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I'm embarrassed about how upset I am about my stretch marks...

Cath&BrianCath&Brian
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Can I preface before I'm flamed:

I appreciate how blessed I am to be pregnant with these two beautiful, healthy boys. ?I wouldn't trade any of the nasty pregnancy "complications" I've experienced if it meant I couldn't have them. ?(And I don't consider stretch marks a complication...) I'm not, nor have I ever been, a particularly vain person.

That said, I can't help feeling almost depressed about these stretch marks. ?It's surprising to me how upset I am about it, as like I said, I've never been particularly worried about my body image (and I didn't come into pregnancy with a perfect body- I probably had 20 extra pounds on me). ?I look like I've been mauled. ?They circle my middle from spine to belly button. ?They're angry red, deep, and some are as thick as my fingers. ?I just noticed they're starting to bleed. ?No matter how lotioned up I am, they itch like I've never experienced itch before. ?I'm not even that big- I'm measuring 36 weeks right now. ?And yes, I know I grew faster b/c it's twins, but I know not every MoM gets them. ?They got significantly worse during the 5 weeks I spent in bed in the hospital- I'm sure because of how dry it was there and the fact that I had the gel on my belly for 3+ hours a day drying me out even more. ?

I'm so embarrassed about how upset I am about them. ?I'm sure I'll wish I never posted this; I don't want to sound ungrateful because PLEASE believe me that's not the case. ?I'm just sad that at 28 years old I've already lost any confidence to be naked in front of my husband, or even wear a bathing suit (they've spread to my thighs). ?It's just upsetting. ?Am I alone?

OK, vent over. ??

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Re: I'm embarrassed about how upset I am about my stretch marks...

  • pea-kaypea-kay member

    don't feel bad for how you feel...it's okay!

    if it's any consolation, they will get somewhat better after they boys are born. i promise! 

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  • Sally JSally J member
    Don't feel embarrassed...you are having a completely normal feeling.  They will get better after pregnancy...I noticed a tremendous difference in mine within a few months.  I'm now considering a bikini for this summer!  My husband doesn't seem to mind either....nothing I can do about anyhow.
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  • GretchenlovesMichaelGretchenlovesMichael

    aww i want to give you a big (((HUG))).... do NOT feel bad about having these feelings - it is SO clear how much you love your babies and that you'd be willing to go through anything for them.  i think most anyone would feel the way you do about the stretch marks - they sounds horribly uncomfortable and for them to be bleeding, how awful :(  i think you're prob right that the dry hosp air and the gel made them much much worse.

    i know i am definitely bummed about starting to get some stretch marks too - i think it is completely natural to be not so in love with them ;)  and like i said, bleeding is a whole other story - i would def be miserable with that too.  and like you, i would do anything in the world for these babies :)

    hang in there lady - i hope they get much much better as soon as those little miracles are born :)

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  • twinmich20twinmich20
    I've lived with stretch marks for so long that I can't even remember not having them. When I was younger I was pretty heavy. I started to lose weight and developed stretch marks on my hips, stomach and boobs. My husband never did seem to mind them, but I've always been very self conscious about them. I know I will get more with my pregnancy so I'm not going to even worry about them. It's part of life.
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  • MelZullMelZull
    Dont feel bad at all. Luckily I didnt get too many stretch marks during my pregnancy, but I hate the ones I do have and I hate the way my belly now looks. I think it is totally normal to feel this way. We have lived in our "normal" bodies for so long and then all of a sudden everything has changed and there isnt much we can do about it.?
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  • Livvie's MomLivvie's Mom
    I could have written this post myself.  I don't know why it's affecting me so much.  I think it's b/c it's irreversible and there's nothing you can do to get rid of them.  Yes, I realize that it's for the babies and it's all good but it still makes me want to cry when I see them getting worse every day.  I live by the beach and go all the time.  I have had stretch marks in the past and I personally don't think they look all that better when they're silver...  Don't feel bad, I'm having a super hard time getting over them. 
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  • lanielovelanielove

    Oh, Catherine, I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. I got stretch marks on my hips, and I didn't love it, but it wasn't a huge deal.

    But they hit my stomach - my previously cute, smooth stomach.  And now I feel like my skin is this weird bumpy place and it makes me so sad.  I feel gross and ugly.

    I didn't love my body before - but I did love my tummy.  But now, I got nothin'!

    (((HUGS)))

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