Big U/S tomorrow...decision time.

Sunny70 · March 2009

To find out, or not to find out? I don't know what I want to do. My husband is no help at all, he just teases me that I won't be able to not find out. I guess I want to know too I just am not sure I want to tell everyone I meet the sex of my little one floating around inside of me, it seems like such a personal thing. I am sure that sounds weird but it feels like a really intimate question like "How much money do you make?". I guess I am feeling really vulnerable overall lately, and it makes me a little guarded, if not outright defensive.

I don't really want to wait, and DH has no opinion on it either way so I guess I will find out but I don't feel exited about it. Why not? Did any of you go through this? How did you decide what to do?

iluvtom · March 2009

Good luck, I had my amnio on Tuesday and cannot wait to find out, I respect those who wait but I could not. GL and i hope the sono goes well

robynlesley · March 2009

I'm a week behind you in my pregnancy and my big u/s is next Friday. I'm glad I've decided that I want to know?I think it would be harder for me if I was on the fence. But I want to know NOW. LOL!

Before I got pregnant, I always said I wanted to be surprised and that there are few surprises left in life. That's definitely a way to go. But I want to prepare (paint the bedroom, register for either girl or boy things) and be able to call my baby by name (though not in public, we're not sharing the name with family/friends). I want that personalization.

Go with your gut. If you want to know?find out. If not... no harm in waiting.

Jens38 · March 2009

You will be surprised as to the gender regardless of whether you find out at birth or at the ultrasound! Your surprise will just come a bit earlier.

You could find out and not tell people. A friend of mine did that. We found out and told people but we are keeping the name secret until the birth.

tlc7068 · March 2009

We decided to wait. Before we got pregnant I wanted to know. But the closer it got to our big u/s i didn't. my dh and i decided to not find out. it is killing our families and friends. they all wanted to know. my doc doesn't even know. the hospital and high risk ob know. they took it off the report to my doc so she wouldn't accidently tell us. Now there are days i want to know. i heard it helps you get thru labor if you don't know. not sure how true that is. we are going with a zoo theme in the baby's room. good luck with your decision.

ChristineNYC · March 2009

I think any of you who were able to wait deserve a round of applause. I have ZERO patience, and I wanted names picked out before our ultrasound so I knew what to call him or her as we were leaving the doctor! LOL!

If you decide to find out - let us know???? pulleeeeeze?

Have fun either way seeing the little monkey!

Christine

funchicken · March 2009

We wanted to find out, but Stella was being modest, so the ultrasound tech couldn't tell. We ended up having to wait anyway.

You could always find out and just keep it between the two of you.

pahokie · March 2009

I wanted to find out but not tell anyone, but DH said he would not be able to resist telling his family & friends, so we decided not to find out. DH has a guess after our big u/s, but that's all we have.

A few people gave me a hard time when I said we weren't finding out, but most of our family has been cool about it. They'll all find out eventually!

chiromommyMichelle · March 2009

I am definitely hoping that the little one cooperates and we can find out. It matters quite a bit to me, but for a different reason: I have a history of very large babies, and since a girl is likely to be somewhat smaller it increases my chances of my dr cooperating with my VBAC wishes. That is the only reason I'm HOPING for a girl, but whatever it is, I'll be happy!

edbetsy1 · March 2009

My husband and I both wanted to know, my little guy was not being nice to the tech and my us appt ended up being an all day appt. He finally decided around 8:30pm he was tired of playing peek-a-boo that my doctor was finally able to see what we were having. We wanted to know so we knew how to decorate the nursery, adding items to the registry.

NewMrs07 · March 2009

Well, if you really want to find out, you could, just not tell anyone at the office. Tell them it's a surprise. Personally, I can't wait to find out. DH wouldn't mind waiting but I do! I waited long enough to get pregnant and I want to find out so I can better bond with the baby and pick a name. GL today!

ml0904 · March 2009

We want to find out and there is no way DH could resist telling people, he told everyone at work the morning we had a + hpt. He has also told everyone the names. I am ok with it, everyone is so excited for us that it doesn't bother me.

We have our big u/s on April 13, 4 weeks from Monday and I am driving myself crazy waiting.

Moiselle · March 2009

Hi neighbor! Side Q: are you delivering at UCLA Ronald Reagan? I am due on 7/27.

Well,if you think its too personal to tell people, why dont you find out and tell everyone that its a surprise? And coming from LA, I totally understand the "How much money you make" question. Even though they dont ask, you know they still want to know.

I found out bc I cannot stand suspense and not knowing and now its totally real for me. I am happy that I did, bc I did not feel as connected as I do now. And now that hubby knows its a girl, he kisses my belly before he goes to work and every night. Its really cute.

Sunny70 · March 2009

Thank you ladies! I am starting to get exited, we'll see if the little pickle will show off a pickle or not - ha ha!

Moiselle - I am not sure where yet, I think UCLA in Santa Monica or St. John's, depending on which one my insurance company is covering by then. I like UCLA way better though.

BTW 7/27 is my wedding anniversary!

Puckchick07 · March 2009

I always knew I wouldn't want to find out the gender of the baby until after he/she is born. It hasn't been hard for me or my husband to not know, and usually I ruin any surprises!!!

I feel this is the greatest surprise I can get in life, and the joy of hearing "it's a boy/girl" after a long labor is what I look forward to.

matt and lori · March 2009

It's funny, this is one of the first questions everyone seems to ask when you tell them that you're expecting. "how are you feeling" followed by "are you gonna find out". My husband really does not want to know, and therefore does not want me to find out. I, however, really do want to know. I think it is a little bit of my type-A personality -if the info is available, I want to know it,so I can make decisions - nursery decorating, clothing, name choosing etc. Plus, I think what some ladies said above about making it easier to bond definitely seems like it would be true for me. I switch back and forth between he, she, and it. It would be nice to have an identity for the little green olive inside me (week 9 is a green olive... next week is a prune -yay!). But I've got several weeks until I will have that appointment. First comes all the choices about which testing to do - CVS, Amnio, etc. I figure I will probably find out and just not tell DH - but I'm sure he'll figure it out.

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