Wow! Time changes things! On having more than one kid...

thatgirlang · March 2009

Back in the day, I considered myself to be a member of the "one and done" club on Parenting. I just found this post from July 2007 (I had it saved to remind myself!) where someone asked us to explain why we were only having one child. I am obviously not in the club anymore. LOL. It was so weird to read this as I sit here now, so excited about another baby...

Here's my response!

I am pretty sure I am one and done. Basically, while I love DS so much, I can't think of any part of the past couple of years that I would really want to do again. I mean, of course I love watching him grow up and being with him! But I mean- pregnancy, bottles, feeding every two hours, sleep deprivation, pacifiers, formula, etc.. all THAT stuff. I have no interest in doing that stuff again with another baby. More than anything, my pregnancy was just awful and I don't want to put myself OR DH through that again.

Then, there are financial reasons. Kids are expensive!

And so many things are easier- traveling, getting a sitter, shopping (when I see moms at the store with 3 kids asking for things, fighting with eachother, going separate ways etc it does not appeal to me!), being involved in school, extra curricular activities etc, spending quality time with spouse (only one kid to get in bed! Or when he is older and visiting friends or family. Instant QT! How often do parents of 3+ "get rid" of all of them at once! LOL) Lots of things like that occur to me.

I am an only child and I loved it, with the exception of maybe a two year phase, where I wanted a younger brother. Definitely, as a teen and young adult I enjoyed not having to share the resources! And seriously, it is hard. My parents paid for me to go to college and it was hard enough just to do that for ME alone.

I could go on and on but at the end of the day, I see it like this- You know how some women just don't want kids and they have reasons they can list but basically in their hearts they just don't feel like motherhood is for them? Well, I feel that way about having more than one child. I have always wanted to be a mom and it is the role I am most proud of... but somehow I just don't feel that having more than one is for me.

Guess I've learned that "never say never" lesson!

DonnysBride09 · March 2009

hahaha, lesson learned !

Suparstarz714 · March 2009

I guess time did change your mind! I hope DH changes his mind too, he thinks he is going to be a one and done too, but I REALLY want another baby after DS is about 2. This shows there really is hope for a second baby. :-) Thanks for posting.

taelir · March 2009

I hear ya!

I swore I would never 1) get married again; and 2) have more kids.

Boy, I really kept to BOTH of those. Then again, I wouldn't change any of this for the world

Abc123 · March 2009

I get nervous when I start remembering the loss of sleep, and the feedings, and the diapers. OH MY! I am so excited for this baby, but I think it's so true that sometimes things get blocked out when you just really don't want to remember them. Ha ha.

thatgirlang · March 2009

Suparstarz714:

I guess time did change your mind! I hope DH changes his mind too, he thinks he is going to be a one and done too, but I REALLY want another baby after DS is about 2. This shows there really is hope for a second baby. :-) Thanks for posting.

Yeah, you never know! DH and I were very much in agreement for a long time on not having more... but in the end, HE was the one that started making comments here and there about having another. After saying "No way!" to everyone who asked. Now he is SO excited. Smile

thatgirlang · March 2009

AlenaS:
I get nervous when I start remembering the loss of sleep, and the feedings, and the diapers. OH MY! I am so excited for this baby, but I think it's so true that sometimes things get blocked out when you just really don't want to remember them. Ha ha.

Yeah, that part still makes me nervous! I am excited to meet and love a new baby... but DS is so independent right now! What will I do with a helples newborn? LOL

jaxgev · March 2009

We're on the opposite end of the spectrum. DH and I want a litter (at least 5 kids) but I think we'll really go with fewer. All I know is the more I can have at once the better. Why is it that puppies can have litters but we can't?

You think you'll go for a third?