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Who host's a baby shower
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Blair bought up a great point, some people find it odd that the "new grandparents" host a baby shower and that it should be friends ect..
In my area, and really as long as I have ever known it, the way it works is:
For a wedding, the bridal party hosts the bridal shower.. Mother's are NOT involved..
For a baby shower, the mother's of the expecting mother & father host the baby shower....
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Re: Who host's a baby shower
I was raised that either a sister, cousin, friend, friend of her mother, etc throws bridal & baby showers.
The bride/mom-to-be and her mother/MIL are never involved.
It's a cultural thing. Showers hosted by friends are usually very small and for other friends. The bigger showers in my family are the ones that are hosted by the grandparents.
I don't think I've ever been to a shower of a family member that was hosted by a friend of the mom-to-be.
Also I see bridal showers as something entirely different from a baby shower. Bridal showers should be hosted by the bridal party IMO
I've only been to two baby showers in my adult life but they have both been hosted by the "grandmas-to-be".
As for the bridal showers, I've only been to one of those in my adult life (besides my own), and it was hosted by a family friend of the bride's. One of my bridal showers was hosted by my mom & aunts and the other was hosted by MIL and a family friend. I've never heard of the bridal party hosting the bridal shower, only the bachelorette party, lol. Weird!
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On my side of the family its being held at my mom's and my BF, a family friend and the step-G-GTB are hosting it. So I guess my mom would also be included since she's the venue. On the IL side my MIL and her BF are hosting it from what I understand. She also did my bridal shower for that side, I don't know why she has to do everything separate. Its weird. She's british though. For the shower in the state I live in, my cousin is throwing it.
I always thought that the mother threw the babyshower.... but my mom is a selfish b!tch who isn't ready to be a grandma, so she hasn't spoken to me since I got pg.
DH's aunt is going to throw one for us.
I've always heard that immediate family of the person being "showered" should not host (ie- sisters/ moms of the bride/ mom-to-be) because it's seen as "gift grabby". That may just be a regional thing or something of the past. Honestly, I don't really usually care who is hosting, that is just what I've heard is "proper".
Two of my best friends, my cousin and mom are doing mine, so its going to be friends and family. How many people is too many? I think they invited like 60
Why would the grandparents not host the shower?!
I think anyone can host as long as it's not the parents to be
as i do think bridal showers are to be given by the bridal party not the parents~ i think that its free game for a baby shower~ i actually have only been to one shower that was NOT thrown by the mother and that was still a relative that held the shower...
no one cares anymore and if you truly are gonna be that picky about proper ettiquette then don't go to the shower then~ the main purpose is to celebrate a new life and to help out the mother to be with things that she will need for the baby~ seriously... come on now
who cares?!?!?! would be that offended if you best friend's shower was held by her mother not a friend? if so...then you are not true friends...
I can honestly and wholeheartedly say that I wouldn't be offended if my best friend's mom threw her shower. Because it would never never happen so it's not even part of my world. I threw her shower in September. I could say all day long that moms and MILs throwing shower is tacky and against the etiquette rules - but it's honestly a situation that I've never come across because it's just. not. done.
it's just not done where you are from~ i have been to many baby showers and like i said before, all of them but one has been thrown by the mother-to-be's mother... it's not taboo where i am from~ BUT let's say for agruments sake, your best friend's mother threw the shower~ would you honestly be offended? i don't think so... so who cares? it's JMO and like i said, it's different depending on where you live i suppose (like blair mentioned in a recent post)...
I totally think it's where you live. When the "who hosts the shower" question comes up, I don't flatly say it's tacky, I say that HERE it's tacky. If it's not taboo where you are, then fine. HERE, it's tacky. I'm aware that there's a whole wide world outside of the South that has thrown old traditions to the wind or has different traditions...but I don't live in it.
Oh yes, you. It's "silly and passe" right. A tradition many people follow...way to go.
ditto, ditto, dittos.
Same here.
Nothing wrong with following a tradition. But to judge others who don't - to call them "tacky" b/c they don't appreciate a practice that's been long abandonned (or worse - to snidely imply that "it's just.not.done. in my area." Ummm...in Kenutcky? Louisinana?? Right....these are surely states renowed as being pillars of grace and style...) is about as low-brow as it gets.
There's a reason that ettiquette exists. It's purpose is to ensure that people act civilly and graciously. To turn your nose up at someone's mother who - with the best of intentions and taste - wants to throw her daughter a shower (baby,bridal - who cares!) is anything but civil or gracious. But hey, whatever makes you feel superior...
Mine will most likely be planned by my sister and my mom. My sister is only 22, and still in college, so she doesn't have the means to pull the whole thing off herself.
In my family, it's usually the siblings that do most of the planning, but the moms are often involved in the process as well.
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