Do you want your baby shower to be a surprise?

Bump Kaitlin · February 2009

Hi Ladies!

We're working on a baby shower story right now and wanted to get your feedback. Do you want your shower to be a surprise or would you prefer to know about it ahead of time?

If you can also quickly explain why or why not you'd want your baby shower to be a surprise, that would be great!

Thanks for reading,

Kaitlin

dmstar79 · February 2009

I definately want mine to be a surprise. I recently got married and am a little done with the festivities, but do want a shower. It's lazy of me to not to want to be involved, but it'd be nice to not have to worry about it while I'm buying a new house and creating life.

AshNicole331 · February 2009

No surprise for me. I know this sounds crazy, but I want to make sure I have a cute outfit! If it's a surprise I may show up in sweats!

thatgirlang · February 2009

I didn't want the date to be a surprise but I wanted everything else to be. At the point in my first pregnancy when I had my shower, I had a lot of rough days and wasn't always prepared (mentally or appearance wise) for any nice events. I needed the heads up of the date so I could rest up and look good! LOL

But I didn't know any of the party details, or even where it would be. I loved it.

CalinsBride · February 2009

I would want to know because I tend to not care what I look like unless I have a reason to, and I wouldn't want to be surrounded by people without make-up and in my sweats.

Vixey529 · February 2009

Honestly, I hate the idea of registering for gifts and helping plan a party that is just an excuse to force people into giving you presents.

IF I were to have a shower, I would want someone to plan it and throw it for me, a surprise would probably be preferable so that I couldn't try to talk them out of it!

rommelea · February 2009

I want to know about it. Mainly for me it's because I was totally shocked at my wedding shower and when I walked in the door and saw a bunch of people there what came out of my mouth was not very "bride-like" as my mother so kindly pointed out to me. Let's just say it involved more than one 4 letter word. I was also embarassed because I was in jeans and a sweatshirt with my hair in a ponytail and everyone else was in cute sundresses or nice outfits.

lkaylee721 · February 2009

No, I wouldn't like a surprise. First, I would worry the whole time leading up about how I was going to get everything since I apparently wasn't having a shower. I would also be kinda bummed about it, up until the surprise of course. In general, I don't like surprises. I like for things to be planned.

ParisPreggo · February 2009

I'd rather know about it... Be able to be ready(hair make-up ect) prep myself for the time i will have to spend with my in-laws ect. Doesn't really seem to be the kinda party you would want as a surprise because you would probably want to have a little say in the planning

JNicMTek · February 2009

I want to know at least the when and where. My wedding shower was a "surprise" but I knew when it was, and even pretty much figured out where. It seemed like a lot of work to try to keep it a secret. I've thrown surprise showers, and they are more of a pain than they're worth, to me anyway. The person of honor already knows a shower is coming, and can probably narrow down the when. But I'm not big on surprises anyway, so that's probably why I'm not into them.

Iamsmalls · February 2009

NOT a surprise. I'm much too much of a planner and the surprise would probably even annoy me.

staycee · February 2009

no surprise. If I don't think I have anything planned or to do on a weekend day, I spend most of it in sweats or jammies, no makeup and am lucky if I drag myself into the shower.

JJT · February 2009

I'd prefer to know because

1) I want to be able to register

2) If I were to be escorted unknowingly to a party there is no telling how horrible I'd be dressed or look. I'd really like to look as wonderful and happy as possible to i could look back on the photos.

However; if it were a 2nd shower for the 1st baby or a shower for a 2nd child; then I'd be up for whatever because it would be more then I ever expected!!

mavilabride · February 2009

I would not like mine to be a surprise. I give off this vibe of being high maintenance when in reality I'm extremely low maintenance and do not like people spending a lot of money on me. I think that any surprise showers given for me would force the person to feel the need to go above and beyond and therefore spend more money then they have to just to please me.

musicmama09 · February 2009

Definitely not! I had two surprise bridal showers and that was enough for me! Especially since at one shower, I looked horrible - baseball hat and everything! I'm already going to be pregnant, so I definitely want to look my best! Plus, it's fun to hear what my sisters-in-law are planning - helps time until the baby comes go by so much faster!

*blondie* · February 2009

I just found out this weekend that my husband's co-workers are throwing me a shower. I'm thrilled! And I'm glad I know about it. I otherwise wouldn't be having a shower and my registry will now have the appropriate items on it for a shower that dh and I originally thought we would just buy ourselves.

sherpa · February 2009

I think a surprise would be best for me. Knowing about a shower makes me have anxiety over the planning and organization; I would want my nose in everything. I'm also nervous about family getting along with each other and don't want to have to worry about it everyday until the party.

