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penny for your thoughts (pg ment)

JackiTigerJackiTiger
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I need some feedback from women I trust.  My friend, who's also IF, wrote this in her blog about her feelings about attending baby showers: 

The only positive emotion I get from these showers is knowing that I look better than the moms-to-be and the women who look completely haggard from all of their sleepless nights. In fact, anytime I attend a function with "mommies" and "mommies-to-be," I'm dressed to the nines. Trust me, I am aware of how vain that sounds, but it's the little things that give me peace these days. I try to find comfort in knowing that their husbands might be fantasizing about sleeping with me as opposed to them. Pathetic? Yes. Satisfying? Definitely!

 My question is, what do you think about this?  Taking it too far?  Just being honest?  Just showing the pain of IF?  Or just sounding like a huge b!tch?  I already have an opinion on this but am wondering if I'm sensitive to this b/c I'm currently pg and maybe my pg is jading my opinion


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  • HazelEyes730HazelEyes730 member
    Granted she's being honest but I think what she said was very rude and completely b!tchy!  Yeah showers are rough but that's taking it a little too far considering you would trade places with any one of those sleep deprived haggard ladies any day. I vote honest b!tch.
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  • XXXXX222XXXXX222 member

    For whatever my opinion is worth: It's her blog and all, but everything was understandable until this part:?

    I try to find comfort in knowing that their husbands might be fantasizing about sleeping with me as opposed to them.

    If it's readable by her friends, that's a bit much.?

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  • tivogirltivogirl
    The part about the husbands wanting to sleep with her is a little out there... I think some people just do what they can to cope.  I have been to a few baby showers and bithdays parties and thoughts have crossed my mind about things like ....I can do whatever I want when I want and my conversations don't revolve around all things baby but the reality is I want what they have but I might never get it so for me I just try to shield myself from the pain by being my bitter infertile self but I usually don't say it outloud or in a blog.
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  • ChrysallysChrysallys member
    She def. is over compensating for her sadness/bitterness/jealousy/what have you in my opinion. And I agree that the husband thing is a bit much and pretty disrespectful if she has this blog up for these friends to read.
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  • JackiTigerJackiTiger

    Here are the 2 parts that bug me:

    1. The only positive emotion I get from these showers is knowing that I look better than the moms-to-be and the women who look completely haggard from all of their sleepless nights.

    2. I try to find comfort in knowing that their husbands might be fantasizing about sleeping with me as opposed to them. Pathetic? Yes. Satisfying? Definitely!

    The thing is, I get wanting to look really nice when you go to a shower.  Once I started going thru IF, I tried to take the mindset of, "If I look good, I feel good," so that part makes sense to me.  If I have to go to a shower which is emotionally awful for me, I at least want to look good.  But the way she says it just seems so mean and shallow.  And the second comment I just think is completely fuucked up.  This is my co-teacher's blog...I spend every work day with her.  Joy....  

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  • pmarie33pmarie33 member
    Being honest is one thing, but flaunting it takes it to another level.
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  • Nikki1007Nikki1007

    Yikes! I get the part about wanting to look good and all, but findimg comfort in thinking the pregnant women's/mother;s husbands want to sleep with her, that is taking it way too far.

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  • JackiTigerJackiTiger
    Thanks for your honesty, ladies.  I didn't know if I was just reading too much into it or taking it personally or if it really was just a bit messed up. 
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  • beadgirl2beadgirl2 member
    I hate baby showers too but that is just way messed up. 
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  • AlpacaBunnyAlpacaBunny member
    I agree that the part about the husbands is way over the line.  Knowing it is your co-teacher and that she knows you read her blog...that's a little, no, a lot, b!tchy of her. 
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  • Mainer-in-TexasMainer-in-Texas
    Yeah, the husband thing is just awful, and I don't get it. Feeling better about yourself because you look better than someone, I can see that - but wanting your friends husbands to fantasize about you? Nice friend she is.
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  • koynkoyn member
    I pretty much agree with pp's.  But it takes time to write a blog and before you submit it you usually read it and make a choice to put it up.  And even if you don't you read it after and can remove it so I can't help but think that she is into shock value as well.  Which is really douchy of her.
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