annoying co worker vent ...

emma9 · March 2009

so I was at work today and a co worker was lamenting over the fact that she's turning 50 and "feels so old" etc ...I commented on all the positive stuff she has in her life , a successful teaching career , 2 grown kids who are also are healthy & happy - her son is a dr., her daughter is in law school...and how proud she should be of all that she's done

and then I teasingly commented "if it will make you feel better by the time I'm 50 - my child will be turning 12 or 13 ( I'll be 37 in the fall ) would you want to be dealing with a teenager right now ? my co worker laughed ...

Then - another co worker ( who knows about the m/c and our TTC ) speaks up and says "you know, my sister in law was trying to get PG and her husband died of cancer ...she never got the chance to have children" then she looks right at me and says "you should also be lucky for what you have"

whoa ! I didn't think I was whining....( maybe just a little but still

I thought that comment was a bit much !!

thanks for l etting me vent !

sunshine610 · March 2009

I am continually amazed by the things coworkers think it is okay to say. One of the biggest things this experience has taught me is that you never know what anyone's going through. For her to make that comment to you and somehow imply that her sister in law's situation is "worse", or that there is even a reason to compare them, is totally nuts!!

Mrsjulybride · March 2009

Yes, that woman clearly has some anger issues of her own and used your situation to release some of that bitterness. I hope you said something cheeky back, like ?Yes, we all have things to be grateful for.? Or something along those lines. I honestly don?t think that people realize how a pg loss affects you or that you don?t just get over it with time. Totally uncalled for!

ArcticFox · March 2009

Someone will always have something "worse" to trump a situation with, but I think that was a little much. You were saying it lightly, and for the other co-worker to bring up someone's death was a little much!

My co-worker went through a divorce and she was always b*tching to me about how no one has the right to complain about anything, etc.. I was like umm, both my parents died a few years ago, and I had a m/c this year.. like it's all relative.. but ther'es a time and place for comments!

leiastarbuck · March 2009

I know that this is nowhere near as bad as what this women said to you. ?I mean really you were trying to make her feel better about herself. ?Well I'm in the?military (Air Force)?and a co-worker of mine?recently?got deployed. ?Its all she's been talking about since last June. ?She hates her job and she's real pain in the ass. ?Well, I don't know how she found out because I don't ever really talk to her unless she talks to me first. ?But she sent me an E-mail and it started out real nice. ?And she said this "it should make you feel better to know that I hate where I am right now". ?She's working with the Army, which she asked for, because she hates our job. And I don't know why all we do is pack boxes and ship them out to where they need to go. ? Every NCO told her she wasn't going to like it and it wasn't going to be what she thought it would be but she didn't listen. ?All I kept thinking when I read the E-mail why on earth would I feel better knowing that someone else was miserable? ? ??

4jewels · March 2009

OMG! Some people are just so insensitive. I am sorry you have to got through that. After I had a m/c, a friend of mine said, "Well, at least you can get pregnant!" Ahhh... yeah, but I lost a baby, and that was and srill is painful. Some peope are just self-centered and insensitive. You didn't need that.

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