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WWYD?

laurainMIlaurainMI
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About 2 weeks ago, I lost my baby at 17 weeks.  This was discovered during a dr. appointment with a D&E the following day.  When I called my work to let my boss know I needed time off, he was very concerned obviously, but also went so far as to come over with his wife and bring me dinner/wait for my friend to come over.  My friend was staying with me, as the father was out of town on work.

I'm not sure how I should recognize his thoughtfulness/concern/and help when it was from a boss.  If it was a friend, i would make cupcakes, but i'm stumped on what's appropriate for a boss.

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  • knelliknelli
    I would say just a very sincere thank you card.  What your boss did was amazing and you are so lucky to have him as a boss.  I am so sorry for your loss and you are in my thoughts.
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  • samm1983samm1983 member
    I agree with PP.  A card would be nice.  That was very nice of him.  I am so sorry for your loss.
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  • jenifer123jenifer123

    First of all I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my baby after 15 weeks and had a D&E about 2 weeks ago as well, so I know how painful it is.

    Your boss sounds like such a wonderful person, and what he did is so sweet.  I think a really sincere card expressing how thankful you are is just fine.  I wouldn't do anything more at this point - you're still grieving and anything more would probably make him feel like he had to thank you for your thank you - and then you'd be in an endless cycle of thank you's.  Ok, I'm being a little silly now, but you get the point.

    Have you had your first post D&E appt with your OB yet?  Mine is Friday. 

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  • waitingforbaby#2waitingforbaby#2
    I'm so sorry :(    I would write a nice thank you card for your boss, but only once you are emotionally up to it. Right now just take your time and look out for "you". (hugs)
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  • laurainMIlaurainMI
    imagejenifer123:

    First of all I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my baby after 15 weeks and had a D&E about 2 weeks ago as well, so I know how painful it is.

    Your boss sounds like such a wonderful person, and what he did is so sweet.  I think a really sincere card expressing how thankful you are is just fine.  I wouldn't do anything more at this point - you're still grieving and anything more would probably make him feel like he had to thank you for your thank you - and then you'd be in an endless cycle of thank you's.  Ok, I'm being a little silly now, but you get the point.

    Have you had your first post D&E appt with your OB yet?  Mine is Friday. 

    Mine is today.

    I went to the gym last night -- eventhough I'm supposed to wait until after the check-up.  I just got on the eliptical and took it easy.  Another one of my bosses (I have 3) was there, and YELLED at me about waiting until after my check up. 

    I hope you're healing process is moving foward.

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