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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Stillbirth / Late Loss / Infant Loss Check-in
This is a weekly check-in for women who have experienced a Stillbirth / Late Loss / or Infant Loss. Hopefully this will be a chance for us to connect and provide additional support on our losses with other women who understand. Anyone who has experienced this type of loss is welcome to join no matter if they are taking a break, TTC, currently PG, or have delivered a healthy baby. We sadly accept new member every week. 
Nest Name: Di&Roddy
Real Name: Diane, but goes by Di
Angel Info: Rachel Marie was born August 20, 2006, at 20w3d, as a result of an incompetent cervix.
SAL: Hayden McKenna
Nest Name: whitedress...
Real Name: Sara
Angel Info: I lost my first DD (Jenna Nicole) at 24 weeks due to pprom and lost my 3rd child despite a cercleage at 12 weeks, water broke at 18 weeks and the baby was born the next day.
SAL: I got pregnant 3 mo. after my first loss, cercleage, over a month of hospital bedrest, ptl, strict home bedrest, p-17 shots, peri twice a week, OB once a week... water leaking at 30 weeks, miracle baby at 33.6 weeks.
Nest Name: CoriNGreg
Real Name: Cori
Angel Info: Lost sweet baby girl November 2006at 17w3ddue to trisomy 18, and a big hole in her heart. Natural M/C March 2008, Blighted Ovum July 2007/
SAL: Ava Claire, born April 17, 2008.
Nest Name: kxland
Angel Info: Brook Aubrey, November 22, 2006, 22weeks. My daughter had Turners Syndrome. M/C in March 2008
Nest Name: AB&TB (formerly tinablatchford while pg with my first)
Real Name: Tina
Angel Info: Our son was confirmed missed M/C at 18w2d. He passed due to a ringed 18th chromosome.
SAL: Lincoln Christopher, born July 19, 2008.
Nest Name: banbear2
Real Name: Brandy
Angel Info: Raymond Bradley went to heaven on January 24, 2007 at 20 weeks.
Nest Name: stacey2005
Real Name: Stacey
Angel Info: Spencer Allen, March 8, 2007, at 17w5d. We believe it was a cord accident.
Nest Name: STLBride_2_Be
Real Name: Amanda
Angle Info: Addison was stillborn on March 21, 2007 at 24w5d. We also had a M/C in July 2007 and October 2007.
SAL: Jocelyn Elizabeth , born February 6, 2009.
Nest Name: bride2003
Real Name: Sheila
Angel Info: Steven Joseph delivered at home at 19 weeks on April 10, 2007 due to cervical problems unknown until day of delivery. August 2007 I traveled to Chicago to have TAC (transabdominal cerclage) permanently placed around my cervix to fix the problem. M/C February 10, 2008 at 6.5 weeks.
Nest Name: travelbug
Real Name: Bridget
Angel Info: Ciara Grace ? D&E on April 12, 2007. She had passed due to complications of Spina Bifida.
SAL: Siobhan, born September 2008.
Nest Name: Mommy2anangel (formerly amykbride)
Real Name: Amy
Angel Info: Nathaniel Martin born still at 21w5d on June 22, 2007. He was diagnosed at our 20 week U/S with Giant Omphalocele (abdominal wall defect) and a heart defect. M/C at 7w4d in 2008.
Nest Name: YukonC
Real Name: Jen
Angel Info: Delivered DD at 19 weeks on June 29, 2007 due to sever pre-eclampsia. M/C July 2008.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in May 2009.
Nest Name: mmsgal
Real Name: Nicole
Angel Info: Abigail Rose was born July 19, 2007 and lived 20 hours on complete life support before passing away July 20. She had HLPS (hypoplastic left heart syndrome) and many other small defects.
SAL: Oliver born June 2008.
Nest Name: cpsocal
Real Name: Christa
Angel Info: Leilani was lost August 14, 2007 at 18w3d due to Turners Syndrome.
