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2nd Trimester
janice74
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Liam Henry: 9/5/09
Emmeline Claire: 5/23/11
Hating this pregnancy (long)
janice74
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I am SO excited about the baby, but I am hating being pregnant. ?For me it is just a means to an end. ?I was hoping the second trimester would be better and I know it has just started, but I have started having horrible sinus headaches, mood swings, fatigue and I am getting sick of feeling my heart pounding out of my chest. ?I am not even close to the uncomfortable phase yet, and I feel uncomfortable with and trapped in my own body. ?
My friends told me they felt energetic, healthy and amazing once the m/s passed. ?I don't feel this crappy all the time, but I never feel excited to be pregnant. ?Tonight my DH had to go out to a birthday celebration without me because I feel like crap and depressed. I feel bad for him too, and he has been nothing but supportive and wants to find something to help me.
I am wondering if anyone is going through the same thing and has found anything that helps? I am starting to walk again and I plan on doing prenatal yoga. Maybe there is a book I can read, or something...?
?thanks!?
Liam Henry: 9/5/09
Emmeline Claire: 5/23/11
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Re: Hating this pregnancy (long)
I am very excited to be pregnant.... Aside from that, NO - 2nd tri isn't a magical time, and for me it isn't much better than 1st tri.....my m/s has been replaced with things that cause physical pain. Muscle spasms, lightening crotch, hard baby kicks, lower back pain.... etc...
I feel the same way. I honestly have wondered if I will ever want to get pregnant again after this. Yoga has helped me, I do it for two hours once a week and it's helped with a lot of the pains.
I wonder if a lot of my dislike of pregnancy has to do with the fact that I thought I'd be one of those women who absolutely LOVES every moment of it, and so far I just feel kinda blah.
The only thing that I enjoy is when my baby kicks, and even then I think I'd much rather have him/her kicking around outside my belly.
I am really sorry. I am not sure that I have any advice for you... I hated my first pregnancy. I was in a lot of pain for most of it, in physical therapy, on bedrest, etc etc. My hormones and mood swings were awful. I was miserable and swore I'd never get pregnant again...
Well, you see where I am now! LOL.
I have no advice for you because nothing helped me at the time.
Other than just taking it day by day and knowing that pregnancy isn't forever. I hated people telling me how much they loved being pregnant and moms telling me they missed it. I could not relate! Emotionally and physically, I was so messed up. Unfortunately, that's just how it is. Some people love it. Some people hate it. Our experiences vary so much.
BUT I can honestly say that the end result was worth it! I hope it gets better for you- don't give up hope! But, either way, it all just makes it so much more amazing when your baby gets here and it's all over. GL.
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Ugh-I hear ya sister! I have a friend who is also preggo and she's felt amazing the entire pregnancy-not even nauseous! I can't complain too much, just the usual stuff but haven't thrown up. HOwever, 2nd trimester is here and I have a damn headache at least once a week that last for 1-2 days w/out Tylenol relief. It really sucks. I also feel like I'm trapped in this foreign body. My hubby keeps saying I need to embrace this and enjoy pregnancy as much as I can. Kind of hard when your head is pounding. And also, what's with the heart racing thing? I go up one flight of stairs and I'm out of breath. I;m a fit person too but its like exhausting!?
?At least your in Cali where the weather is warmer. Try feeling like this and it being freezing and uncomfortable out. I think yoga and walking will help-I really do. I should take up my own advice b/c this has turned into my own little rant. I'm sorry! I really do hope you feel better. I just keep thinking that there's a little boy in there who needs me and the best is yet to come for all of us. :-)?
I'm not a huge fan of being PG. Dont' feel bad. Everyone isn't the PG type (glowing and such). I just keep setting mini goals for myself. My current goal is to get to 100 days. I will set a new one after that. This will be our last, and I wonder if I am going to regret not enjoying it.
GL! I hope it gets better for you.
Max born July 25
Big sisters Alex and Layla
I'm so sorry you're feeling so bad. If it helps, I'm in a similar situation. I was crying to DH today about how I really wish I was one of those people who enjoyed being pregnant. I can't wait for the baby to be born so I can feel somewhat "normal" again (knowing I still won't be normal, but at least it will be different than this). I still have m/s just as bad as in the 1st tri with no sign of relief. I also have body aches and fatigue that kill any free time I have. The gas and heartburn are terrible too, as are my mood swings.
I do feel extremely blessed to have a baby though, so I keep trying to keep the end goal in mind. It also helps to pray and read the Bible each day, and think about how everything is part of God's plan and it will all be okay.
I feel the exact same way. I am hardly a glowing vision of pregnancy. While I know I will NEVER regret this time, I do not advocate doing it again. I have been depressed and more tired and experiencing new more terrible symptoms since getting into 2nd tri. Yes, it's early for me too but I am so tired of people telling me it will get better....right now, I want to throat punch the next person to tell me that.
I'm unpleasant to be around, moody and considering therapy.
I just feel DOWN DOWN DOWN in the dumps. Shopping around online for baby things has helped but is a temporary fix. I just try to get enough sleep and focus on the light at the end of this tunnel.
::HUGS:: I'm right there with you.
i deffinilty understand what you are going through my whole first trimester was terrible i lost about 6 lbs a week during the whole thing i was so sick and miserable the whole time i would cry alomsot every night my m/s did die down a bit but i still get it even now at 21 weeks
i was and still a bit am like you where i dont want to go out because i dont feel great but usually when i pull myself together and just go i do end up feeling better just for being out, walking helped me alot and on the bad days i would try and get a couple good friends together and just relax together it helps to keep your mind off of the bad things. i hope things get better for you GL with everything 
In the beginning of 2nd Tri I went through what I'd call a funk. I didn't want to go anywhere, do anything, not even clean the house or go to work. I didn't have the same physical problems that you have, but I definitely went through not enjoying being pregnant, I just didn't feel like "me".
Keep your chin up and you'll make it through it. As cliche as it sounds, get outside and take a walk, like you said, and talk to your H about what it is that's bothering you, besides the obvious physical things. In my case, it was not feeling even remotely close to being prepared and not feeling like we were making any progress to getting ready, and I kept it all to myself, which wasn't good. I didn't realize how I really felt until we talked it out.
(((HUGS))) You'll get through this, promise.