I'm starting back to work slowly and for about a month I've been working one day a week for 6 hours. ?I feed DS right before I leave so he should need to eat twice while I am gone...10 oz max. ?He is generally a fussy baby and for some reason, when I leave him, it gets MUCH worse and he eats almost non-stop. ?He has never taken a pacifier and in general seems hungry to my parents, sister, and DH (all watch him at different days). ?It's to the point where I pump every day in order to work one day a week. I only get about 2-3 oz total when I pump. ?With an active 2 year old and a baby who doesn't sleep much..I don't have any more time to pump while I am with them. ?I really don't know what to do because I want/need to increase my hours, but I don't have the time to pump anymore. ?Has this ever happened to anyone else? ?Should I start introducing formula so maybe they could mix 1/2 and 1/2 while I am gone?
Re: DS eats non-stop when I leave him - I can't keep up!!
It sounds like he's being overfed! Do they have other methods of coping with him? It sounds like he is anxious and trying to cope by sucking. Does anything else help him to calm down, like a swing or bouncy chair?
Has he had formula. If he hasn't, I would just have them give him a bottle of formula. Some BF babies are not too fond of formula so it might keep him more occupied.
I think they are doing everything they can....but I know that when he's upset he tends to eat more with me also. I'm not really about to tell them how to do it better since they are babysitting my 2 kids for free and I know he's a handful. I'm just not sure I'm going to be able to keep up with it.
Also, when he's like that (in one of his moods)...NOTHING pacifies him. ?not the swing, he never took/takes a pacifier, etc. ?My DH says that some days the only thing he can do is keep a bottle nearby to keep him from screaming for hours on end :-(. ?It's very sad really. ??
My EBF baby was fussy in the early months and didn't take a pacifier either. If your DS wants to suck for comfort, try having his sitter offer him a clean finger to suck on before offering a bottle. My DH tried this and it generally worked as long as the baby was not actually hungry.... If the baby is truly hungry, he will reject the finger and they can offer him a bottle.
Also, try putting small servings in the bottles (i.e, an ounce or two at most) this deters the sitter from overfeeding and prevents waste if the baby really isn't hungry. Check out the kellymom link below about bottle feeding a breastfed baby. Maybe you can give a copy to your relatives and gently suggest that they try this approach. https://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/bottle-feeding.html
Good luck.