Nest Name: ToraDales
Real Name: Victoria
Angel Info: Stryker was born on October 9, 2007 at 37 weeks, his kidneys weren?t working and they were 3 times the size they should have been, because of that his lungs did not have the room they needed to grow.
Nest Name: BabyLoveBug
Angel Info: My daughter passed away while I was 41w3d (2 days shy of induction) November 11, 2007.
SAL: Ava, born December 22, 2008.
Nest Name: Georgia-Peach
Angel Info: Matthew, born an angel on November 22, 2007 at 19 weeks.
Nest Name: AmberL
Real Name: Amber
Angel Info: Joshua Nicholas was born at 18w3d on December 25, 2007 due to a placental abruption. M/C 5-19-2004 at 6 weeks. M/C 5/2008.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in March 2009.
Nest Name: julesverne
Real Name: Julia
Angel Info: Jack Steward was born at 34 weeks January 16, 2008. He died January 25 due to complications of having Ebstein?s Anomaly (heart defect).
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in October 2009.
Nest Name: Dontblink
Real Name: Jessica
Angel Info: Cameron Douglas, January 11, 2008, 21 weeks, reason for loss still unknown at this time. M/C 4/2008 and 6/2008
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in May 2009.
Nest Name: HTB
Real Name: Hilary
Angel Info: Dalton was born on January 17, 2008 at 25w2d.
Nest Name: ocean75106 (formerly kroach34)
Angel Info: We lost Ava to triploidy at 19 ? weeks on January 25, 2008.
SAL: Emma, born January 2009.
Nest Name: ChelM1216
Real Name: Michele
Angel Info: Gwyniviere Emlyn and Onara Casidhe, miscarriage was discovered on February 2, 2008 and our girls were delivered on February 7, 2008. Unknown cause for M/C.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in September 2009.
Nest Name: pawleygirl
Real Name: Kristy
Angel Info: I was pregnant with twins. When I was 21 weeks, 3 days pregnant, on Valentine's Day 2008, I went to the OB for a regular appointment and they could only find one heartbeat. Ultrasound confirmed that our little girl had passed away. I continued to carry her for the next 4 months while her brother grew and happily (and sadly) our son was born healthy and I also delivered our stillborn daughter. We never found out what happened to her. I've handled it pretty well until recently.... now Valentine's Day is coming up again and I've been a basket case.... wanting to celebrate our son's first valentine's day but not being able to bring myself to even think about celebrating on such a horrible day!
SAL: JD born June 2008
Nest Name: Loops925
Real Name: Lupe
Angel Info: Our baby boy?s name was Jordan, at 41w4d I was induced. Dr. broke my water and discovered meconium. I had an emergency C/S 10 hrs later when my baby?s H/B stopped. He was born still at 8:40 am on February 17, 2008. Autopsy results confirmed that his lungs were full of meconium which caused him to not be able to breath.
SAL: Currently PG with a boy and expecting in May 2009.
Nest Name: Tams148
Real Name: Tammy
Angel Info: Grace Elizabeth, born at 21 weeks, February 27, 2008, suspected Turners Syndrome, but testing results still aren?t back. She was diagnosed at our 18 week U/S with hydrops, and died at 19 weeks.
SAL: Currently PG with a boy and expecting in March 2009.
Nest Name: Baby McCloghry
Real Name: Jilly
Angel Info: Max Kingston McCloghry ? born 23w5d at 12:05 pm and lived until 10:25 pm on February 27, 2008.
Nest Name: KristysRedBarn
Real Name: Kristy
Angel Info: Miller was born on February 29, 2008, at 17 weeks.
Nest Name: Nikki731
Real Name: Nicole
Angel Info: I delivered my baby girl on March 2, 2008 at 18w5d. I had placenta previa at 9 weeks.
Nest Name: emdaly
Real Name: Elisa
Angel Info: Caroline Rose, heart stopped on March 3, 2008. I had a D&E on March 5, 2008. She was 26 weeks but measured 23 weeks due to placental insufficiency.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in May 2009.
