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WendyKWendyK
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Would you ever ask the parents of your DC's friends (once they can play at there friends homes) if there is a gun in the house. My folks were always very open about this with anyone who stayed over at my house that there was gun but it was locked up. While I will educate my child about not touching guns, this is one question that I think I will ask.
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  • KoriBrettKoriBrett
    Yes we would/will.
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  • DevonPowDevonPow member
    Honestly, I probably would never even have thought of it, just because it is very rare for people around here to have guns. But now that I think of it, yes I would/will (when DS is an age that he will be there without me).
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  • hopefulmomhopefulmom member

    No I would not and if I were asked that question I would tell the person it isn't any of their business.  They can make the choice if they don't want their child playing at my house.  I know which of my friends have guns and I educate my DC's about gun safety.  Two of them are/were hunters so they know gun safety.   My friends know we have guns and would not ask us questions about it.  BTW...I never havehad kids come over if I'm not home with them.  It's not like I didn't know what they were were and what they were doing (even as teenagers). Our house is not that big and the guns are in our bedroom and kids have no business in there and the door was/is always closed.

     

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  • DaiLyghtDaiLyght
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    No I would not and if I were asked that question I would tell the person it isn't any of their business.  They can make the choice if they don't want their child playing at my house.  I know which of my friends have guns and I educate my DC's about gun safety.  Two of them are/were hunters so they know gun safety.   My friends know we have guns and would not ask us questions about it.  BTW...I never havehad kids come over if I'm not home with them.  It's not like I didn't know what they were were and what they were doing (even as teenagers). Our house is not that big and the guns are in our bedroom and kids have no business in there and the door was/is always closed.

    How do you expect parents to make an educated choice as to having their child play at your house if you wouldn't answer the question? Is it really that different than someone asking if you have a pool at your house, also for safety reasons? Yet, you claim to know which of your friends houses have guns, so why would be out of line for someone to ask? Those friends that do know you have them - are they psychic? I'm sorry, but this all seems so contradictory to me.

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  • r9stedtr9stedt
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    No I would not and if I were asked that question I would tell the person it isn't any of their business.? They can make the choice if they don't want their child playing at my house.? I know which of my friends have guns and I educate my DC's about gun safety.? Two of them are/were hunters so they know gun safety.?? My friends know we have guns and would not ask us questions about it.? BTW...I never havehad?kids come over if I'm not home with them.? It's not like I didn't know what they were were and what they were doing (even as teenagers).?Our house is not that big and the guns are in our bedroom and kids have no business in there and the door was/is always closed.

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    Just because they know gun safety, doesn't mean they practice it. ?

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    To answer to OP, no, I probably wouldn't think to ask. ? I wouldn't be letting my child, for right now, play at someone's house without me knowing them very well.?

    And, BTW, we keep all of our guns in a locked safe. ?

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  • jpowell3jpowell3
    Yes I will, but knowing me whenever that time comes around I will probably forget!
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  • cuwifecuwife

    Yes, because my DH is a cop and people know he has one and they have asked me where we have it in our house and we are responsible with it but I know other cops aren't as responsible with theirs. I will ask because some people don't ever use common sense.

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  • MrsStubbsMrsStubbs member
    It would surprise me if there was anyone I know that does not have at least 1 gun in their home.
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  • butterbeansmamabutterbeansmama

    I really think there are a lot more people that have guns in there home than people realize. Especially, by the time DS or any other child of our's is old enough to play at a friends house.

    I probably would not ask. We have guns and they are not locked up (what would be the purpose for a personal protection gun if it was locked up all the time). They are in an area that ds can not get too and if he were to have friends over, I would know where ther kids were and what they were doing anyway. I would never leave the kids in the house by themselves.

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  • stcroixbridestcroixbride member
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    I really think there are a lot more people that have guns in there home than people realize. Especially, by the time DS or any other child of our's is old enough to play at a friends house.

    I probably would not ask. We have guns and they are not locked up (what would be the purpose for a personal protection gun if it was locked up all the time). They are in an area that ds can not get too and if he were to have friends over, I would know where ther kids were and what they were doing anyway. I would never leave the kids in the house by themselves.

    sorry, but for real?  this argument scares me...a lot.

    no matter how "safe" you think the gun is, it CAN be found.

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  • stacynikkistacynikki member
    It would also surprise me if someone didn't own a gun around us.  It's so cliche "Everyone in Texas owns a gun", but it's pretty true in our case especially since some of our friends are police officers.  We do have guns in our house as DH participates in shooting competitions.  I have every confidence that DH will teach DS gun safety and respect. 
    I would not be offended if anyone asked me if we had guns and how we kept them stored.  As a parent of a child who is staying in my house I think they have every right to know. 
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  • butterbeansmamabutterbeansmama
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    imagebutterbeansmama:

    I really think there are a lot more people that have guns in there home than people realize. Especially, by the time DS or any other child of our's is old enough to play at a friends house.

    I probably would not ask. We have guns and they are not locked up (what would be the purpose for a personal protection gun if it was locked up all the time). They are in an area that ds can not get too and if he were to have friends over, I would know where ther kids were and what they were doing anyway. I would never leave the kids in the house by themselves.

    sorry, but for real?  this argument scares me...a lot.

    no matter how "safe" you think the gun is, it CAN be found.

    Yep, for real :-)

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