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NBR: Advice on whether to get another boxer?

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Ok - to make a long story short, we lost our sweet, amazing boxer, Max, in November very suddenly and unexpectedly (boxer cardiomyopathy). He was only 5 years old and our first baby before DD came along. He was the most loving, well-behaved dog and I miss him so much every day. I still cry when I see his picture or DD asks where "Maxers" is at (her name for him) - I'm bawling as I type this.

Well, my DH originally said he thought it'd be a good idea to get another this spring/summer - possibly for DD's birthday nexth month. We got Max from a rescue and wanted to use them again so I filled out another application and talked to the lady in Jan. She just called and said she has a 9 month old that she thinks would be perfect for us - best thing is he is already house/potty trained, neutered, no heart worm and very sweet. So we wouldn't have to do any of that puppy stuff, which would be perfect. I call my husband all excited and he says NO, I don't think we should get a dog now with the baby coming. It's going to be too much. I am not due until october, which would give us 8 months with the dog and he is already pretty much trained, so he would definitely be adjusted by then.

I really, really want another boxer and I know if we don't get one now it will be years until we get a dog because DH won't want to get one the first year of baby's life. I'm so mad and he doesn't seem to want to budge. We have to look at the dog tonight b/c she has 4 other people interested. What are your thoughts...do you think it is best to wait? Should I go look at the dog w/o DH? Ugh........I feel like this dog was meant for us...he even has the name we talked about using when we got another boxer.

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  • Bleeding_HeartBleeding_Heart member

    Undoubtedly, yes.

    You at least owe it to yourself (not to mention the homeless Boxer baby) to go meet him. ?Maybe you guys won't click! ?But, maybe you'll realize that he's a perfect match for your family.

    I think the fact that he's an older puppy - and already house trained is great. ?Plus, its not like your due in a month or 2. ?You still have a long ways to go for your family to adjust to this guy before the new little baby comes. ??

    For me its a no brainer. ?I would definitely go meet him. ?I do think your husband should go with. ?Besides the rescue probably won't adopt without everyone signing off on the pup anyhow. ?

    Would this rescue consider the option of fostering to adopt? ?This way you can live with the dog in your home (for a matter of weeks) and decide when the term is up if its going to work out. ?--this is the method I would prefer for your situation. ?

    A 9 month old Boxer has got to be one of the easiest dogs to find a home for, so if it doesn't work out with you guys and you decide not to adopt and the end of the fostering stint, the rescue would assuredly be able to find someone else to adopt him.

    PS, I want to see a photo of him!!?

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  • nellieboonellieboo
    I'm so sorry about your Max :(  We have a 9 month old boxer and he is sweet and such a good dog I can't imagine the day when he won't be here. I know it will be tough with a baby and dog, but I think it is worth it and good for the kids to have around. Plus, boxers are so gentle and protective. Sounds like this one was meant to be with your family! And if he is already trained, why not? He will be older when your little one is born. Does bribery work for your DH?? GL, I hope he changes his mind!
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  • dmsmthdmsmth member

    In most cases, I say no, but you are getting an older puppy who is all ready potty trained and when your baby arrives the dog will be 1.5 years old.  8 months is planty time to train teh dog to sit, etc. and to mind his manners.  I would agree w/ your dh if the baby was due in a few months, but i really think you would be ok.

    And who knows, maybe take him to look at the dog expressing going to look does not mean you are committing and when he sees the dog he or you will change your minds.  You never know unless you visit with the dog!

    Go for it. 

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  • LindseyS0504LindseyS0504
    Oh, I would totally get the dog. It sounds all like it's meant to be! You have plenty of time until October to get used to the dog, and get DD used to the dog. I like the idea of seeing if you could foster the dog for a few weeks. I wouldn't be able to pass up the opportunity!
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  • a2ta2t member
    Thanks so much for all of your advice....my DH is being a butt. I'm trying to convince him to at least go look at the dog and honestly if he doesn't want to, I think I'm going on my own with DD. I just feel in my gut like he is meant to be ours. The lady said she has 4 other people interested, but she wants us to see him first since she knows us and we've adopted from her before. So I have to let her know ASAP if we're coming tonight and she is telling the other people they have to wait. how nice is that? And if we don't go tonight, he will be gone. Boxers don't last long when up for adoption. I will send a pic if we go take a look at him. He is brindle and our max was fawn. And the fostering thing is a good idea....I may ask about that. I don't think we'd be able to adopt if DH doesn't agree to it either, so I hope he comes around.
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  • Bleeding_HeartBleeding_Heart member

    Aww, I love brindle boxers:) ?Well, I love all boxers. ?I have a fawn and a brindle and I WANT a white and a reverse brindle too!!

    I definitely think you should go meet him and discuss the fostering to adopt. ?I'll be waiting to see a photo of him later:)?

    PS, thanks for rescuing! ?I hate seeing people buy from breeders.?

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  • Rossi17Rossi17 member
    I would meet him. I think that you will know whether he is the pup for you when you are face to face. It's nice having a dog around. I would try to get him acclimated to lots of children and babies, to make sure he is ready for your baby. What a great way to get exercise, too! I come home really tired from work, but one look from my dog's big brown sad eyes, and I feel like I have to take her for a walk. And eight months is definitely a long time to get to know a new dog.
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