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Just got terrible news (NTTTC related)
My grandfather passed away long before I was even born, and my grandmother lived with us when I was younger. Eventually, she started dating a man named John. She dated John for many, many years and he was like a grandfather to me. Although they never lived together they lived near each other. But a couple of years ago my grandmother moved into an assisted living facility near where my parents live about 2 hours from John. He refused to move because he had lived in his town his whole life and wasn't about to move at 90 years old. Well, I just found out today that John killed himself. He drove to his son's vacation house, got a gun he kept there, then drove to a rural road and shot himself . Apparently he was sick (just hadn't been feeling well for a few weeks), was tired of being cooped up in his house (he lived in NE PA where it has been extremely cold and icy all winter), and was feeling lonely and depressed, he had told all of this to my grandmother when she talked to him last week, however she DID NOT know that he was as depressed as he was and is absolutely heartbroken that this has happened. I am just so heartsick over this. He was a wonderful man, and it is so sad that his life had to end this way. He was in wonderful shape otherwise, in fact the coroner said that he had the body of a 25 year old (he was 92!) I feel immense sadness for my grandmother, and am just sick over this! Plus, his son is a complete putz and is not holding a memorial service, a wake or a funeral for him, so none of us (grandmother, my parents, brother, aunt, uncle, cousins and myself who were like a family to John) get to say good-bye. Sorry so long, I just had to let it out.
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Re: Just got terrible news (NTTTC related)
How awful! ?I am so sorry for what your family is going through.
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Oh, hon...that is so tragic. Sorry for your (and your grandmother's) loss. I hope you can help her find peace in her time of grief.
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Oh my god. How incredibly awful. I am so sorry.
Could you hold a small memorial at your house with the family that you mentioned? That is SO SO important and I think hearing all the nice memories from all of you would help everyone involved.
I'm so sorry, that is so awful. I'm sorry you can't say goodbye, why wouldn't they have a memorial?
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It's been a long journey. TTC since 9/06. multiple IUI's and IVF's and 4 m/c's. IVF#3 = BFP, twins, induced at 34w6d due to baby b passing away (no explanation). Delivered on 35w1d, Baby A - baby girl, and Baby B - baby boy, our little angel.
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John's only family was his son who is in the FBI and totally focused on his career,and barely ever even talked to his dad, much less visited him
I don't know why he isn't holding any type of service, just that he told my grandmother there would not be one. I like your suggestions about having a memorial of our own, and think that i am going to try to arrange that for this weekend. Thanks for the kind words ladies.
That is so sad!! I'm sorry
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