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Wanting another baby!

HeatherhahHeatherhah member
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Well my Ds is 15 , my DD is 1 as of last week and now I am having terrible baby fever. I am going to be 36 in 9 days so time is ticking for me at least in my own head it is . My DH is 26 so he is totally fine with just my DD and DS. In his opinion DD can be his one and only biological child but I can't help but want one more. I really wouldn't want to get pregnant again right now until I can lose some weight since I am pretty over weight right now and getting pregnant again would cause a whole new set of problems like my heart and blood pressure which was an issue with my other pregnancies. I guess I am just here since I am kind of at a loss. He doesn't really want anymore and there are days that it is all I can think about. What the heck is wrong with me? I guess I should be happy with my two beautiful children and just be done but I don't know if that is what I really want. I am just really venting sorry this is so long.

Heather

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  • robynlesleyrobynlesley member

    Heather,

    I think both you and your husband need to be on the same page when it comes to having another child.  And you'll be 36? Well, it's not like that's an age cutoff. I'm 38, soon to be 39, and pregnant with my first child.

    I guess what I'm saying is give it another year. Get your weight down and get as healthy as possible. Talk to your OB and discuss your concerns about your blood pressure and heart issues. If the doctor gives the go-ahead, revisit having another child with your DH at a later time.

    While I understand time works against women, you're not ancient and do still have time for that 3rd child, if your health allows.

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  • Mango2Mango2

    Riley is beautiful!

    I totally understand where you're coming from. I think for now, focus on yourself and your health, and then talk to your DH about it once you're really in a position to TTC again. Your DH may also change his mind as DD gets older.

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    Ditto Robyn. You need to be on the same page, so just talk to your DH.

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  • sistrkatesistrkate

    I wholeheartedly agree with the first two posters.  You and your DH really need to be in the same place on this, but you still have plenty of time in my mind, both to get to that place and also to work out your health issues.  Focus on the joy that the children you already have give you, and give yourself some time to feel healthy.

     

    I completely understand your feelings about your biological clock.  I got pregnant with my first at age 40 and delivered when I was 41.  I definitely wanted two kids, and didn't think we had any time to waste getting pregnant again.  Sure enough, I was pregnant again when DS was 9 months old.  However, that pregnancy ended up being a molar pregnancy and I was on a doctor-mandated wait of a minimum of 6 months to TTC again.

     

    I felt like it was over.  I didn't think we'd ever have another.  I decided to focus on losing weight and being healthy for the sake of the child I already had.  DH and I joined Weight Watchers together and Iost 20 pounds over the next 6 months.  I felt much better, and you know what?  We were able to conceive again on our 2nd cycle trying  (at age 42!).

     

    So what I'm saying is -- focus on yourself first.  Get in a healthy spot physically, and let the rest take care of itself.  It could be a real blessing in disguise like it was for me.

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    I agree with pp's...focus on your health and then revisit having another baby.  Good Luck!
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  • HeatherhahHeatherhah member
    Thank you ladies.
    DS- Brenden born 11/13/93 Missed miscarriage on March 6, 2007 @ 9 weeks D&C on March 8th 2007. Riley Annalise born 2/25/08 ( 3 weeks early weighing 8 lbs 12.8 oz.) Chemical pregnancy 3/2010. Sydney Adriana born sleeping on 9/30/11 weighing 10lbs 3 oz at 38wks 4 days. Trinity Alivia born via c section at 36 wks 4 days weighing 9 lbs. 5.7 oz. She is our amazing rainbow baby!!! Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Lilypie First Birthday tickers PGAL buddy drvst8
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  • NewMrs07NewMrs07 member
    You and your DH need to be on the same page before you get pregnant. You still have a little time to lose the weight and convince DH. Maybe another year. Then things might look different to both of you. Don't stress about the age thing, you already had one healthy baby and many of us are older than 36 (I'm 38) and pregnant with our first child. Make sure you make the right decision for both of you, one that you won't regret later in life.
    Me: 44 DH: 42. DS born healthy at 40 weeks 8/24/09. TTC since then with no luck or ART. Surprise BFP 8/6/14... MMC @ 8 weeks 4 days... Miss you everyday sweet baby angel.
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