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Do you think I am being mean/ immature?

lxlz611lxlz611
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So, I cannot stand my SIL. I seriously don't like her. I have tried and tried with DH's whole family, but I recently gave up.?

Here's the problem: My friend is pregnant and lives about 3 hours away. She will be in town March 7th for her baby shower. I received the invitation last week and plan on going. My SIL is pregnant and I found out that her shower is March 7th also and they are not planning on sending me an invitation. I guess they hope I hear through the grape vine. Anyway I am not going to SIL's shower. I have already committed to my friend's shower and since they are not sending me an invite, who is to say the I actually know about it, wink, wink.?

Am I being completely immature and do I just need to grow up? I guess I should add that SIL didn't go to my baby shower, never said why or if she was even sorry that she didn't go and did I mention that I don't like her, lol. After reading that I think I sound like a selfish b!tch, but oh well. ?

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  • GladToBeMrs.SRSGladToBeMrs.SRS member
    No invite = no go.  That's just how I roll.  IMO, you're totally justified in  not attending. 
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  • Mrs.tlcSMrs.tlcS member

    I agree with Glad.  If you didn't get an invitation, I would assume that meant you weren't invited. 

     

    Hell, I'm immature and petty, so I'd turn it around on her and act all pissy that I didn't get invited to my own neice's/nephew's baby shower

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  • lar1203lar1203 member
    you already had plans on march 7th!
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  • Temp76535187505890Temp76535187505890

    If you dont get an invite and no one from the family has given you a verbal invite then how can they possibly assume you are going to attend?  Plus, without any kind of invite it's not like you can't make other plans. 

    I'd do the same as you. 

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  • lxlz611lxlz611

    imageGladToBeMrs.SRS:
    No invite = no go.? That's just how I roll.? IMO, you're totally justified in? not attending.?

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    Thank you! DH's family is really crappy about sending invites. Like if they send one to my grandma in another state I should just assume I'm invited. But that is not how my family works. They have not sent us invites to things before and DH and I don't go. Oh and it really bugs me when they send my thank you card to my MIL's house. Really, I took the time to buy you a gift and you can't take the time to send the thank you tom MY house??

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  • mrsjjdmrsjjd
    ummmm....Why aren't you getting an invite? I totally wouldn't go to her's. If they don't care enough to send you an invite, why should you bother...
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  • lxlz611lxlz611

    imagemrsjjd:
    ummmm....Why aren't you getting an invite? I totally wouldn't go to her's. If they don't care enough to send you an invite, why should you bother...

    I guess the one my mom received should count as mine. Maybe the are trying to be more green LMAO. Actually I am kind of glad that I didn't get one because now I plan as the previous post said to turn it back on them. ?

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  • CABunnyCABunny member

    imageGladToBeMrs.SRS:
    No invite = no go.? That's just how I roll.? IMO, you're totally justified in? not attending.?

    My thought exactly.?

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  • triumphantreturnofplanningbugtriumphantreturnofplanningbug

    Ditto glad, plus a "you're totally not a bad person."

    Some things are ridiculous, this is one of them.

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  • avz2azbavz2azb

    imagelxlz611:

    Oh and it really bugs me when they send my thank you card to my MIL's house. Really, I took the time to buy you a gift and you can't take the time to send the thank you tom MY house??

    At least you get thank you notes. I don't from several members of DH's family.

    Oh and I agree with the pps, you didn't get an invite. You aren't a mind reader.?

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  • *speedracer**speedracer* member
    even if they do invite you to SIL, you were invited to your friend's shower first so you can say you are already committed on that day.
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  • Fun2DreamFun2Dream
    imageavz2azb:

    imagelxlz611:

    Oh and it really bugs me when they send my thank you card to my MIL's house. Really, I took the time to buy you a gift and you can't take the time to send the thank you tom MY house??

    At least you get thank you notes. I don't from several members of DH's family.

    Oh and I agree with the pps, you didn't get an invite. You aren't a mind reader.?

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    Ditto that - not only do I not get thank you NOTES, they don't even thank me in person or on the phone when I talk to them next. ?It drives me batty!!?

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  • goinggreengirlgoinggreengirl
    no invite= no go. Who would expect someone to come to something they weren't invited to?
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  • SapphyrEyesSapphyrEyes
    Not in the least.  Plus, why should you go if she couldn't bother to attend the shower to celebrate the arrival of her own nephew.  You can call me a b!tch, but I totally get vindictive like that.
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  • SAHolidayBrideSAHolidayBride
    You have a prior commitment, and no invite to SIL's shower... no worries. :) I wouldn't give it a second thought. Besides, it's not your fault you'll get to spend the day with fun people you actually like instead of the IL's you don't. :)
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  • papagenapapagena member

    imageGladToBeMrs.SRS:
    No invite = no go.  That's just how I roll.  IMO, you're totally justified in  not attending. 

    Ditto.  Plus you have a prior engagement.

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  • rebus82rebus82

    As far as I'm concerned, no invitation means, no invitation. If they can't take the effort to invite you properly, they can't really care if you don't show up. And if they do, it's their own fault.?

    Of course, how do you know she wants to invite you? Maybe that's why you aren't getting an invite. I don't mean that to be rude, BTW, I'm sure you don't care at all :)?

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  • Mere7706Mere7706 member

    imageGladToBeMrs.SRS:
    No invite = no go.  That's just how I roll.  IMO, you're totally justified in  not attending. 

    Glad said it best.

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