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Need a pep talk- so scared about having two!
Girls, I am scared. I am probably being ridiculous, but how in the heck am I going to handle a busy 27 month old and a newborn?!
Jackson didn't sleep through the night until 18, yes 18 months..... we are still recovering from that!
I remember being up all night with him when he was a newborn- I just don;t know how others do it... I am so worried about how I am going to handle everything. The house, the husband, bills, keeping Jack stimulated, nursing on demand, not getting cooped up and depressed, dinners, ect...
I am glad they will be so close, both my kids will always have a playmate, a friend for vacation, someone to play with all the time- but I know the first year is going to be tough.
It's probably hormones. I go from being over the moon, to shaking in my boots!
I could use some encouragement- if anyone has any!
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Re: Need a pep talk- so scared about having two!
Well, I don't have any first-hand advice, obviously. But I know you will be fine! My cousin has two that are 18 months apart and it was tough when her youngest was first born, but she got through it. It seems like you have a great, helpful, supportive husband, so that will be a great help. And I've only met you once, but you are a wonderful mom!! You will do wonderfully!
(This is about the age difference we want for Lucas and the next one, so you'll have to let me know how it goes!)
hey! my kids are about that spacing (25 months apart) and it has been a little chaotic, but i think that there are going to be struggles with whatever spacing you have. my toddler is also a boy and was a very high-needs baby and a late sleeping through the nighter, too (16 months). this is the spacing we were hoping for, b/c we wanted our kids to grow up close to each other and go through similar stages together and i think it will only get better and better. i think the best thing about having a second baby is that you are already in the mom mode, so while it's definitely an adjustment to care for two, things don't seem as overwhelming as they did when you brought your first-born home from the hospital. you're more confident in your parenting... at least, that's how my husband and i felt. also, i like the 2 year spacing b/c my son will never really know anything different than having a baby sister. my husband has been amazing and we just do a lot of tag team parenting right now (he usually takes care of our son, while i typically take care of our daughter, b/c she's still nursing around the clock). i could really go on and on about it, but really just know that you can do it and like a pp said, the hard times will pass and they'll be a faded memory before you know it. my baby is already 4 months old and the time has flown by WAY quicker this time around!! every single day, even if we've had a wild one, my husband and i say that we just love our growing family so much!
you'll be great.
I'd be more worried if you weren't freaking out, it's totally normal. You'll be just fine. Your DS will be old enough that he'll enjoy helping out with his new sibling and he'll probably be able to keep himself entertained for short periods of time. I read Avery a lot of books while bf'ng and found things she could do like coloring or watching a movie. My aunt had the brilliant idea to give DD her own baby doll after DS was born and she really enjoyed "feeding" her baby while I was feeding DS.
Take it from me, not all kids are alike. My first was a great sleeper from day one and my second didn't sleep until 1 year. The first few weeks are tough, but as your little one gets older and your kids can play together it gets so much easier. The first year was hard, but I'm even starting to contemplate #3. Hang in there!
You're not alone, honey! I worry about all of this too and especially the huge lifestyle change I will go through as a new stay at home mom.
We are close by each other so we'll just keep each other sane somehow. At least we can cry to each other on those bad days??
Mom to Lily Gayle 4.25.06 Charlotte Kathleen 3.27.09 Samuel Thomas ~8.4.12~
I'm sure you'll do great! I have to admit that I am very scared too and we are not even TTC #2 yet - so I think being scared and nervous is normal. You'll find your routine - much like I'm sure you did with J....it will be hard at first but then you'll get in your groove! I try and think this way - having #1 was a huge shock to my DH and I and then we just figured out what worked for us and it became easier - I can't speak for sure but I keep thinking #2 will be different and challenging for me too until I find my groove again! :-) Is there any responsibility you can give to your husband?...maybe the bills, or getting a cleaning lady 1x/month or anything like that?? Also, my DD and I do lots of library and music classes and there are toddlers there with their moms and then they also have a newborn - gives the toddlers chance to run with other kids and burn off some energy while the baby is in the seat sleeping and then mom is able to sit and talk with other moms! Good Luck!