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A Strange Rant

efortuneefortune member
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I am planning on being a stay at home mommy, and although it will be tight and we have to make a lot of sacrifices, my DH can afford to be the sole income.  This is something that is very important to both of us.  At first, my family supported this idea, especially since my mother did it with all her kids.  Well, already my mom and my granny have changed thier minds on this, and are pressuring me to go back to work after the baby is born, even going so far as looking for jobs for me.  The reason: they want to babysit!  My granny is already sending me emails pressuring me to give her "preferential" babysitting duties, as she has the "most experience" out of both sides of the family (she was a nanny).  I am so happy that my family and his are excited, and I know its the first grandchild on both sides, but there is already bickering and planning of the babysitting duties (and I feel like my voice is being left out of the discussion).  I am looking forward to mothering my own child too!!  I know its a wierd rant, and I am SO happy they want such an active role in our child's life, I just foresee this becoming an issue down the road, especially when I'm not ready to hand over my child yet.  I'm amused by the whole thing, but just a little freaked out by all the fuss. 

The joys of being the mom of the first born grandchild, I guess!

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  • teeah22teeah22 member
    I'm sorry they're giving you a hard time.  I guess you just have to stand your ground.  I have to say though, I would love to be in your position!  We live thousands of miles from any family and I'm the major breadwinner so my staying home is not an option.
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  • efortuneefortune member

    Oh, I know, and its a kind of happy rant, I guess!  I'm lucky to have it to complain about.... just hoping it doesnt turn into a family war when I dont want to hand the babe over 24 hours after leavng the hospital.

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  • esposa38esposa38 member
    Shoot, I'd tell them they could babysit any.time.they.want.  Anytime!
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  • DanielsWifeDanielsWife
    I feel you. ?Try being the mom of the first - and so far, ONLY grandkid on BOTH SIDES! ?DH and I are only kids, so both grandmas-to-be are kinda already gunning for certain things. ?And they aren't exactly best friends. ?*sigh*
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  • ksparks321ksparks321
    Set boundries early. Limit the amount of time they can visit and enforce it.  It may be harsh, but they need to realize that you are the mommy, not them.  You may have to come out and say this to them, tell them they've had their chance, if it comes to it.
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