Nest Name: 450bnb
Real Name: Beth
Angel Info: Makenna Grace was born on March 5, 2008 and went to heaven on March 6, 2008. She had hydrops brought on by Turner Syndrome that had to be identified through and autopsy.
Nest Name: lauracg (formerly lmwVA)
Real Name: Laura
Angel Info: Baby angel Mary was born on March 8, 2007 ~ 22 weeks due to blood clot and placental abruption. M/C February 16, 2008 ~ 9 weeks. Baby angel Richard was born September 27, 2008 ~ 20 weeks as a result of an incompetent cervix.
Nest Name: Rossi17
Real Name: Rosemaria
Angel Info: Twin Boys lost at 18.5 weeks on March 2nd and 3rd, 2008. I had been bleeding on and off throughout the pregnancy. Even though I had an u/s at 11:30 am on the day everything happened, my doctor sent me on my merry way even though I complained of pain. At 2:30 pm, my water broke. Duncan Francisco was born at 8:30 pm (still, but at that point, it still is considered a mc) and Draven Lauritz was born alive at 2:30 am on March 3rd. He lived for 20 minutes. BO at 6w in April 2007.
Nest Name: Timmylulu
Real Name: Cindy
Angel Info: I delivered our son at 21w2d on March 10, 2008. We don?t know why, but I went into pre-term labor, hopefully doctors will get us some answers with the tests they will be running.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in October 2009.
Nest Name: Schmoodle
Real Name: Kathy
Angel Info: We lost our twin Doodles at 23w3d. They were born premature due to a placental abruption on March 25, 2008.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in July 2009.
Nest Name: outofcntrl82
Real Name: Rhonda
Angel Info: Baby boy had a very rare chromosomal disorder ? a partial deletion on chromosome 21 as well as a partial trisomy of chromosome 4 attached to chromosome 21. Our baby died on March 24, 2008 and was delivered on March 26.
Nest Name: mmcrocker
Real Name: Amanda
Angel Info: Discovered M/C of Baby Crocker at 18w1d due to Protein S Deficiency.
SAL: Currently PG with a girl and expecting in May 2009.
Nest Name: here4u
Angel Info: Twin B lost at 21w3d.
Nest Name: A&J06
Angel Info: Her heart stopped beating at 23 weeks May 6th, 2008. She was diagnosed with down syndrome, echogenic heart, lungs, and bowel.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in July 2009.
Nest Name: BeachBride72106
Real Name: Sarah
Angel Info: Wyatt George was stillborn May 11, 2008 at 32 weeks. We think it was a cord accident. We have since learned that I am heterozygous Factor V Leiden.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in September 2009.
Nest Name: vml14
Real Name: Vicki
Angel Info: Valerie Ann was born too early at 21 weeks on May 28, 2008. She had Trisomy 18.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in September 2009.
Nest Name: Hemb
Real Name: Kara
Angel Info: Our daughter, Hailee Eileen was born on July 8, 2008 @ 21w3d due to bilateral renal agenisis.
Nest Name: irishmama13
Real Name: Kelli
Angel Info: Erickson Thomas Gunner born on July 23, 2008 at 31 weeks. Stillborn due to placental abruption / pre-elcampsia.
Nest Name: baughnfire
Real Name: Carrie
Angel Info: I had a D&E on August 8, 2008. I was 19w4d along, baby died around 18 weeks. Baby had Down Syndrome and we chose not to find our the sex.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in October 2009.
Nest Name: Delta_Diva
Angel Info: Joshua was stillborn on August 17, 2008 due to me having severe pre-elcampsia and HELLP syndrome. He was almost 22 weeks.
Nest Name: JEOZ
Real Name: Julia
Angel Info: Mia Elizabeth was born on August 19, 2008 at 36 weeks. She died 31 hours later on August 20. She died from lung complications which was due to Polycystic Kidney Disease. We are still trying to find our if it was autosommal recessive or autosommal dominate PKD.
