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I did a bad, bad thing.
Well, to someone it is probably bad... That someone being my husband.
I told my ob that I wanted to do a c-section.
Baby B is shoved right up under my ribs and the pain there is just terrible, so I was imagining how much more painful it would be to push and then I caught the end of A Baby Story (my very first one, can you believe that?) and this lady was having twins-the first one was head down and they got her out just fine but the B baby was breech and they got his little body out but his head got stuck and just watching the doctor wrangle that little teeny body up and down and side to side to free his head was making me squirm and I felt REALLY bad for that baby. So...
It's a good decision, right? I know I'm the one who should make the final decision, but I need validation. It's not like having twins vaginally (with one breech currently) is all the rage and easy to do, I'm thinking. 
Why is this the decision I'm struggling with?
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Re: I did a bad, bad thing.
If it is what you would be most comfortable with, it is absolutely a good decision!
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My feeling is that you should do whatever you need to do to get those babies out safe & sound. Period.
FWIW, my doc won't even let me attempt a vaginal delivery unless both babies are head down.
I don't think you did a bad thing at all. You have decided the right thing for you and you are the one who has to be comfortable with it.
Your DH does not have to birth the babies. You do.
Just tell him that you made the decision that's best for all of you. You don't get a medal for delivering vaginally vs c-section, and your babies don't care. You've done a great job getting them here on Earth, how they finally come out is not an issue.
And this is why I love you.
But Jay does have to say, "You're doing so good! You can do it! It's a BOY! It's another BOY!" ha ha ha!!
Thanks everyone. I don't know why I feel bad about telling my doctor this, there's nothing wrong with having a c-section, geez!
When I had my fibroids removed, apparently THAT is abdominal surgery so I have an inkling (albeit probably a teeny one) of what I'll be up against, but I seem to have blocked how I felt after that surgery. I honestly can't remember how much pain I was in, but Jay assures me that I was not in a good way. Hmm.
And EFF YEAH he can carry the next set! Ha!!
I'm all for the au naturel deliveries in general, but if I were to think about how I'd feel giving birth to twins vaginally, esp. if one was not in the right position, I'd probably schedule the C also. I don't have any clue how my MIL delivered two large twin boys vaginally without drugs.
You shouldn't feel like you have to struggle with this decision; I don't think there is anything at all wrong with deciding you'd like one type of birth over another. It is YOUR birth and YOUR body and YOUR babies, end of story. You have every right to make the decision that you feel is best for you and your family.
Ditto.
Edit to my previous comment: When I was saying YOUR body, YOUR babies, etc I was referring to what other people aside from your DH might think about your decision....but I guess I didn't clue in that you were more worried that your DH might not be on board with your decision. I didn't mean to sound like I was suggesting that they are more YOUR babies than DH's!
But in reference to your DH, I agree with all above. You have to deliver them, not him. I think in the end he'll agree that as long as they get here safely and everyone's healthy, then it's all good!
Hee hee. Glad my oh-so-informed advice worked. Have you told him yet? I'd like to be a fly on the wall for that conversation.
Joyco: "By the way, I'm having a c-section. That's right. YA HEARD!"
You did nothing bad. ?I think you made a fine choice. ?I told Dr. S I wanted a c/s although it wasn't entirely necessary. ?He agreed that an induction was likely to fail (low Bishop score) and I had NO interest in going overdue with a baby who was already 9lb at 39 weeks.
I am SO HAPPY I went that route. ?Of course that doesn't mean that you will be a c/s lover as well....but I'd never go the vaginal route now. ?My recovery was a breeze, I loved the controlled atmosphere (after two losses I was still scared to death of losing my baby and would not have handled a failed induction and emergency c/s well), and I'd do it over again in a heartbeat.
(read it. you know you want to.)
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Ditto this. I think you're making a smart decision for you and your babies. In the long run, your DH will understand and won't care as long as you and your boys are healthy and safe!
My $.02 (literally)
1. Your doctor will probably be happy that you are choosing c-section with twins--the doctor is more in control of their delivery and there is less chance for complications.
2. Think of the pain if you delivered one vaginally and the other by c-section. A friend of mine pushed for nearly 4 hours before finally resorting to a c-section. She told me the pain in "two places" was unbearable and she was 100% grateful to have a scheduled c-section the second time around.
I'm with PP - I'd do the same thing if I were you.
The important thing is health babieS and healthy momma - and if you will feel more comfortable going into it this way (not having all the what-ifs of breech/complications/etc) then go for it.
Scratch this off your list and worry about other stuff!
Sorry I'm so late on this, but I hope you feel tons better about your decision.
The important thing of all is that your beautiful boys come out strong and healthy, whether it be via c-section or vaginally. I doubt at their 1-year birthday party you'll be bemoaning the fact that you had to get them out via c-section. :-) I certainly don't regret getting the epi either time, even though I had initially wanted to try au natural.
I can't wait to 'meet' your boys! It's coming up so fast, isn't it?!
~NDK~