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Living in fear of SIDS

ImpatientgalImpatientgal
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It took 10 months to conceive her, 9 of the hardest months of my life to grow her, 31 hours to bring her into the world, and now I am scared to death I'll lose her somehow. While she sleeps, I constantly check to make sure she's breathing. And I freak when DH puts her to sleep on her side. DH wants to take her to a party his buddy from high school is having tomorrow night, but I won't let him take her without me. I hate these people, but I cannot stand the thought of letting her out of my sight. Am I too psycho, or does anyone else feel like this?
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Re: Living in fear of SIDS

  • Kim-&-ChrisKim-&-Chris
    No, your being a new mommy! We are very paranoid and super protective at first.. completely normal
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  • GramysonGramyson member
    i have days on and off when i feel like this.  i want to say it's normal.  i remember at the hospital people kept coming to visit (family, really close friends) and as people were holding her i wanted to growl at them like a lioness.  it was ridiculous, DH said he could see the anxiety coming out of my ears.  i leave twice a week for an hour and half to go to class, it's really stressful to leave her at home.  i think it will get better though, it's just that pesky maternal thing kicking in.
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  • star173star173 member

    ((HUGS))

    I'm so sorry. Are you doing everything you can to prevent SIDS (back sleeping, keeping room cool..not too cool, fan in room, angelcare monitor, etc.)? I wouldn't take a 3 week old to an evening party I don't think...so no, I do'nt think that's nuts at all.

    It will get better, and try to remember SIDS is rare.

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  • gobigbluegobigblue
    no.  she's only 3 wks, right?  that's way young.  your protectiveness is normal.  you'll loosen up w/ time.  i was paranoid about SIDS (and still am a little bit), but all you can do is make sure she's safe the best you can.  just my opinion, but 3 wks really is early to be taking her to a party.  maybe you can drive separately, show off your baby girl and then leave.  let your DH stay if he wants to.  
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  • MySweetBabooMySweetBaboo member

    No, I am a freak about it too. Moreso now when a fellow mom from my dd's birth club passed from SIDS last week. It is unimagineable.

     

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  • KellyG6279KellyG6279 member
    what kind of party?  Your LO is only 3 weeks old.  I wouldn't let my DH take DS without me that young!
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  • cubsfan1cubsfan1
    I am so paranoid about SIDS...it is terrible and i feel like a freak sometimes!
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  • kiliwicketkiliwicket

    imageKim-&-Chris:
    No, your being a new mommy! We are very paranoid and super protective at first.. completely normal

    ditto

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  • msabol2077msabol2077
    I know how you feel, It does get somewhat better tho as time goes on. The first 2mo I would hardly want anyone to hold him (with me sitting right next to them) or take him out of my sight. I'm still like that for the most part but I have gotten better. At night i still have him right next to me and still check on him numerous times throughout the night (I'm not sure how i'll ever move him to his crib). I just think in general being a new parent is scary. You just have to remember tho it is your husbands child also and if he wants to take her somewhere I think you should let him. Unless, Its going to be a crowded party with lots of people, then I wouldn't let my LO go either.
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  • StephanieBride1StephanieBride1
    whoa are you reading my mind or something? I completely understand.
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  • ImpatientgalImpatientgal
    I compromised with DH- we're going to the party very early, show her off for an hour then leave. I am not 100% happy with this, but I get that this is his only opportunity to show her off to his friends. She will not be out of my or DH's arms.
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  • ImpatientgalImpatientgal
    imagestar173:

    ((HUGS))

    I'm so sorry. Are you doing everything you can to prevent SIDS (back sleeping, keeping room cool..not too cool, fan in room, angelcare monitor, etc.)? I wouldn't take a 3 week old to an evening party I don't think...so no, I do'nt think that's nuts at all.

    It will get better, and try to remember SIDS is rare.

    Thank you- yes, I'm doing all the preventative stuff. I guess I'm just paranoid. But I'll keep reminding myself that it's rare and I'm doing everything I can to prevent it.

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  • Chubs&Bubs32Chubs&Bubs32
    i'm with you all the way here. i still get nervous leaving DS with a sitter...i want updates constantly. SIDS absolutely scares the shiit out of me...i made the huge mistake of going to the SIDS website to read up on it, and found myself looking at the memorial page (omg, don't do this). that sent me waaayyy over the edge, and we bought an angelcare monitor the next day. however, i LOVE the angelcare...just being able to look at the monitor and see that he's moving is such a relief, especially if we can't hear him humming or making noises. the peace of mind might be worth the $$ for you, it definitely was for me.  ;-)
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  • barkers4jmmbarkers4jmm
    I'm going to be like this for the rest of my life.
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  • AlbanyBride33AlbanyBride33 member
    Yes!  Get the angelcare monitor.  I don't care what anyone else says about it, it gave me piece of mind and I've slept soundly ever since!
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  • EclypzeEclypze member

    Oh i totally understand!  DH thinks i'm overboard protective and gets kind of mad when i think something is a potential harm, but too bad.

    DD is in our room in her PnP, like a pp i have no idea what i'm going to do when she's across the house in her own room..not like the house is big or anything.  I getup a few times a night to peek in on her (and use the potty!)

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