If your mom has passed away

Re: If your mom has passed away

• Kiba

  March 2009

  Hi!  I lost my mom about 4 years ago.  I'm sad that she never got to meet DS, but I see a lot of her in him.  I know she would have loved him.   You're very lucky to have sisters... I'm an only child and had a really hard time when she died.  Thankfully I have a couple of great friends that helped me.

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• mante member

  March 2009

  It's funny, I was going to reply to the previous posts, but I didn't want to seem like a total downer. ?I even typed a reply and didn't post it (but I did C&P - how much of a nut am I?).

  I lost my mom not quite 4 years ago. ?She always wanted grandchildren, and it makes me really sad that she never got to meet DS. ?It's gotten easier, but it's still hard sometimes. ?Especially since I have no close family; I am also an only child and none of my extended family have children either. ?All I can say is thank god for my mom group - they are sanity savers!

  Anyway, here's what I was going to say before, FWIW:

  My mom died a few years ago. ?Even though we had our rough patches, I'd love to talk to her and there are times as a first time mom really use the support. ?

  All these mom posts are making me kinda sad... but what an you do, right??Strained/nonexistent mom relationships suck.?

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• akayf member

  March 2009

  My loss is still pretty recent.   We found out mom had cancer when I was 16/17 week PG.    She was told from the start that her cancer was in advanced stage 4(something she and my dad never shared with any of us...he told us after we lost her)   My dad thinks that she held on and fought for as long as she did because she wanted to meet her 1st grandchild.   We lost her just this past July.     DS was actually born on her birthday....she would have been 60 this year.   She was in the hospital, doped up on pain meds since she had surgery the Friday before I gave birth, but she knew I was upstairs with her new grandbaby...her nurses decked out her room with It's a boy signs.    

  It's great that she got 4 months with her sunshine, but it's so sad it was only 4 months.    His first smile was at her....that is a moment that I will treasure forever....I have a pic of his big goofy grin....she's not in the pic since I was focusing on his face, but just knowing he was grinning at her...that's such a great memory.

  I'm blessed because I have a great extended family.   My aunt, who is also my godmother, lives less than 10 minutes away and she's always been like a 2nd mom to me...now more than ever.

  I've been thinking about her more than usual since Ds's birthday is going to be hard for all of us.  

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