Moms with 2 or more

mommyaug06 · March 2009

How much help did you have when you returned home from the hospital? Im having a csection. I have a 2 and half year old and DH does not have much time off of work. I dont know whether or not to ask for help.

AnnapolisLari · March 2009

ALWAYS ask for help. I had some kind of assistance -- mom or mh -- for 3 weeks after this c/s. I was not allowed to lift ds for 6 weeks. I did it way earlier and paid for it with a longer recovery.

Alexandra*sMom · March 2009

None. Smile

I did not have c-sect though. DH had to call in sick for the birth - he was off 6 days including the night of my induction.

Zenya · March 2009

I had a vaginal delivery but DH was off for a week and then I was on my own. It was totally fine but w/a c-section I would be more concerned.

lizlemon77 · March 2009

Ask for help. My DH was home for one week after we got home from the hospital. I also had a c/s. After that my IL's or my dad came over every day for at least another week. I think I could have done it on my own if I had to but it was nice to have someone else there so that I could shower, nap and fix lunch. It was also really nice to have someone else to play with my older DD who was 15 months at the time.

Zoe0520 · March 2009

If help is available..by all means ask! My DH was home for a week when we got home from the hospital. After that I was on my own. I got a c/s and recovery actually wasn't too bad (faster than my first). I think we did ok.

shopgirl78 · March 2009

no c-section but I had help for just under a week

MichelleWP · March 2009

None - our families left right after we got home from the hospital each time. I was fine, easy vaginal deliveries though. I would ask if I were you, wouldn't hurt.

MarchMom06 · March 2009

I had an easy delivery with DS#2, and DH stayed home for 2 or 3 days, I think. My parents came for the delivery & left the next day. I was on my own after that.

LeisureSuitLauren · March 2009

I had very little help and it was bad. I know some people bounce back much easier, this was my first C- section and I really didn't do well with it. We had to end up hiring someone because we only knew very few people in the area and our families live across the country. I was finally able to care for everyone by myself around the 5 week mark, we still had someone at night until the baby was 8 weeks old though. The hardest was not being able to lift my toddler. Good luck and try to arranging lots of help if you can!

Chrisy-Wyobride · March 2009

Not much w/ #2. My DH took a couple days off & my Dad was here, but they helped w/ the 2yr old, not the baby. I didn't have a c-section though & I felt good after birth #2...much better than after #1. I bounced back fast. This time, I will only have DH I think for a couple days again...and I'll have a 4, 2 & newborn. But I feel like it will be fine.

esposa38 · March 2009

I had a horrific horrific recovery from my first c/s, so I am definitely planning on having as much help for as long as possible w/ this one. MH won't have much time off, so I am asking my mom to stay for as long as she can, and then I'm planning on hiring someone if need be. I'm anticipating at least 4-6 weeks of needing someone; if it turns out better this time (and my God, it has to) and I don't need that much help, all the better.

monkey_love · March 2009

With baby #1 I thought we'd need tons of help, but then I realized I really didn't want it. Then again, DH gets 6 weeks paternity leave, so he was home after my c/s. My MIL came a couple weeks after the baby was born, but she just cooked and vacuumed -- that was it. For Baby #2 (which will be a c/s also), DH will be taking 8 weeks off and we are not asking for help. We actually prefer people to wait until a couple of weeks after the baby is home to come over.

WantAnotherBaby · March 2009

DH went to work after a week I didn't have a csec though, I think it would have been a great help if someone could take your dc#1 off your hands for a bit & then help out with cooking & cleaning while u rest with the new baby.

kristalandphil · March 2009

If help is available, ask for it. My second section was scheduled and I had a 2 yr old at home. My DH was home for 2 weeks with the exception of a few evenings in which someone else came over. For the 2 weeks after that he took DS to my mom's (his daycare) during the day and I was home with DD. In the evenings that he was gone someone came to help me. I had an OK recovery, but could not lift DS (2 yr. old), do the laundry, vacuum, etc. for 2 weeks. Even after that I was very sore. I drove at the 2 week mark also but getting both kids in and out and lifting the seat to latch it in hurt. So if there is help available, ask for it!

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