Does your pedi give you advice?

brightning · February 2009

I've read several things lately about pedis who have given advice on sleeping in cribs and what foods to offer. We've had 2 pedis and neither has offered advice unless I asked. Does your pedi give you unsolicited advice? Our well-baby checkups are just measurements and shots and pedi will ask what DD is doing lately. I say a few things, they might ask about something I didn't mention, and that's the end. Is that normal?

Erika6504 · February 2009

Kind of, but not in a "you need to do this" way.

At the last appointment (this past Tuesday), the pedi asked if DD STTN. She will occasionally and I told him that. He asked what I did if she woke up and I told him I'll go in there and rock her or rub her back. He did say that if I stopped doing that, we might have a few rough nights but she would probably STTN within 2-3 days.

It was more of an FYI type of thing. When I told him I didn't really want to do that, he was cool with it and kind of shrugged.

acppa · February 2009

Our normal visit is like this. ?Nurse does weight and height and asks if we have any problems. ?Dr comes in and checks him out and talks to him. ?She usually gives him crayons and asks him the parts of the body. ?If I have any questions I usually have to get them in at the end. ?I check with her that I have the correct dosages for tylenol and motrin at each visit. ?

Oh, she does keep telling me (every visit) that DS looks just like DH and that the next one will be a girl. ?Why she does this I have no clue.

I don't think the Pedi gives me advice. ?She offers information like what to put on a rash or what lotion to try but not so much advice like what to feed him. ?

In my case, I specifically asked what her/the office's thoughts were about peanut butter and what age they suggest giving it to kids. ?Had she said to wait I would have but she said that without family allergies they suggest that it is fine after 12 months... ?I know it was up to me when to try it. ?I honestly never thought that he would be allergic. ??

luckyladyNJ · February 2009

My pedi doesn't give advice unless we ask a question about something specific...although, they do give us a print out of guidelines/advice specific to my ds' age group every visit, so I guess that's a form of unsolicited advice.

gisellems · February 2009

not really, i mostly have to ask all the questions and make sure i cover everything i need to know or ask, our appointments usually are pretty short, just checking him making sure he is doing ok, he asks a few questions about what he is eating and if he is walking or doing certain things, that all..

DevonPow · February 2009

Our pedi does because I ask - we have a lot of conversations about things like sleeping, eating, when to potty train, etc. I am one who likes to gather a lot of information (I read a lot of child development books, places like this board, friends, etc.) and our pedi is a wealth of information. I figure she has experience with thousands of kids, so why not ask? I don't feel in any way pressured to do exactly what she says. but her style and mine are very similar, so I tend to heed her advice. She has yet to let me down.

Halo79RN · February 2009

we've been through 3 pedis (b/c of moves, all have been great). The first one was AWESOME with dd but I rarely got to see her.... she did offer advice. they were very pro bf'ing and offered plenty of help and advice with the process (we had major latch issues). One in this office actually sat with me in the hospital for a time (the pedi) showing me how to hold dd and how to get her to latch. They were great.

#2 offered advice on discipline. He was big into 1,2,3 Magic books/program and ignoring tantrums. Like at dd's 1st bday well visit he said, Now she may start throwing tandrums, it's best to ignore the behavior. That sort of thing. But he wasn't pushy either. Easy to talk to.

Pedi #3 is more cut and dry, only advice if I ask and then not much. She's young, has a child younger than my eldest. no big advice from her.

I worked in a peds clinic for a short time and I really liked some of the pedis with grown kids. Most had bf (or their wives did), some even coslept with their kids when they were babies. They were great with advice. There was a parent at dd's preschool who is a new pedi (new to a practice here, not the one we go to thank God) and he was offering his opinion left and right regarding parenting tips (anti cosleeping and such) at the first day of school. there were many rolled eyes and snickers at this man. the way he did it seemed pretentious and rude. I think most experienced pedis offer advice but also realize that each child is different and will be willing to help you find the right path.

katy75 · February 2009

She does. Usually when I ask something or she asks a routine question and I give her the first time mom clueless look. Othertimes, she will give unsolicited advice on how to help with the next transition. She did this with switching to milk. She also did this around 9ish months when she told me that some babies start to wake up during the night at this age and to not worry and let her fuss. But, if my mom instinct told me I needed to go to her, then I needed to go. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my pedi! I was in today and had a question on PB. She told me about the conflicting reports and then told me how she handled it with her own kids.

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