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F/U to money owed....

sarahryandrewlosarahryandrewlo
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So, would you step in and start doing it your way?  My way will not be nice , nor will it be maybe a phone call a week. I'm talking myspace/facebook, a phone call a day, and court threats. I am not willing to just say, "oh, oh well.."

Also, how would you get your H to call him??? I don't know what else to do, now it just becomes another thing to nag about and he stops listening....

 

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Re: F/U to money owed....

  • EvelynsmomEvelynsmom

    I don't think you can truely take him to court unless your DH and the guy signed something. 

    If it was me, I would give DH a deadline to talk to him and tell him what your approach would be if DH blows off the deadline.

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  • MrsBro6116MrsBro6116
    How long has it been since your DH loaned him the money? Since the last time he asked for it back?
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  • rommelearommelea
    I would give DH one more chance.  Suggest the payment plan and tell DH that you understand he doesn't want to burn any bridges and so if he doesn't feel comfortable congronting the issue you'd be happy to do it for him.  Give DH one more week to straighten things out THEN take it into your own hands.  However, I'd be careful - don't go in with guns blazing.  Try to work something out peacefully with the friend and if that doesn't work - then resort to excessive phone calls, facebook/myspace and court threats.
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  • Sequoyah ShoarsSequoyah Shoars member

    i would do it your way. i am going thru kinda the same thing (we lent guy a computer, he blew it up) and dh wont grow a pair and talk to him about it. i am about to be like, listen, pay up. the guy just bought a new dirt bike, when he owes me a computer.

    sometimes it takes a scary mafia lady to get your dollars back.

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  • sarahryandrewlosarahryandrewlo

    imageMrsBro6116:
    How long has it been since your DH loaned him the money? Since the last time he asked for it back?

    Well over a year!

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  • PuppyMommyPuppyMommy

    I can't help, but we have kind of the situation going on. About 7 (!!) years ago, my H (BF at the time) lent his brother about $800 for a plane ticket.  He never got the money.  I am annoyed b/c that is A LOT of money and I feel like my BIL totally took advantage of my H, who was making good money at the time.  I am always telling my H to say something and he won't. His brother has probably forgotten by now. I don't know how, but I wouldn't be surprised.

    It's very frustrating!

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  • MrsBro6116MrsBro6116
    imagesarahryandrewlo:

    imageMrsBro6116:
    How long has it been since your DH loaned him the money? Since the last time he asked for it back?

    Well over a year!

    EEP! Ya, I would start to be a little more aggressive.  If you wait any longer he may not even bother paying you back.

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  • LopoLopo
    imageEvelynsmom:

    I don't think you can truely take him to court unless your DH and the guy signed something. 

    Who knows if maybe you tell the guy who owes the money that court is an option, that won't scare him into starting to pay. 

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  • afgafg member

    Does your husband know something that he's not telling you? maybe that this "friend" told him he can't pay it back right now and just doesn't want to tell you because he knows you'll be mad, and that he knows he should insist on it back?

    I would be furious too. 

    The only way to get money back from someone like this is to call, call and keep calling and showing up at their house until they pay up. 

     

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  • PeskyPesky member
    I agree with giving your DH a drop-dead date ("honey, you have 2 weeks to settle this up or I can step in and do so because we can't afford to let $1000 go away.).  And you do not have to have a written contract to take this guy to small claims court.  Verbal/oral contracts are enforceable but just more difficult to deal with due to the "he said, she said" elements.  But I think the basic fact of the loan here (i.e. giving money with the intent of repayment) is fairly clear and that is what you will likely win on.  You can look up your local small claims courts procedures on line, as most have very good websites with forms and the like.


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  • Mama JanMama Jan member
    I just replied to your first thread.  But no, I would not start out with threats.  You don't want to make him defensive.  See my reply, but I think your DH should send him a gentle email reminder.  It seems that is easier for your DH that a phone call confrontation.
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