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PSA: Rude is still rude.
I see that there was a DD. Maybe the best thing in that instance.
I agree that the comments about "too lazy to walk" were beyond mean and hurtful. There is no reason to judge someone on sheer appearance (which is really what you're doing at that point).
However, I think the OP's point was that there is no excuse for inconsiderate behavior. Same thing I posted on that thread:
I had to use one of those wheelchairs a few years ago when I had a dislocated hip and couldn't quite get around well enough on my own.
You know what, though? I was still considerate enough not to block the aisles. There is NO EXCUSE for that.
And if I have to ask you politely more than twice to move, we have an issue.
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Re: PSA: Rude is still rude.
HI there.
?My name is Red.
I'm clueless in Toronto.?
still can't believe people are defending her...
pPROM at 27 weeks, Birdy born at 28 weeks at 2lb 7oz.
I'm not saying she didn't overreact.
I can't say much, I get pretty annoyed in the grocery store (even when I wasn't pregnant).
It's more about ignorance though.
I could care less WHY they're in the motorized carts. Don't even get me started on those enormous carts with the busses on the fronts for kids to sit in (that will be ME someday pushing one of those things around), but just be considerate of other people around you.
... I get the same way driving on the interstate too. *sit*
ETA: However, I generally don't open my mouth. I usually just wander off in a huff and go get whateveritwas later, or send DH who is usually cart-less.
I get where you are coming from because a lot of disabilities aren't visible to the human eye but I think a lot of people with these issues are more aware of their surroundings as well and would be sure not to park in front of a check out lane or someplace where people would need to get to.
1. OP was rude to go off on heavy woman - if woman was being inconsiderate- we don't know we weren't there.
2. those chairs are huge and hard to manipulate- I have driven my mom's for fun to see how hard it is. Not easy.
3. The stupid "I can't believe fat people are so lazy- good for you for going off on her she deserved it" comments are blowing my mind.
I'm not normally a flamer but this really hit a nerve- not so much the OP but the comments of approval from the other clueless individuals.
For this I hope they all gain at least 80 pounds and experience the joys of thankles and angry treestump feet in their 3rd tri. Good luck tying your shoes.
**this is comparable to wishing a painful episiotomy**
pPROM at 27 weeks, Birdy born at 28 weeks at 2lb 7oz.
Obviously it's not okay to be rude whether your disabled or not. I have no problem with calling out that woman's rude behavior.
It sounded like the OP overreacted a bit but at least she focused on the woman's behavior as opposed to making fun of her physical appearance, assuming all kinds of things about disabled people being "too lazy to walk," and just generally trivializing any extenuating circumstances that the woman might have had in terms of health or disability issues.
So yeah, rude is still rude. But that goes for the ridiculously rude and offensive responses to that post as well.
Your seriously comparing the two?
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Seriously? Is this seriously happening
FIRST OFF: I would have been piissed too. There was no direct ignorance towards the handicap of a person in the post. It was her neglegance towards other ppl that sparked the irritation. Ppl dont deserve a scape clause because they are in shiity/unfortunate situation. ie: power shopping cart.
(Maybe a few choice words could have been routed in a less personally offensive way sure.. )
I JUST SAW A KID RIDING AROUND IN ONE who almost ran into my Ma over the wknd. If he hit her, I would have throw a fuucking crazy white girl scene in the store. I WOULD HAVE ALSO PROBABLY commented on the scenerio here. I dont think it was a literal attack on the woman but whatever.. not my call. If she wanted to biitch, she had every right to biitch on here.
PEOPLE:
If the post was sooo offensive... DONT FUUCKING RE-READ IT TIME AND TIME AGAIN. Everyone is entitled to their opinions.. and if someone wants to be a biitch and talk shmack.. its their right. Grow a pair or sensor yourself.
I HOPE IF I AM SOOO IGNORANT TO THE PEOPLE AROUND ME, SOMEONE GIVES ME A WAKE UP CALL.. and Yells at me. Maybe then I could be considerate of my surroundings. Calling me a lazy fat biitch, not so much the correct way.. but seriously.
::::Passes bottle:::: (baby bottle that is)
At this point its best to just let it go, but I dont understand why being rude to a heavy person (not disabled, just heavy, to quote) is any ruder than going off on a skinny person. In either situation we wouldnt Really know if the person meant to be rude, again, to quote. In OP's defense, if she yelled at a skinny business woman chatting on her phone, everyone would say the woman deserved it, hands down. Just playing devil's advocate.
pPROM at 27 weeks, Birdy born at 28 weeks at 2lb 7oz.
Team Tejeda - Absolutly I am compairing the two! The girl who posted said she asked the person to move. Makes me think, hm, wonder if the woman couldn't hear her? That's why. I didn't read a 100 times, sorry if it seems that way.
I thought ya'll said it was a sin to DD under any circumstances?
Rude is rude, and yes that lady seemed out of line. But still it is never okay to make fun of disabled or overweight people. I am partially disabled myself and will likely be wheelchair bound by the time I am 40 if this disease progresses as it has been. You have no idea what it is like to be judged by others when you are just trying to hobble in the grocery store. Those comments were just out of line!
I came here to say something but have ended up laughing at all the absurd siggies. BAHAHAHAAHAHAHAH!
Oh my.
Sorry? Yes rude is sitting in the middle of the aisle. Rude is also storming the hot pocket aisle yelling at disabled people and then posting about those damned lazy asses on thei internets.
trassssshtastic.
1st - I'm sorry you have to deal with such a debilitating (not sure if I spelled that right) disease
2nd - I don't think anybody here is trying to defend those awful "too lazy to walk" comments but mainly the OP. She didn't yell at the lady because she was IN the chair but because the woman was being disrespectful to other shoppers. She didn't make fun of the woman and the only mention of her weight was to call her large.
Oh another thing it is AISLE not ISLE.
CARTER:
Apparently you are just a very nice person. I understand the frustration but I truly dont think the case was her having a hard time hearing...
She was chatting it up in the isle.. and then again on the phone. My Grandma who cant hear shiit cant even use a cell phone.. I imagine somewhat the same.
Anywhoo.. Not everything is directed towards disability.. Thats what piissed me off so much. Was it over the top? Yes, but it was a vent.. and rather than allowing her to just be biitchy and vent her story, she was attacked by everyone. She didnt directly say. "FAT LAZY BIITCH, get the fuuuuck outta my way.." LOL.. then well, that would have been a story but more imporantly would merit an attack. I KNOW THE FRUSTRATION and I could somewhat relate.. Would I have acted the same. maybe,. maybe not.. I dont know I wasnt there.. ?!?!
Flying off the handle over a hot pocket may be extreme but I truly dont think it was a handicap attack.. and I didnt meant you directly re-reading it.. I meant... people re-reading it to see the posts from everyone else. I am have compasion towards ppl with disability, I have family with some.. and have also worked along my mother who RUNS a company for disabled ppl. Deaf, blind, MS, Down Sydrome, Autism.. etc< THE LIST GOES ON. So I completely understand the feeling of wanting to defend someone with a disability.. but I REEEEEEEEEEEEEEALLY highly doubt that was her intentions.. and if it was, I dont think anyone would have the balls to post on it.