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Baby Showers
Erin Mary Ackerman
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Baby Shower Etiquette Rules:
Erin Mary Ackerman
member
in Baby Showers
Please add what you consider an immutable rule of baby shower etiquette.
1. Do not throw your own baby shower.
2. Do not give birth at the baby shower.
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Re: Baby Shower Etiquette Rules:
Clomid Cycle #1: 50mg = BFP
=Beautiful baby girl born May 23, 2009
TTC#2: BFP Cycle #1, no fertility meds!
oh, will you pretty please PIP a scanned invite that says that? I will pph you forever. I have NEVER seen anything that bad. LOVE IT!
4. No gifts please.....by the way, I'm registered at BRU
5. Do not ask guests bring a book instead of a card, a Christmas ornament, a box of diapers, AND a gift.
6. Do not ask guests to address their own TY notes. I've never, ever seen this done but I've read about it more than once on here.
Re: the types of gifts not to buy, a while ago someone on here wanted to specify on the invitation that they were not going to use any "toxic" baby products, only natural products. Like anyone was going to buy them a battery acid baby bath or Desitin with bleach.
haha. If I got an invite like that, I'd be so insulted!! Why the heck would I intentionally buy a "toxic" product?!?!
"Do not ask guests to address their own TY notes. I've never, ever seen this done but I've read about it more than once on here"
I actually like this idea, and have seen it at pretty much every shower I've gone to. That way there is NO excuse to not get my thank you note, lol. But if you hate the idea, don't blame the mom-to-be, blame the host (I did this for my sister's shower and she had no idea....my bad I guess)
That said, the showers who did this left the envelopes on a table and told people they could fill out their address if they wanted to. It wasn't a "YOU HAVE TO DO THIS OR ELSE".
Uh...yeah, i got an invite that said "NO BABY BOTTLES" on it. It also asked to bring money for a 50/50 draw...so I would add that.
Do not ask the guests to bring money....and don't have a 50/50 draw at a baby shower!
Clomid Cycle #1: 50mg = BFP
=Beautiful baby girl born May 23, 2009
TTC#2: BFP Cycle #1, no fertility meds!
While the wording is certainly not ideal (quite awful in fact), I can understand the general idea. A lot of big name baby products contain a ton of harsh chemicals, so even though you wouldn't think they're bad, they are. We specifically registered for brands we trust, and hope that our guests don't decide to purchase stuff from different companies. I'd hate for the products to go to waste, but I would never use some of the shiit they have out on store shelves.?
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I can't go back to yesterday - because I was a different person then. ~ Alice
I agree that the "no toxic products" is bad wording but I interpret it to mean we're going organic or very natural.
There are lots of additives in all sorts of baby products that some parents choose not to use.
I personally plan not to use them and I would simply donate any products I dind't want to use on my baby. But I wouldn't put it on the invite.?
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
People really do this?!?! I've never seen a 50/50 at a shower....tacky in my opinion. I understand that the concept is to help the parents but its' still tacky
What are we on? 7?
7. Your shower is a gift to you from your host. DO NOT TELL HER WHAT TO DO FOR YOUR SHOWER. Let go of your inner control freak.
Your job is to show up and smile unless someone asks you for your imput on planning the shower.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
ditto this 100%
Me too! No one had seen it done and was rather put out by it, but it made it even worse to not get a note after that!
I once got a shower invitation that stated "For every package of diapers or $10 donation you will receive a ticket for the raffle."
$10 donation ---are you kidding me???? Donation??? I mean really....
I agree with many of the pps...do not host your own shower, do not ask for specifics (although the book instead of a card thing doesn't bother me), and I detest the 50/50 drawing...set up to name the weight or the date the baby will actually be born. Not fair to those who know the family well (or already know the due date). I went to one shower that did that and I had no clue what the due date was and they would not tell me...but 1/2 the people there knew. I declined to play...and saved mysefl $5.
I don't mind the writing the address on the thank you envelope if they use it to draw the door prize. But to just hand out a bunch of envelopes because the MTB or hosstess is too lazy to write the addresses is not good, IMO.
This is how I've ALWAYS seen it done (or, anyone who wrote theirs got a prize), which is probably why I don't find it too bad.
If the shower was hosted by the MTB, I might find it rude, because it would scream "do this so I don't have to". But since it's the host requesting it, to me, it just says "Let's help the busy MTB".
Clomid Cycle #1: 50mg = BFP
=Beautiful baby girl born May 23, 2009
TTC#2: BFP Cycle #1, no fertility meds!
Yikes!!! There are no words!
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(It can actually be really troublesome)
nope it's a tacky tackfest. If they take the trouble to come to a party in your honor and bring you a gift you can find the time to address a note yourself.
Just becuase you are doing it, or you "think" it's ok, doesn't mean it's etiquette approved!
Totally!! If someone asked me to address my own thank you, that would be the last gift they received from me!
I think that's a little harsh. The HOST is asking you to do it, not the guest.
I didn't realize it was such an etiquette blunder when I had guests do it for my sister's bridal shower. She had no idea I was doing that. I would hate to think that someone judged HER for something I did.
In her case, literally half of the guest list had moved since sending out the invites (many were students) and I honestly thought I was helping the bride-to-be avoid tracking down everyone's new address...
Clomid Cycle #1: 50mg = BFP
=Beautiful baby girl born May 23, 2009
TTC#2: BFP Cycle #1, no fertility meds!
I like the idea as well.
I've been to a shower that had the attendees fill out their envelope, and I've attended showers that did not. I only received a thank you from the shower that I filled out the envelope. I, personally, think it's very convenient, and usually very well received by attendees that have sympathy for a busy mother to be. Filling out envelopes for attendees takes much more than "30 seconds" especially for those that have many guests... I read on another thread that one woman planned on over 75 people. That's insane! Filling out thank yous would take atleast a week.
If it wasn't troublesome you (or your shower hostess) to address an envelope to get these guests to come and bring you gifts, it shouldn't be troublesome for you to address an envelope to thank them!!! Maybe it's too "troublesome" for your guests to attend your shower and spend their hard-earned $$$ on a gift for you!
If you really are that busy that you can't be troubled to write out envelopes, how about doing labels for the shower invitation envelopes... just make a second copy of the labels for the thank-yous. Labels are not Emily Post approved, but I don't think they're bad at all... I've used them before. As a guest, I would much rather receive a TY in the mail with a label on it then to receive a thank you note with my own handwriting!!
Me either! A 50/50 is usually for a fund-raiser or a charitable cause... this is as tacky as all get-out!