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kind of sad about shower possibilities/timing...

groovygrlgroovygrl member
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So our families (and most of our good childhood/college friends) are a 9-10 hour drive from us and we have 2 nieces doing first communion plus a niece's baptism in May when I'll be about 25 weeks-ish, so we were thinking maybe we could do like a 5 day trip & I could have my shower that same weekend & we could see a ton of ppl since after that we won't be able to travel up there for quite some time!

But my OB today said he wouldn't recommend going anywhere after April and I'm totally bummed about this... I understand if I'm not feeling well, there are complications, my cervix is shortening, etc, but I know my mom is going to want to plan & do things & I really will be sad not to have the big shower, as silly/selfish as that sounds. 

Did this happen to anyone else? I would like to still try for it, although I don't want anyone to do planning just to have to cancel. Ugh :(

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  • AlpacaBunnyAlpacaBunny member
    I would just have your mom plan something as early as you can.  My shower was this past weekend at 29 weeks and had it not been very close to home I would not have been allowed to go.  I had to go on bedrest at 25 weeks.  It is going to be unpredictable b/c things can change at any time.  But I'd say if your mom wants to plan something, tell her to plan it for earlier vs. later. 
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  • Mrs.BKPMrs.BKP
    I was in the exact same position.  I wanted to travel home for my 25th week (chrismas and my shower) and my OB was less than thrilled about it.  It was an 8 hour drive.  She wanted me to fly (seemed weird to me), but I'd been flying a lot for work and it was incredibly uncomfortable.  She told me she'd thought she should go, but reserved the right to veto if I was showing any changes at that point. Maybe you can talk to your OB and work out that kind of deal?  I agreed we'd stop driving every hour to walk around and I'd drink tons of water.  It wasn't the most comfortable thing I've ever done, but it was worth it to see my family for the holidays and for the shower.  Good luck, I hope it works out for you. I don't think it's silly or selfish at all to want to celebrate with your friends and family.
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  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    i missed my shower b/c i was in the hosptial with kidney stones... and i'm still sad about it :(

    i say go for early - IMO- early is better anyway - b/c you just never know, like what happened to me.

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  • Shamrock2003Shamrock2003

    I had a week 26 cut off for leaving town....I had a shower the weekend I turned 26weeks....just a 4 hour drive and my dad came to get me, drove me to Houston then drove me back to Dallas! How sweet is that?

    I would plan to have one early...you never know what will happen.

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  • ancjphancjph

    Ok so I'm going to be the party pooper here. Here is my question, if something did happen would you want to be 8-9hours away from your home, with a dr. you don't know. What happens if you go and you need to be on strict bedrest due to complications. I'm pretty sure they would not let you go home. .Just think about it, I would seriously talk to your dr.

    I had my shower at around 18 weeks and had to drive 8-9 also. It was one of the most uncomfortable times. I ride was horrible. I would do it early.  I know how nice it is to share this time with family and friend. You are in no way shelfish.

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  • hlh018hlh018

    My family all lives about four hours away and my doctor told us if I was having no complications etc it would be fine to go out of town for my shower.  I went out of town for my shower, came home late Sunday night, and went into labor at 32 weeks Monday evening. 

     Have you asked your doctor maybe if you had your paperwork sent to another doctor there just in case you went into labor if it would be okay?  I just ask this because my doctor had said if I did happen to go into labor they would just fax over my paperwork.

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  • katiegrlkatiegrl
    Wow I guess everyone is different. I am 25 weeks right now and while an 8 hour drive doesn't sound thrilling to me, I think i would be able to handle it fine! I feel great. I guess though you would rather be safe than sorry! :)
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