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marrymemylove
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At what age would you NOT have sex in the same room as a sleeping baby?
marrymemylove
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1. s/he's out of my uterus they're too old
2. s/he can lift her head and see us
3. she can pull up to stand
4. ?she can babble
5. can walk and talk (a little)
6. 18 months?
7. 2 years?
8. 2.5 years?
9. 3 years?
10. kindergarten?
11 middle school?
12. as long as they're asleep who cares how old they are?
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I don't know what my answer is, I'd have to see. Also I doubt we'll be sleeping in the same room as DS when he's at elementary school.
But really none of those answers would gross me out. I tend to think that if you say you wouldn't have sex just because that was the only place really available you don't really want to have sex anyway, poor you.
Just wondering... flame away.?
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Re: At what age would you NOT have sex in the same room as a sleeping baby?
Hmmmm interesting....we've had sex with A in the room before (his crib was in our room until he was 10 months old). Now C and A share a room that is connected to mine (there is a non-locking door, but to get to the rest of the house you have to go through my room)....hmmmmm
I don't know my answer either...def. not elementary school though -- too much fake sleeping then AND the memory sticks by then.
#1 and ditto this.
kevs I can see how many would feel as you do.
For the others - imagine for a second you don't have lots of other rooms that are comfortable. Just indulge me.
Personally I couldn't do it with a cat in the room either. A sleeping kid is much less disruptive.
OMG, we have three cats who think us having sex is a theater performance. I swear, they think it's a show!! LOL
Ditto #1 for me... it's just awkward for me.
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oops MrsT you wrote while I was writing. See your point. I'd like to think that I could be cool with it like my friend's parents. I think they ?would still have sex pretty openly (not necessarily in the same room same situ but similarly open and obvious) when their kids were teenagers.?
?But the fake sleeping would be funny. It might cure DS of fake sleeping though -)
Honestly I don't know what people are afraid of with babies and toddlers. They aren't going to be scarred, or remember. They're asleep, they aren't going to wake up and give commentary :-)?
probably #2. ?As an absolutely barely-aware-of-his-surroundings newborn, I didn't find it any big deal if he was in his pack n' play, asleep. ?
As soon as he "woke up" so to speak and started to develop any sign of a personality, it became off-limits. ?And we co-slept for 2.5 years. ?There were plenty of other places for us to have sex than with him in our bed/near our bed.?
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I'm sorry Cubby. I found pg sex some of the best. It was super exciting to know that we'd created something that way KWIM?
?Seriously though - I feel sorry for those who just feel uncomfortable. I guess I just have a lot of focus :-) That and not worrying about the remembering, and even if he does remember what's he going to remember? That he woke up and we were naked in another bed? No big deal really. DS dosn't think nudity is anything to worry about.
Now when he's 10 he probably will no matter how balanced we are at home. But he's a long way off 10, and hopefully we will have a much bigger house then.
BTW I'm kind of amused too - so its gross if its us in the 21st century but not if that's how the tenements on the lower east side got overcrowded? Its ok if you have no choice whatsoever but not ok if your choice is a tiled floor or a sofa??
For me, #1. DD is an incredibly light sleeper and has been since day 1. I just don't think I could do it with a baby crying, or a toddler talking in the same room as us. Its just a distraction.
I don't really care what other people do, though. I don't necessarily think its gross to do it with a baby the room, just not something I'd choose to do.
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if you had a #13 and it was:
13. 21 or older
I would have probably drawn the line at that one.
we got pg with #2 while #1 (almost 6) was asleep in the couch in our bedroom.
My inlaws got pg with their last while on vacation and they had 3 other kids in the room.
I say sometime it all depends on what kind of sleeper they are ;-}
LOL MelandJeff - well you'd probably baulk at "doesn't matter as long as they're asleep" since that covers 21 I suppose.?
Although really, if your 21 year old doesn't have the sense to pretend they're asleep and keep quiet... lol
I totally get that we'd choose our own space if we could easily. I would too. Its not like I PREFER to have DS in the room. But really its practical right now and I hate the couch. And the floor. And what about when my family stays in our room for 2 weeks? Saying you just can't, or that it is gross are strong statements from people who clearly have the luxury of choice (or don't really like sex that much).?
#1.
We have two cats, their nickname is "the sex police"
Yep, I get it. Sometimes, scruples just get put on the wayside when "duty" calls! LOL!
Hmmmm we need our space for sex and thankfully so!!! I'd hate to think it would be so quiet and mundane that our child would be in the bed next to us and not wake up. What a snore fest!