Nest Name: tpetters
Real Name: Trisha
Angel Info: Missed M/C discovered at 19w2d at big U/S. Delivered baby boy Nathan Mitchell on August 20, 2008 at 20w. No cause known.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in September 2009.
Nest Name: September 2006
Real Name: Shelly
Angel Info: William was born August 25, 2008 at 24w3d.
Nest Name: boghill
Angel Info: Baby girl was born at 20 weeks; autopsy showed she had Turners Syndrome, found at our 20 week U/S that something was wrong.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in June 2009.
Nest Name: imyanda21
Real Name: Louann
Angel Info: Gabrielle was 20w4d, she became and angel because of an incompetent cervix.
Nest Name: qsuziez
Real Name: Susan
Angel Info: W delivered our baby boy at 20w2d due to a neural tube defect called Anencephaly. We found out that he wouldn't survive and were induced that weekend. He is missed everyday.
Nest Name: MRSBELLALEE
Real Name: Debbie
Angel Info: Chloe Eva was born on September 12, 2008 at 31w4d.
Nest Name: Coolteacher79
Real Name: Stacy
Angel Info: Isaac Timothy was born at 36w2d on October 7, 2008. He lived for 16 minutes before doing home to be with Jesus. His diagnosis is a rare sequence of giant omphalocele, kyphoscoliosis, and hypoplastic lungs. M/C in October 2007.
Nest Name: Eschall
Real Name: Emily
Angel Info: We lost baby Taylor October 8, 2008. I started spotting on 10/5 (my birthday) and talked to the doc. We got in for an u/s a few days later and baby was measuring 15w1d. I was 18w5d. We had a D&C on the day we were supposed to have the "big" u/s.
Nest Name: LV2006
Angel Info: Audrey Lee became an angel on October 17, 2008 at 19w6d. She is missed every single day?
Nest Name: GenStar (formerly GenesisStar)
Real Name: Patricia
Angel Info: I gave birth to a handsome little boy named Christian James. I had a placental abruption at 15w2d. Christian was born alive and healthy for about 1-2 mins. They think the reason for the abruption was I have PCOS and it can cause the egg to drop to low and he implanted in a weak/thin area of my uterus. We had been TTC for 6 years before I got pg and I so proud to be his mommy even though he is in heaven. I know he is always by my side protecting me and giving me angel kisses.
SAL: Currently PG and expecting in September 2009.
Nest Name: shellyrmmi
Angel Info: M/C at 17w6d discovered at survey U/S. Delivered October 17, 2008. M/C at 8 weeks 5/2000.
Nest Name: mrskilbride
Angel Info: Baby Kendall, October 21, 2008, 17 weeks. Likely Turners Syndrome, very large cystic hygroma and hydropic seen on 16 week u/s...all normal till that point...m/c at 8 weeks in 1997.
Successful pregnancies: Savannah Mae, born December 1998 and C.J., born October 2001.
Nest Name: str8ota
Real Name: Terri
Angel Info: Patrick Henry was born on November 14, 2008 at 17w. M/C in December 2006 and ectopic in March 2007.
Nest Name: sGuitaristsGirl
Real Name: Beth
Angel Info: I developed sever HELLP Syndrome, and delivered twins, a boy and a girl, on November 12, 2008 at 19w4d.
Nest Name: Copswife05
Real Name: Lisa
Angel Info: I was 39 weeks when we lost our baby boy, James Andrew on November 26, 2008, due to a true knot in this umbilical cord. He was delivered by c-section weighing 9lbs 10oz. and 22 inches.
Nest Name: beckastar
Angel Info: Gabriella Marie, born at 27 weeks on October 12, 2008 weighing 1lb 1oz due to placental insufficiency and IUGR, passed away on November 27, 2008.
