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SD's birthday

j+kj+k
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She turns 19 tomorrow.  I bought a card, but DH wrote in it, signed it for both of us and addressed it. No money. No gift.  Because we don't know her new boyfriend's address, he has sent it to her mom's.  Normally, this has been my job. No more. DH is going to be the primary from here on out.

Several times in the past couple of weeks SD she has asked DH if she is getting a birthday present and DH repeatedly has said, "bailing you out of the car mess was your birthday present."  She has told him she wants him to send money. He's not budging. And neither am I.

I am so stinkin' proud of my husband. He's come a long ways.  It's been a long time comin'.....

 

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  • xmaryrickxxmaryrickx member
    Mr.J+K gets a gold star. Good job on being strong and not giving in to her.
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  • FloF9FloF9 member
    Survey says:  Yes
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  • bbj1bbj1

    Kuddos to DH, and you too for fighting the good fight. 

    Good lord she is going to be sooo freaking mad!!!  Wow, would I like to be a fly on that wall.  The drama will be unbelievable.  She will play up the victim card, and say "see I told you so" to everyone who will listen.  I might prepare for some nasty texts and backlash if I were you two.

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  • dmstar79dmstar79 member
    Tough love is so much harder on the parents than the child.  Good for you both!
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  • PlannedChaosPlannedChaos
    Good for you guys.  And with your DH signing and sending the card, she can't say it's just you!
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  • j+kj+k

    I'm not so sure she will bbj. She's already been told no 3 times that I know of.  She doesn't get mad so much over no gifts but she will use it in the future.  

    This is just the begining of what I expect to be a very long process of her learning to treat those that love her better and that drama will get her nowhere with us.  

    DH is great tho. I can not tell you how great it is to see him understand the power he has now over his own life and that he doesn't have to let her do this to him (us) anymore. 

     

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  • bbj1bbj1
    That's great.  I didn't know she'd been warned already.  Good luck, I hope your husband keeps up the good attitude towards it all, even if it can be painful to have to tell your kids no.
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    I'm proud of him too, I honestly did not know if he would ever get here...he's doing great.
    Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
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