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When do smiles happen? Crying is killing me

buckeyebabe99buckeyebabe99
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There isn't anything I seem to do that is right for Delaney.  She cries nonstop when awake.  The only time she's not crying is when she's sleeping so I try to nurse her and pray that she sleeps for long stretches of time.  I resorted to turning on the vacuum yesterday just to catch a break. 

 She's just over 4 weeks now so I'm hoping I'll see some light at the end of the tunnel soon. I can't take any more crying :(. I just don't know what she needs after changing her, feeding her, walking around with her, changing positions, singing, shushing, etc etc etc.  Car rides and white noise is all I can offer and then I feel like such a bad mommy for not being able to interact with her on a more positive note while she's awake since she's always fussing.

 I know this is temporary but I'm hoping to have happier days before I have to go back to work in 8 weeks.  It seems so unfair that just as her personality starts to blossom, I'll miss so much and just remember the tears:(.

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  • DontblinkDontblink

    Hang in there. All babies are different but I am sure it has nothing to do with how you are interacting with her. Maybe she is going through a growth spurt. I hope thinks get better soon. Hugs.

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  • ocean71506ocean71506

    You are not a bad mommy! It sounds like you are doing so many things right for Delaney.  Unfortunately some babies just cry a lot.  Like you said, this phase will pass so hang in there the best you can.  DD just started smiling this past week...so it is come soon for you!

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  • MiaMichelleMiaMichelle

    Please don't worry!! When Maya was little I remember her only crying while awake.  It was like this for the 1st 2 months.  Not a fun time.

    It will definitely get better.  Once we started sleeping better, her personality blossomed.  By 3 months, it was a new baby.

    And you will still interact with her beautifully when you go back to work.  I "barely remember" those rough first 2 months... it's really ancient history at this stage.  

    Big hugs, stay strong mama!

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  • KatieG.07KatieG.07
    Ben was like that.  Around 7 weeks is when he really started being more interactive and smiling, cooing, etc.  I thought I was never going to be able to make it as a mom.  Do what you have to do to make it these early weeks.  Does she like her bouncy seat or swing or some sort of carrier?  What about turning on the water in the bathtub and "playing" in the bathroom?  I imagine it's too cold to be outside.  Bug hugs!
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  • dr.girlfrienddr.girlfriend
    Aw, I'm sorry. ?Have you talked to your pediatrician about it? ?Don't let him or her blow you off with "all babies cry," exceptional fussiness in a baby is something that needs to be addressed. ?Kiran was like that for the first month. ?Things got so much better at 2 months, and now he's almost always happy. ?It does get better!
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  • SkatcatSkatcat

    I felt the SAME WAY when mine were that age, especially with DS..he was SO gassy. His nickname to Mr. Skat and me is "screetchy", I'm not kidding.

    The smiles started around week 6 and it really does make ALL the difference. I feel like I can put up with almost anything for that smile! 

    I can't wait for giggles and laughing now. :-D

    Hang in there! Those first few weeks were so hard. 

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