Nest Name: shawn&tony
Real Name: Shawn
Angel Info: Twin Boys went to heaven at 18w6d December 21, 2008. natural m/c.
Nest Name: Sliz
Real Name: Sharon
Angel Info: We lost our twins on January 2, 2009 at 16.5 weeks. I had been bleeding for 4 weeks but the hematoma was nearly gone and my darlings looked great. On New Year's Day I felt what I thought were false contractions and "normal" cramps. The next morning my water broke on one twin and I delivered my sweet babies later that day.
Nest Name: Chris'sgrl
Real Name: Michelle
Angel Info: We lost our beautiful girl Kaitlyn Rose on January 17, 2009 at 24 weeks. The MW was unable to find a heartbeat at our appointment and 2 u/s confirmed that baby had passed away. I was induced the following day and day after that, I gave birth to Kaitlyn. At this point the OB believes that it was due to velamentous cord insertion.
Nest Name: krate24
Real Name: Jessica
Angel Info: Heather Ann was born January 26, 2009 at 27w2d. She was stillborn. Still waiting for the results of the placental pathology and autopsy. Not sure what caused this, but I had severe IUGR, the placenta was full of blood clots, amniotic fluid was almost non-existent by the end, and there were anomalies with the blood flow in the cord/baby.
Nest Name: audrey10607
Angel Info: I lost my son Nicholas January 31, 2009. He developed until 20w1d. My water broke, no symptoms. No diagnosis as of yet. Waiting for the pathology report of the placenta. Dr's said it would be highly unlikely that this would ever happen again.
Nest Name: shihtzumomma
Real Name: Alice
Angel Info: On February 4, 2009 we went for our 20 week u/s. They found not heartbeat (we heard a perfect heartbeat 2 weeks before). I was induced on February 6th and our son Dylan Thomas was born on February 7, 2009 at 10:20 pm. I was exactly 21 weeks the day of delivery. He passed away from a twisted umbilical cord.
Nest Name: julybaby09
Real Name: Brandi
Angel Info: Lost beautiful baby boy February 18, 2009 at 19 weeks due to Triploidy.
Nest Name: JacobsGirl
Real Name: Amanda
Angel Info: We discovered that our little boy Michael had died when we went in for the "big" u/s when I was 18 weeks on February 16, 2009. I was induced 2 days later. No obvious cause for his death... they were unable to extract fluid during the amnio, so we may never know what caused it.
1. Please feel free to give a general update.
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Re: Stillbirth / Late Loss / Infant Loss Check-in
Well, I am hanging in there. We have our fist OB appointment next Tuesday and otherwise I am doing ok. I had a rough night a couple of nights ago because I want to make sure this pregnancy does not replace Wyatt. I know that sounds kind of silly but that was where my head was that night.
Names were hard for us. We had a huge list of boy names and really only one girl name. Wyatt was on the list but I was fearful the child would be made fun of because of Wyatt Earp. The second night in the hospital after the fail induction my DH and I had a conversation with the baby, that it was time for them to help us out and be born and we selected two names a boy and a girl name since we were having a surprise. DH always liked Wyatt best so he suggested that and George is his grandfather who passed in 1996 name. Now I am so in love with the name Wyatt I am kind of embarrassed that it wasn't a top choice of mine to begin with. (=
We have been married for 2 1/2 years and together for 7 1/2 years. Somedays it really doesn't seem possible that it has been that long. (=
1. General update: Nothing really exciting. A week from today I have my post partum appt. I'm basically just waiting for Mar. 23rd when we have our consult with the doc to go over results from tests and possibly find some answers.
2. PG related QOTD: How did you choose your child's name? We both just kind of liked the name. It was really the only girls name that kept coming up that we agreed upon.
3. Non-PG related QOTD: How long have you and your DH been together? We've been together since November of 2005 and married since June of 2008.
