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3rd Trimester
Doing project on "Myths about pregnant women". Please help by responding! TIA! :)
So like many mommies on here, i'm also a full time student... I was told to give a presentation on something that applies to me.... well i decided to do my project on "Myths about pregnant women"
my top myths are:
1. Pregnant women don't mind people rubbing on their bellies.
2. Pregnant women love unsolicited advice.
3. Pregnant women don't mind weight comments.
[if you can think of a better myth please tell me and include an example of why you don't like it.]
Please is any of these myths apply to your life please give me a quote regarding your experience or your feelings towards it, and your first name just to make my sources section legit.
Thanks for your help!!!!This discussion has been closed.
Re: Doing project on "Myths about pregnant women". Please help by responding! TIA! :)
I hate it when people tell me I should be eating for two because I'm pregnant.
Yes, I am supposed to add 300 more calories, but I am not eating for two adults.
myth: we love answering any questions you may have about my pregnancy, my body , and my personal choices...
i dont mind talkin to ya'll abuot it...but anyone else...stfu
My first name is Jennifer. Good choices for top myths. I've had all 3 apply to me at time or another.
1. I would be creeped out if a complete stranger did this. People I know have done this but only after asking. Pregnant women are not public property.
2. I hate this, especially hearing outdated advice from 20+ years ago and being told, "Well, my children survived my doing XYZ so it must be okay." Specifically, I've heard this from both my mom and my MIL about not having quilts, etc., in the cribs to prevent SIDS.
3. Please. As if we're not self-conscious enough. Being told you're too big is just plain rude, and being told you're so small makes you wonder if you're gaining enough weight for the baby.
Here's my contribution:
4. Pregnant women love hearing about how they need to catch up on their sleep now and how their lives are going to be awful once their babies arive.
My experience with this: Um, I'm still working full time so, no, I can't just nap in the middle of the day and under what other circumstances is it considered acceptable to try make someone who's already not feeling well feel even worse.
getting asked all the time "how are you feeling?" maybe b/c this pregnancy has been a breeze.
also, having people think that i'm suddenly useless now that I'm pregnant.. i was doing shipping&receiving before going on mat leave and everyone was trying to be nice and do my job for me, which i was completely capable of doing! ;-)
Pregnant women are always serene and would never strangle clerks.
Calling pregnant women "big" is okay.
Pregnant women don't feel sexy.
Pregnant women can't have ANY caffiene.
Pregnant women are helpless.
3. pg women dont mind weight comments...
I am one of those women who barely look pg. At 9 months pg I havent had ONE stranger ask me about my pg the entire time because they assume I am just fat not pg. But my friends and family, on the other hand, annoy the crap outta me about my size. They tell me how lucky I am that I am not so large and how easy it must be for me. Just because I havent gained 40lbs and dont have a beach ball tucked under my shirt doesnt mean its easy to lug around the extra weight of my ginormo boobs and slightyly protruding belly! Both get in the way and both kill my back (and make it hard to sleep, eat, breath or make it hard to find clothing! etc etc)!!
-Sarah
HTH ^_^
Yep, that one. My FIL never thinks I'm eating enough. . . and I've gained 40 pounds so far. Dumbass.
Honestly, I dont think any of the things you posted are "Myths" about pregnant women. Sure they are annoying and happen constantly, but when I think of "myths" I think things like- all pregnant woman are sick in the beginning; Sickness always goes away after the first trimester; all of the old wives tales (annoying) like babies heartrate and how you carry the baby predicts the sex.
Not saying you should change your content but maybe change the title of your presentation?
Trying for #2 since July 2010
BFP 8/1/10, missed m/c, D&C 9/15/10.
BFP 1/8/11, chemical pregnancy.
BFP 3/4/11, measured behind all along, no more HB 4/18/11. D&C 4/29/11. HCG didn't drop, Repeat D&C 6/17/11; confirmed molar pregnancy 6/23/11.
Forced break, including two Hysteroscopies in October to remove retained tissue.
BFP 12/29/11! Betas @ 10 dpo = 85, 14 dpo= 498, 22 dpo = 7242
Heard HB 1/24/12. 144 bpm!
Luca Rose born 9/9/12! More than worth the wait!
maybe "interesting advice on dealing with pregnant women."
i agree with PP's comments.
It is not ok to say to a preg woman "you're HUGE!!"
Don't reach out and put your hands on my belly, it is not public property...
Dont tell me to get my sleep now..i havent had a good nights sleep in awhile...I know i need sleep and I try to get it...but its impossible with nerve pain and a large belly...
And dont keep telling me "when i was preg"...no two pregnancies are the same..
TOUCHING BELLY ? I think touching of the stomach is one of the most annoying points. For example at my shower, my SIL comes running up to me out of no where (she?s weird to begin with) asking ?is he moving!!?. Even if he was, I wouldn?t tell her ? or anyone else at the shower - for fear of a mass belly rubbing.
Talk about weight gain ? I personally don?t have a problem talking about weight gain ? but I get the feeling that most pregnant women aren?t happy talking about it either way (you?re gained so much! Or haven?t gained any weight!) ? it?s best just to avoid the topic all together.
Other myths that may apply:
1. Cravings. Other than wanting ice cream to sooth my heartburn there?s not one craving I?ve had (especially not the weird ones).
2. Emotional. I?ve cried twice that I can think of in my 33 weeks of pregnancy. The first was before I even found out I was pregnant and I heard a song that reminded me of my dog that had just died. The second being last night due to stress at work. Both seem like pretty legit reasons to me.
3. All pregnancies are alike. How many times have you been approached by someone who compares you to themselves, their wives, their niece, their granddaughter, their sister ? whomever? I always politely listen but can?t help but think ?just because your wife ate pop tarts for dinner doesn?t mean I will!?
Some of my favorite myths...
1) The water always breaking first. The instructor at our childbirth class said this only happens about 8% of the time.
2) My favorite - the "honey, it's time" conversation! Movies portray labor as a wife waking a husband up in the middle of the night, them rushing immediately to the hospital and having the baby within a couple of hours. This bugs me cause people always look at me at work or at the gym like I'll go into labor any minute and have a baby immediately after, though realistically contractions can last for hours before you go into stage 2/stage 3 labor.
3) That the baby kicking is a magical, one time experience ("ooh look, the baby kicked!"). I don't know about you guys, but I think I've got a soccer player in my stomach and it's not always a great feeling (though most days it's pretty cool)!
4) It's love at first sight when you see your baby. This being my first, I don't know what it feels like when you first see your baby. I'm sure it's amazing, but many Moms have told me that love takes time and most of all you're just exhausted after labor.
Definitely agree with all the others posted above. Good luck with your presentation!! IMO it's a great topic and I wish more people would learn about what it's like to really be pregnant and have a baby before offering advice!