AutumnBride929 · February 2009

I would not want my shower to be a surprise because I like to plan to look all cutesy for events like that, lol. I don't just ALWAYS look great!!! Not to mention the fact that a surprise shower is impossible for me anyway since I have to fly up to Michigan for it.

Ace1599 · February 2009

No way Jose Conseco. If it were a surprise I would likely show up in Yoga pants and a ponytail, and no make-up...Not camera ready at all. Not to mention I HATE surprises.

MattresMuffin69 · February 2009

I do, but my MIL is planning it from 2.5 hours away, so I volunteered to help. My DH thinks I'm being a wench because I want it to be a surprise. I have absolutely none of my family coming, so I was hoping she would make it a surprise. Oh well. It'll be fun anyway.

ljlkm · February 2009

I wouldn't want the date to be a surprise, but everything else I'd love to be a surprise. In fact, I was just talking to my friend last night and she was grilling me about what I wanted in terms of where it should be or what theme I wanted--I told her that I would be completely happy with whatever she came up with and to just get creative! She said something about she wasn't sure whether that made it easier or harder to plan. Wink

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · February 2009

I would want to know when it would be and at least what type of clothing I should wear. I wouldn't want to show-up over or underdressed. My main concern about a surprise would be having to show up in my pj's because I didn't expect to do that and went out looking like crap. I'm not usually one to care about how I look on a normal day, but for a special occasion I wouldn't want to be surprised.

I wouldn't want to know the details, like location/food, etc. I like a little bit of a surprise!

Califragilistic · February 2009

Orig. i wanted it to be a surprise. Now I kinda want to know about it. Im not 100% sure why but I think its just so I can dress cute and not be a sloppy mess like I was when I had my surprise wedding shower. Also, I think I feel a little bad making everyone go through all the trouble of a surprise.

jenn0717 · February 2009

Not a fan of surprises myself, I would want to know at least the date and who was coming. I would also need to know when to be registered by, plus make sure I was looking cute for all the pictures that would be taken on that day.

edbetsy1 · February 2009

With my first child my family had a surprise baby shower planned for me. With all my snooping around I found out about it and my mom was pretty upset with me. I ended up in labor the day before my shower and had my daughter the day of my baby shower. The party went on without me. If I have one this time, I defintely want to know about it so I don't have to snoop around.

Mary and Dave · February 2009

I wouldn't mind either, but my friends that are throwing the shower have asked for my input, so I plan on helping with the brainstorming process. The same girls planned my bridal shower, they kept the details of that secret, and it was an amazing bridal shower!

Bride7-7-07 · February 2009

No I would not want a surprise.

1. I am a planner and have to know everything.

2. I don't think anyone could pull it off without me knowing. I'm too nosy.

3. I want to look my best and be dressed up, not look like some sloppy mess in sweats with my hair in a bun and no makeup on.

jolis_petits_bijoux · February 2009

I would prefer for it to not be a surprise. I'm happy with whatever I get, but that's just my preference.

Surprises are nice, but not when I'm in my mid-late third trimester. I would prefer to prepare for it, so I can at least bother to make myself look halfway decent and get myself in the frame of mind for socialization. Wink

If a friend/family member were to surprise me with a shower, I would at least hope that they would disguise it under the pretense that we were going to a birthday party - or something along those lines. That way, I'd know to dress myself somewhat nicely, and to bother to put hair and makeup on. Wink I would not want to show up at my shower unshowered, with smeared makeup, in my yoga pants and a sweatshirt, when I just thought I was stopping by a friend's house.

cszlachta · February 2009

I am not having a surprise shower for two reasons. First, I would like to be able to wear something cute and have my hair/makeup looking good. Secondly, I'm pretty good about figuring out what's going on around me, and I would feel bad for the people who are spending so much time and energy trying to keep it a surprise.

sept9thbride · February 2009

No, but in my family I don't have a choice. My mom wants it to be a surprise and since my sister's was a surprise, my sister isn't any help with changing her mind!

GreenBride624 · February 2009

No suprise shower for me! I don't like suprise parties, I feel like the person of honor is always so overwhelmed that they can't enjoy the party.

Due to my job, there are some random weekends where I have to go into work b/c of upcoming deadlines. I know when my baby shower is so that I don't tell work I am available on that Saturday.

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