4. Any suggestion of either QOTD? Non-PG: What's the age difference between you and DH?
1. I'm very stressed. We have our 12 wk appt and NT scan tomorrow, and I can't help but feel lots of anxiety. I wish I didn't, but it hasn't passed yet.
2. We didn't plan on finding out if we were having a boy or a girl, but decided to find out from our amnio results so that we could choose a name before we said goodbye. We really didn't have any names at the top of our list yet, so instead of just going with one of the ones we had discussed, we decided to choose a special name for our little girl. We named her Valerie Ann, which is after two of our grandmothers who have already passed away. We figured it would be appropriate to name her after them, since they'll be taking care of her for us in Heaven.
3. We've been together since Dec 1999 (over 9 years), and married since July 2005 (3.5 years).
1. I'm doing OK. I had my second therapy appointment this morning and didn't cry as much this time. It's so nice to finally feel like I'm "allowed" to be sad!
2. our son's name is John David. John is DH's grandfather's name and David is DH's name. Our daughter's name was Ashlyn Terese. Ashlyn I just liked and Terese is DH's mom's name... I thought it was pretty with Ashlyn. DH named JD and I named Ashlyn
3. We've been together since August 2001 (7.5 years now) and married since September 2005 (3.5 years)
1. Having a hard time. March 7 will be 5 months since Isaac was born and since I last held him. I miss him a ton.
2. We chose the name Isaac after the Abraham and Isaac story in the Bible. Abraham was called on by God to be willing to offer up his son, ISaac, that he and Sarah had prayed so long for in order to demonstrate his faithfulness to God. In that story, God provided a ram in a thicket for Abraham to sacrifice instead; unfortunately, there was no ram in the thicket for us. We also picked Isaac because it means "he will laugh" and we know that in heaven, he is perfect, and healthy and whole... and I am sure laughing with joy. We picked his middle name, Timothy, because it means to honor God. We wanted everything about our decision to carry Isaac to term, to love him deeply, and to continue to allow his life to affect people to be an honor to God.
3. DH and i have been great.
4. None... sorry
Please add me
Nest Name: elvis_cbw
Real Name: Vicki
Angel Info: Our little boy, Benjamin, was born at 20w4d on Feb 22nd 2009 due to a placental abruption. Not really sure why. He passed away on Feb 23rd.
1. Please feel free to give a general update.
I am doing okay. I am out of town at my moms, I have been for a week and a half now. I just needed to get away from home. There I have no motivation to get out of bed and do anything. Here my mom is helping me, getting me out of bed, making me do things. DH is at work all day and can't do this for me. I don't know what I'll do when I go back home.
I haven't had the opportunity to go spend time at Dylan's grave alone. I don't drive so I always have DH with me. I really feel like I need to go alone and say some things to Dylan. Maybe I'll get DH to drop me off there one day for a bit.
2. PG related QOTD: How did you choose your child's name? (Thanks Chris'grl)
We didn't have any names picked out when we went for our ultrasound. We were waiting until after we found out to pick names. Well, then we only had 2 days to pick a name. DH just looked at me and said "Do you like the name Dylan?" I thought about it and said yes! I thought it would sound great with Thomas, DH's dad's name. So there you have it.
3. Non-PG related QOTD: How long have you and your DH been together?
2 years
Please add me:
Nest Name: Jenifer123
Real Name: Jenifer
Angel Info: We found out our precious baby had no heartbeat on 2/19/09. It was the first day of my 16th week. We had just completed a detailed ultrasound 2 weeks before and everything was perfect - our baby was moving and waving and beautiful. D&E on 2/20/09. Still waiting for answers. This was my first pregnancy (conceived via ovulation induction due to infertility/PCOS).
1. Doing a little better day by day, but its still very hard to function. It?s been almost 2 weeks - have first post-D&E check up 3/6/09.
2. Didn't pick out names yet - had wanted to wait until we knew sex of baby but unfortunately we didn't get that far.
3. 13 years - married for almost 5 months.
