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How to help my PREG neighbour

BradysGalBradysGal member
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My neighbour we have spoken to here and there. Today she called me and we talked for 3 hours! She is 38 and I am 30. But she found out she is pg and is really scared. She had a bad childhood and doesn't think she will be a good mom. I guess cause I just had a baby she thought she could call on me.

Being younger I didn't know what advice to give her I was just a listening ear for her. But we act had a lot in common. I feel so weird now that I have gotten off the phone with her. I feel bad she said she is so down in the dumps and scared.

 I want to do something little for her like bake or send her flowers. What would you do? Her husband doesn't want anyone to know he is not thrilled cause they are older.

I thought maybe i could send her flowers just saying Happy Spring.

I just want her to know I am here for her to talk to and not to feel awkward that she just opened up to me drastically today!

Anyone suggest anything!?

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Re: How to help my PREG neighbour

  • honeybeezhoneybeez
    Make her a pregnancy basket or something...all of the things that you liked or needed when you were pg.
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  • KellyNAaronKellyNAaron
    Maybe a good book about pregnancy? Also, probably just keep in contact with her, invite her to go/do things with you and the baby or just come over and hang with you. That way she can spend some time with a baby and maybe that will help her feel more comfortable. Maybe you can also suggest these boards for her?
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  • GonnaBMrsBellGonnaBMrsBell

    Since her husband wants to keep it hush hush right now, I like your idea of sending the Happy Spring Flowers.  Also, I might see if she wanted to come over for coffee and to visit with you and your child. 

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  • JOEBunnyJOEBunny member

    Maybe just ask her if she would like to go for a walk after work or something.  I don't think a gift is really necessary.  Maybe a pregnancy book if you want to do something, like Belly Laughs, or something fun. 

    38 is really not that old.  I have several friends who had first children well into their 40's.  In my circle, having a baby in your 20's is odd, in your later 30's is pretty standard.

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  • BradysGalBradysGal member

    these are all great things ladies. I was telling her about the nest board...she was like are they real people? Yes as far as I know I said!

     

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  • brideofaussiebrideofaussie

    Tell her that that is not that old!

    My mom had me (her first) at 38 and my sister at 44 and that was in 1978!

    I'm sure she'll be fine, especially b/c she's older.  But definitely just let her know you're there for her.

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