Would You Be Upset? Re: Babysitter

andrea922 · March 2009

We went out last night to see Elton John and Billy Joel and had our 'backup' babysitter over. She was fine, she got Finn to bed and she said he didn't cry, which was great since this was the first time a non-family member had put him to bed.

When we got back at 12:15 I walked in and there was another girl sitting in our family room! The babysitter was like 'oh, that's my friend from out of town' and never introduced her, apologized, nothing. I was so thrown off I didn't say anything and just paid her and walked them out.

She didn't even ask if her friend could come over! I told dh I won't have her again, that really bothered me.

Am I overreacting? I never would have invited someone over when I used to babysit, especially without clearing it with the parents first.

ebearwife · March 2009

Um, yeah. No, way. She's fired.

slwprincess · March 2009

Ummm, yeah I would not be cool with that either. If she had asked, I would have said sure, but not asking is the issue for me. What else is she not asking/telling you about? That's all I could think about from then on.

andrea922 · March 2009

That is exactly what I think, if she had asked that would be one thing but not asking and just having her friend over was so wrong to me. I don't know this person who was in my house with my son!

seasidebride05 · March 2009

I babysit all the time for extra $ and I would never do that. The parents have hired me to be there, not my friend! And I would have no right to bring a stranger into their house. You are justified in being angry and I wouldn't use her again.

tdt · March 2009

Yeah, she should have cleared it with you first. You have every right to be upset.

roswellgahokie · March 2009

not cool - wouldnt use her again

mrs_ross07 · March 2009

you are not over reacting! That's unacceptable

MrsL1022 · March 2009

I would have been absolutely furious. I baby sat a lot as a teenager/college kid and I would never have done that. You don't know this girl she is going to be in your house with the other girl alone with your child? NO WAY, Not cool at all.

UGAbride · March 2009

I would be upset too, and I hope you'll tell her. She probably didn't realize it's a no-no, so clue her in! Funny story, I was babysitting once for some girls in my neighborhood and I started my period while I was there....I lived across the street, but my parents weren't home. So I called my boyfriend and he stopped by with something for me, I really didn't know what else to do because I was bleeding heavily! Anyway, I think the parents were upset about it, but never said anything to me...I don't know how else I could have handled it, but it would have been nice if they were upfront with me.

scarlet115 · March 2009

Yeah, I wouldnt be okay with that either. If she had that one friend over without asking and thought nothing was wrong with it- you cant trust her from not having other friends over too. I wouldnt use her again.

seansgirl2006 · March 2009

Ditto everyone else. I babysat all through high school and college and would never have dreamed of doing something like that without asking. You wouldn't just bring someone over to someone else's house without asking first even if they were home so you especially wouldn't do it when babysitting and they're not!

julienandy · March 2009

I agree with everyone else....you are NOT overreacting.

OctoberGal2007 · March 2009

I would have been upset!! Had she asked me if her friend could come over I might have said yes but not asking is sooooo not acceptable!

Depending on how much I liked her....I would probably call her and confront her on the issue and based on how that conversation goes I would determine whether or not I'd keep her as a backup baby sitter.

Queenie11078 · March 2009

I would've been livid. I don't think you overreacted at all.

K&P414 · March 2009

Like all the pp's I would have been upset too. I am fine with my sitters having a friend over, but that's something we've talked about beforehand. I would be pissed if they invited someone over without clearing it with me first. Although, if you like everything about her other than that I'd just say the next time you have to call her that you would appreciate it if she didn't have guest over without checking with you first.

californiafrog7905 · March 2009

Oh, yeah--HUGE problem for me! I'd take her off the list after that; how rude!!

yellowtulips80 · March 2009

Yes. Fired.

MrsBrandiGreene · March 2009

Totally unacceptable. However, I would talk to her about it if for no other reason that to make sure she understands why its wrong. Depending on her reaction would determine if I ever used her again.

jodylynn · March 2009

Well I think kids that age are pretty stupid to begin with and really she probably didnt think it woudl be a big deal like we would. I'm assuming this girl is really young?? I would just mention that you dont want anyone else in house unless permission is asked first. Another way to look at it is two people were watching finn and making sure he was ok instead of one?? I'm sorry you are upset. If she was a good sitter I would talk it out.

dbryson · March 2009

Without mentioning it to you first ....no way.

doctryan · March 2009

What I don't get is how the friend got there? I assume this girl is in HS and if I had a friend visiting from out of town we would have shown up to the gig together. In fact, pretty sure when I accepted the job I would have told them I needed to bring my friend.

Just seems weird.