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I caved...and now I feel bad :(

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Went to the doc today for my 41 (!) week visit. Not much progress; 60% effaced, fingertip dialated and -2 station. The mw suggested first that I wait until 42 to weeks to schedule an induction, which, when she worked out the dates wound up being next Monday (because they won't induce on the weekend), when I'd be 42w2d.   I asked if they could schedule it sooner, so she did, for this Tuesday, when I'll be 41w3d.

Now I feel guilty, like I am being selfish and rushing my baby out when it's not ready. I cried all the way home from the doctor and I can't help thinking that I'm just being a baby about this. Would you have waited?

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Re: I caved...and now I feel bad :(

  • ashmariebay02ashmariebay02
    I wouldn't have...I would have done just as you did!
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  • sweetmelissa0707sweetmelissa0707 member
    Since you are full term (overdue) and if everything is healthy for you and baby, I don't think it is selfish to schedule an induction, furthermore, there's a good chance now that you will go into labor on your own, if Murphy's law also applies to pregnancy. Good Luck!
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  • shannynhallshannynhall
    I would have waited. If it really feels that wrong you could reschedule couldn't you?
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  • CrunchyMamaCrunchyMama
    Don't feel bad! You're overdue made the best decision for you and that's all that counts.
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  • grettazgrettaz member
    I personally would want to wait, but you need to do what you feel comfortable with.  At 41w3d I don't think anyone could accuse you of being selfish and rushing the baby out.  If you want to meet your baby on Tuesday, go for it and don't feel bad.  I'm sure baby is ready by now.
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  • AlliVeAlliVe
    no you are not rushing the baby, do not feel bad.  you have given the baby all the time it needs to develop and be healthy. now it is time for him/her to enter this world. :)
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  • balihaigirlbalihaigirl member
    I prob would have done the same.  I would like to avoid an induction too but I know I'll be open to it anytime after 41W.  GL to you! :)
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  • onelove13onelove13 member
    Don't feel guilty! ?You have to do what is right for you....To be honest, I couldn't wait that long to be induced! ?At 40 weeks I would be going crazy! Don't worry, you are doing nothing wrong!!
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  • BabyMamaErinBabyMamaErin member

    umm.. I don't think at 41w 3d you're rushing your baby out.
    I would have asked if they could do it today. heehe, but thats just me Smile

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  • jl_ncjl_nc
    i was just going to say murphy's law applies to pregnancy...since it IS the weekend coming up, and you have an infinite date for induction (and to see your little one) it is possible that you can still go into labor on your own!!! we have seen girls on here that happened to!
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  • Brittany GoodwinBrittany Goodwin
    I wouldn't feel guilty. You are already overdue as it is, and baby is well developed. There are risks involved with waiting too long as well.
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  • Somethingclever25Somethingclever25 member
    hell no i would not have waited at all. get that baby out. you are over due give yourself a break. there is to much importance on the whole wait till the baby comes thing. some women never go into labor on their own. my mil was this way with all her kids. all of them had to be induced when she was overdue.
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  • Mrslove78Mrslove78 member
    That?s how I felt when I had to do an amnio, guilt. I have the feeling it's just the beginning of those feelings, I have heard guilt is a big part of being a mom. Perhaps things will move along faster than you'd expected. Never know. You made a good decision, your baby DOES want to come out and be with you.
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  • csuramcsuram

    I am having the same struggle but I am not even at 41 weeks yet :( As long as your cervix is favorable and you are full term you shouldnt feel bad being induced.  I am only making it to 40 weeks and 5 days.

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  • ck715ck715 member

    I would have done the same thing. I was only 4 days late with DS and I couldn't take it anymore....I remember crying at a doc appt the day he was due because I had had enough.?

    You did the right thing. ?

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  • 2bejunebride062bejunebride06 member
    I don't think you are rushing your baby out at all.  I think you have to do what is right for you in this case.  If you are really upset about it, couldn't you just call and tell them that you changed your mind?  I mean, I'm sure they could change it back to 42 weeks.  I hope you go into labor on your own before that though!  It won't be much longer now.  ((hugs))
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  • ehkikaehkika member
    If it wasn't safe for you or baby then your doctor wouldn't have done it.  Don't worry about it and just be excited to see your little one. 
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  • thenewmrsrussellthenewmrsrussell
    I would have done the same thing. 41 and 3 is long enough!
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  • Ashley PharezAshley Pharez
    Don't worry mama! Your baby is perfectly ready to come!
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  • Andys_CandyAndys_Candy
    I would not call that "caving"...and I'm completely against induction!!  I'd be getting scared after 41 weeks so I think you are doing the exact right thing, I would too!! 
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  • sparkman-to-besparkman-to-be member
    I would have made the same decision you did. And you never know, it could happen over the weekend!! Good luck!
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