Shower - would you say anything?

LillyWife78 · February 2009

My mom hasn't mentioned anything about a baby shower (it's still early), but I know she's wants to throw me one. Well now that I'm looking at the calendar, between all the weddings and other showers I have this year, there's really only one or two possible weekends when it could happen. Should I mention that to my mom so she can get the date nailed down and the place reserved, or is that obnoxious and greedy?

ksayles · February 2009

No, I would just ask if she was thinking about throwing a shower for you.

oscarkat · February 2009

I would mention it. I don't think it's obnoxious or greedy at all. I've already brought mine up a couple of times because my crazy mother thinks that weeks 36-38 are good for a shower. Not happening.

prettyshoes · February 2009

I know it's very hard but try to let her figure everything out. My DH had to practically pin me down during my last pregnancy to avoid talking to my best friend about when the shower was going to be. It's a gift to you and you need to trust that the people involved will take care of all the details. Hard to do but definitely possible.

chels0120 · February 2009

I'd just talk to her! It's your mom!

bellaciao · February 2009

I think you should mention it; might be a more touchy subject if it was a friend, but, heck, it's your mom!

AutumnBride929 · February 2009

Yes, I think you should definitely tell her which weekends work best for you. Obviously, if you can't be there it won't quite work out, lol! My mom asked me what weekend would work best for me and I told her because it will help with the planning process just a little bit,haha.

Temp159135562506975 · February 2009

i think it's fine to ask your mom.... it's your mom- not a random friend that you aren't sure is throwing one or not.

i asked my sister what was up with planning b/c i'm the same way with my schedule- it's always booked up.

skylooo · February 2009

My mom and sister didn't initiate the shower convo either, I had to mention it to them at 21 weeks! Now they are all about it. Don't feel strange about it.

BeeLove · February 2009

Why don't you just continue to leave those dates open until someone brings it up. I'm sure it will all work out. My MIL is crazy planner lady and has already forced me to nail down dates...I have no idea if they are going to work in a few months but hey, they are "locked in". So if you have some open dates, just leve them open and I'm sure it will come together.

skimberlin · February 2009

I don't see why not. It also depends on your relationship with your mother. My mom is a super busy person so I know she would understand. My aunt and mom are each throwing me one, and I have told them both I want to have them a little earlier because of having twins I don't want to wait to late and not be able to enjoy it. They both understoon and are planning them a little earlier.

nachocheeze · February 2009

Depends on your relationship with your mom, but if you feel weird about asking her directly maybe bring up your schedule and all the events you have going on the next time you're with her. Or ask her to go to some baby stores with you to look at equipment and see if that maybe brings up the idea of a registry/shower gifts.

hairstylist720 · February 2009

Personally I would mention it, sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands to get the things you want. Just make sure you bring it up to her in a nice way like start out thanking her for hosting a shower for you and tell her how excited you are!

margeincharge2 · February 2009

If it was anyone but your mom I would say don't say anything. But, it's your mom. So just bring it up casually. I'm sure she won't mind. It will also come in handy later because you won't have to scramble to come up with dates that work.

melilani · February 2009

Well said.

liongish119 · February 2009

If you know she wants to throw you one, its not obnoxious or greedy to let her know when you're free- I'm sure she'd rather you say something and be able to attend your own shower!

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