1st Trimester

Alright, I get it damn (Rant)

OK, so I'm not married, not engaged yet and I'm having a baby ::Looks at co-workers and other judgemental people in annoyance::

I am however, in a serious relationship, financially capable and a responsible adult. I don't think my choice to keep my baby and be happy about it is going to destroy the reputation of the company I work for- or result in the end of the world, as some of you may believe to be true.

I have never been happier and felt so amazing about something in my life- This really is the best feeling I've ever had- it's indescribable.

STOP FREAKING RAINING ON MY PARADE!!!!!

Re: Alright, I get it damn (Rant)

  • Amen! You tell them!
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  • That sucks that people have to pass judgment!  It's hard not to get fired up about it.  Keep your positive attitude and hopefully others will follow along in time.  By the way, what type of place do you work that they would care so much you aren't married?  Maybe I see it so much that most people wouldn't think anything of it!
  • I'm sorry that you work with tards... :(

    You rock, they suck, just keep that in mind!

  • I agree people suck
  • You do rock! just tell your self those people are friggin Lame. Because they are!!!

  • Well just ignore everyone who gives you a hard time about it then.  My girlfriend is in the same position as you and people have also been giving her a hard time.  I think it is stupid that people think that giving you a hard time instead of supporting and helping you is somehow productive, it's sad.  Good luck!
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  • F them!   Ugh!

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  • ::gasps:: Oh my god! You are not married?!?!

    What the fu?k does it matter whether youre married or not? People should mind there own business.

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  • I understand where you are coming from!!  We were not married or engaged at the time when we got the BFP, and no one really seemed to care. However, a couple weeks later we decided to get engaged (without a "real" ring, though) and are planning a wedding for July 2010....and NOW people are coming out of the woodwork asking "why wait that long?" Are you freaking kidding me? 1) I want to look decent in my dress 2) I want to drink a glass of wine or three at my wedding 3) summer wedding + PG lady = not a good idea 4) It is about me and DF NOT about the baby....I mean the baby will be a wonderful addition, but we loved each other before 5) Um, I am in no mood to plan an event like a wedding right now!

    Sorry, if I went of on a tangent with this topic...it gets me a bit riled up too!!  GL!!

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  • Smile!  You will provide your baby with a loving mother.  Plenty of babies never get that gift.  If you need someone to come by and crack heads, let me know!
  • Its a bummer that people feel the need to judge each other. When I was planning my wedding I got on the nest boards and posted about an issue I was having... some of the girls there tore me to shreds. Copied and posted my post and some choice comments all over my profile and wow it tore me apart. I hope this turns out to be a more supportive environment than that was!

     Good luck and more power to you! I think it is more respectable that you are keeping the baby and being responsible. Forget those other people and enjoy this time. !! 

     Congrats!

  • funny thing is, i bet you're going to be a much better parent than some of those other married and engaged people.
  • I appreciate all your responses ladies- Glad I have a group of people on my side :)

     

    And to answer someone's previous question- I have no clue why my marital status would tarnish my companies reputation- I'm not even really anyone important I just work in the HR/Recruiting Dept... so I have no clue why someone brought that up to me hahaha

  • Good for you for not feeling marriage pressure.  You will be a great Mom and if marriage is in your future you will take that step when it's right for you.  I've known a few people who've made the shotgun wedding mistake just to please family etc...and many of them are no longer married! 

    Be happy and don't listen to anyone!

  • By BFF was a teacher, unmarried, in a serious relationship when she got pregnant.  She was careful in how she made the announcement to her students (5th graders) but all in all it was well received and the rest of the staff was happy for her.  Her and her boyfriend (now FI) just bought a house together and all is well.  Their son is 17 months old and they haven't rushed out to get married.  Thankfully and luckily if anyone has judged them and their choices they've kept it to themselves.  

    I think it's ridiculous that anyone would judge you.  You're an adult and are happy to be pregnant and am sure you and your boyfriend will make wonderful parents.  Screw whoever is judging you! 

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  • High Five to you girl! 

     It just irks me to no end that people think it's their business what other people do.  And besides, I know plenty of married folks having babies that have problems too. 

  • If you work with HR people, they should know that treating you poorly, expressing any negative judgment about your pregnancy violated Federal law.  Stick that up their poopers.

    Congratulations on choosing to keep your baby and I wish you the best.  You will continue to face judgment.  But we all do, all the time, about everything we do.  Heck, I am personally quite judgmental myself.  It's cool that you are so happy and feel amazing.  Screw those assclowns at work.

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