"Have you considered talking to a therapist?"

Tiff_Andy · March 2009

I posted a question on the 9 to 5 board about my current working situation adding in information about my m/c because it was relevent to the question. One of the responses that I received (it was a nice response, don't get me wrong, and I don't think she meant it in a bad way) said maybe I needed to consider talking to a therapist if my m/c had impacted my life to this extent.
I don't know why, but I feel very offended by this statement... Obviously, I don't know her story or if she has ever gone through a m/c... but to say to something that they need to seek therapy is a little upsetting.

Well, I asked for their opinions over there and I guess that is what I got :-(

Mrs.EmmaLouise · March 2009

Im sorry thats the answer you got. Only you know if you need to see someone, and the though of that can be scary.

I was having lots of stress with my job and had a m/c. After a while of not moving on when I thought I should be (about two months, of still at square one) and started to see a therapist. It has helped tons. Most of the time I vent about work, but we also talk about my m/c and plans for the future. While i'm sure her comment wasnt meant to be hurtful, but helpful, you may want to consider it. I never thought I would need a therapist, and grew up thinking it was for 'quitters', but I love it. If you have any questions on it you can PM me or page me. ((BIG HUGS))

rohrs55 · March 2009

I am a psychotherapist, and just because you m/c doesn't mean you need a therapist. For a while any response to such a loss is normal, in most cases, no matter what it looks like. Some people say it is "a sane response to an insane situation." But, a therapist can help you to experience the grief yet be able to function in your day to day activities. It is possible this person has had a therapist and found it helpful, so they are just trying to pass on the advice. If you find more and more people saying this to you, they may be seeing something that you are not, and it might be helpful to talk to someone. Very high functioning people see therapists just to learn more about themselves. Therapy is definitely NOT just for 'crazy' people. My guess is, depending on where you live, you could find a therapist who specializes in grief and loss or in fertility/ women's issues. Best of luck to you.

MrsLynneaY · March 2009

I understand you being offended by that statement (it would have hurt my feelings as well) I think maybe to take it in perspective, if she has or does see a therapist it probably wouldn't have seemed like bad advice to her, just a normal thing to do. Also it's hard to get true intentions when people are typing rather then speaking, hopefully it was meant well but who knows.

Bethany06 · March 2009

I decided I needed to see one-but not everyone does. The grief I was going through was just too much-that on top of work stress-and I felt my mc was stressing my marriage. Going to a therapist has been the best thing I ever did. I feel like I can be totally honest with her and in the last several weeks I feel like my emotions have settled down a lot!

Again, only you can make that decision for yourself. I hope that helps! Good luck!

Operanne · March 2009

Having been helped so much by therapy in the past, seeing someone was one of the first things that went through my mind when I found out about my m/c. Perhaps that was the perspective through which the question was asked...

ibis · March 2009

Tiff, I have to tell you, that poster is a regular on one of my regular nest boards, and she is always totally patronizing to everyone. Trust me on this, that is how she treats everyone. And no, she does not know what you're going through, I'm pretty confident I can assure you of that.

I'm sorry about your whole situation - it sounds pretty stressful.?

miamicubajam · March 2009

Sorry to hear that that is the response you got and I can totally see where you feel a bit offended by it. Though I think only you can make that decision, seeing how you are coping with everything.

I am currently seeking therapy sessions myself due to my intense emotional situation and have felt that it was a great decision on my part. There is nothing to fear but I see it helpful if it's something that is life changing and if you see your depression exceeding to a point that time will not heal. JMHO

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