Just wanted to say that you ladies are the best and I wish you all peace and continued healing. Reading your stories lets me know that I'm not alone and has really helped me.1. I am doing ok. We are getting ready to TTC again. I had a doctor's appointment last Friday and the doctor said that, considering all the testing I had done, that he doesn't think it's likely to happen again.
2. I wrote a list of girl's names that I liked and DH read through it, picked Gabrielle, and we agreed on it. Her middle name, Marie, is after my grandmother.
3. We have been together since Nov. 2003 ( almost 5 1/2 years) and married since Sept. 2006 (2 1/2 years).
Hello! I love to join you if that's ok. I read the check in thread and am so sorry there are so many of us who have lost babies - lot of love and hugs to you all.
Nest Name: marykandmatt
Real Name: Mary Kay
Angel Info: Hayden Matthew was born on 1/26/06 and died 3 hours and 18min after birth from a rare genetic syndrome called Pena Shokier.
m/c November 27, 2008 at 7w
SAL - Sydney Catherine - 2/22/07
Currently 5w pregnant and terrified of both m/c and having another sick baby since the odds are 1:4.
Happily Married DH on 11/11/06
*My life revolves around a bunch of boys!*
Proud Mommy to these angels:
TP - Lost baby & my tube 10/12/14;
MM at 13 wks - March 2007 &
Rainbow babies:Also, let me know if I was too early to be included here. My OB called it a late loss, since I was in the 2nd tri, but I know I was earlier than everyone else here, I think. Also, I considered myself "in the 16th" week (because that's how my preg journal counted it), but I guess I was 15 wks 1 day. Just let me know.
Nest Name: honey41283
Real Name: Carrie
Angel Info: On January 15, 2009 my husband and I learned that we had lost our twins at 16w3d due to a monoamniotic pregnancy (Both babies were in one amniotic sac and their cords tangled.). We went in for a routine checkup and our doctor could not detect their heartbeats by doplar. The loss was confirmed by an ultrasound a few minutes later. It was hard to believe that they were gone when we had only learned they were twins at our first ultrasound on December 22nd. I had a D&E on 1/21/09.
1. Please feel free to give a general update. So far so good..we found a heartbeat last week. I am having a hard time getting excited about this baby. Odds are, this baby will be perfectly fine, but I don't think I will rest easy until the baby comes home. I also have this fear that I will forget about Jack somehow. Like this past year, I have been all about celebrating the "what would have beens", I baked cupcakes for his first birthday. But I am afraid once baby#2 is around, January 16th (his birth) and the 25th (his death), will be overshadowed by tending to another baby. And I won't remember to celebrate or commeorate #2's big brother. I know I won't really forget Jack, but I am scared that overtime..he will be just a faint memory...does that make sense?
2. PG related QOTD: How did you choose your child's name? (Thanks Chris'grl) I always liked the name. I always wanted my boys to have "tough" sounding names. And to me, Jack is the eptimoe of tough sounding (think about it..all big, strong guys in movies or TV are named Jack). And in the end, the name was very fitting. Our Jack was very tough, he fought very hard, even to the end.
3. Non-PG related QOTD: How long have you and your DH been together? From first date to today, 7 years and 3 months...geez, have i really put up with him for that long ?
4. Any suggestion of either QOTD? None
I have no problems adding you. The cut off in my head is a loss out of the first trimester when everyone magically thinks they are safe. I am sorry you are having to join us and I hope you find comfort and understanding in this check-in.
1. Had a routine appt. this morning, heard the hb right away on the doppler, nice and strong in the 160s. It is reassuring, but I had also heard Nathan's hb on the doppler twice before losing him, so I am still very guarded.
2. Nathan was not the name we had picked for a boy, but after we lost him we decided to choose a name that had a special meaning. We found Nathan to mean "He (God) gave" and thought that was perfect. Mitchell is after my FIL.
3. It will be 10 years in May that I have been with DH, and we've been married for 2.5 years.