on whenever we decide to repaint the nursery, how much of a pain it?ll be to make sure the paint marks from the mural don?t show through. (He made that same comment when I put stencils in my study.)
Would you turn down this gift, considering our situation? If so, then how would you tell her ? without hurting her feelings?
(Besides, if I really wanted a mural or something, my sister is an artist and she?d do one for free.)
Thanks....
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Re: WWYD? Possibly turning down a baby gift?
Wait- is she charging you $300, or just wanted you to know the value of her gift?
I would accept it. Primer is a wonderful thing for covering stuff. Or, if we had someone to do a mural, we would probably put up a layer of white wall paper and let her paint that. I think it's an awesome gift!
Talk to your sister about it, and then tell SIL that your sister offered to paint a mural for free at some point. That way SIL will get the idea that you don't want the mural gift and that you don't want her to spend money on something you can get for free.
I would just tell her this. That way you're not "turning it down". Just saw your sister already offered to do one if you choose to.
i personally don't like murals so i wouldn't like that gift as well~ that's a tough call because it's a gift and you don't wanna hurt ur SIL's feelings but at the same time, it's a wall in your home and if you don't want it there, then it will be a constant reminder of how much u don't want it there...
i would graciously decline~ just explain to her that it's a really expensive gift that you wouldn't spend your money on so you dont want her to go out of her way to spend money on it for you~ and let her know that you weren't goin for a mural in the nursery because of how specific it is (and the fact that it will be hard to paint over later after the baby outgrows the nursery in a couple years)... and thank her for the kind gesture though of course
this is what i immediately thought but after re-reading a couple times, i think the poster meant that $300 is what her SIL is paying for someone to come out and paint the mural for them... so it would be a gift~ not something that poster would have pay for...
i thought then same at first! i was like noo way haha
I would definitely turn it down.
If it's your H sister, have him tell her thank you for the offer but we're trying to focus on more practical gifts because money is a bit tight for us.
THANKS SO MUCH for your responses! I was really worried that I was not being a very gracious gift recipient. Though I still hate to hurt her feelings, considering the generosity of the gift (I had no idea she'd be willing to spend so much on the baby!), I feel better about us asking for things we'll need instead. And since it's DH's sister, I'll let him tell her!
Thanks again ladies!