Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: *~*Sept Sweet Pea Wed Check In*~*
LMAO! I had a dream about George Bush Sr. and George Bush Jr. having sex missionary style.
And last night I had a dream about being in Italy and everyone was standing in line to learn how to deliver a baby.
Strange dreams here as well! I dreamed that we lost our dog & found her at the McDonalds drive thru like 2 weeks later.
Is this a sign that I've been eating too much McDonalds since pregnant & my dog knows that she could fine me there? Lol....
The dreams have been nuts, I have also dreamed that i am having a little boy, so i guess we'll see when i go for the 18 wk u/s if my dream is right! there was a twin dream too.....
Has anyone read the Jenny McCarthy book-chapter about dreams??....lol. she's so dead on.
i actually had a dream lastnight that i had a baby boy & the same day i brought him into work & had my co-worker hold him while i got some work done.
um- crazy is right!
look at the birds | bless this food
i actually just had a horrible dream last night that I lost the baby and I woke up crying. I know it was because I read yesterday about a few losses and was crying while I read those posts, so it just carried over into my dreams but - it was awfull!
other than that no other baby dreams yet. Hope everyone is feeling well! the night naseau seems to be fading although the heartburn is rapidly taking its place
*PGAL/PAL Welcome*
My Ovulation Chart
I've been having dreams of other people's babies and last night I dreamed I saw my baby after delivery wrapped in his/her blanket but they wouldn't tell me the sex.
I also have a doctor's appt today.
I was dreaming CRAZY dreams (every night, multiple times a night) from 4w - 7w but it's calmed down since then. My dreams have basically normalized out to what I'd been having before.
Weirdest dream: giving birth to a child who was 4 years old already. It was scary, painful, and I was peeved that I missed all the baby phases.
I don't know if I posted by due date yet or not. As of right now it's September 29th, Toots8125, 27
My due date may change at my first appt in 2 weeks but I don't think that it will.
wife to joe 2.2.08. mama to noah 9.5.09.
After multiple m/c's, a MTHFR diagnosis and the Lord calling both of our hearts in the same direction, we're adopting!
theluckiest
I had a dream about this relay race, called Reach the Beach, that DH and I have done for the past few years. Since the race is in Sept., I won't be doing it this year for obvious reasons :-)
Anyway, in my dream, I was in the race, not pg, and for some reason this annoying girl that I knew from high school was on the team. Mind you, I haven't seen this girl in over 10 years. Can't remember the details, something happened where I lost the keys to the van...it was really vivid, though.
Mary
EDD- 9/19/2009 RANDINKEVIN (Randi, 28)
I would like to be added, please.
EDD - 9/17/09 Elaine&Matt (Elaine, 34)
I have been having weird dreams for weeks now. But I don't always remember them. All I know is that they wear me out during the night because I'm exhausted when I get up in the morning.
No to the crazy dreams yet... atleast I cant remeber what they were about.
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PS... Ewwwww to the Bush dreams?sare_bear!?
I haven't had any dreams at all... I'm not sleeping very well, so I imagine that has something to do with it. I feel like all I do all night is switch from one side to the other, never comfy.
Also = QOTD suggestions:
1) Are you in maternity clothes yet? Have you started shopping?
2) Do you have any strong feelings if you are having a boy or a girl?