Frustrated with my friend.

pookie2005 · February 2009

He let us borrow his huge van for our move which was great! Saved us some money or so we thought. He uses it to transport his band gear as he is in a group that tours a lot.

The window of the van was loose I guess and my wonderful dh decided to try to shut it and it shattered. We of course told our friend that we would pay for the damages. He wasn't mad and said that sounded fair. He hasn't said anything about it until today. He wants us to take it for an estimate this weekend but he's just mentioning it now and our weekend is booked already. I asked him if we could do it next weekend and he said that's no good for him. He suggests the 7th, which is Gracie's b-day party...no can do!

I feel bad b/c it's not fair for him to have to drive that thing with a broken window but what can we do? We are trying to free up a day this weekend but I don't know if we can.

He also wants us to take it for at least 3 estimates to get a fair price. I guess that's ok, but the estimates will cost us as well! He makes a good deal of money and we do not. We are already going to have to pay for this out of our tax return. We don't have the money up front for 3 or more estimates.

We are married with a kid and lot's of bills and he lives the bachelor/rockband life while also making big bucks working in insurance. How do I handle this? I want to give him what he is owed but he just doesn't understand our life-situation.

Jaylea · February 2009

Everything else aside, why would he not take his own vehicle for estimates? I get that you're going to pay for it, but I don't see why you have to take it for estimates.

Brideofranken · February 2009

if you're paying for it, what does he care if you get any estimates or just get it fixed?

minnasmommy · February 2009

why wouldn't he take it in for the estimate himself? you agreed to pay for the repairs. as long as your paying why does he insist on 3 estimates. is he going through his insurance or something?

Zenya · February 2009

why does he want multiple estimates if you are the ones paying for it?

ilovemygirls · February 2009

While it's nice that he wants you to pay a "fair price", why does he care since you're going to foot the bill anyway? Plus it's a window, not body damage. You do need to get it fixed ASAP though, even if it means moving around or cancelling plans for this weekend. I'd have your DH schedule something with a place this weekend, get the van from him (even if it means giving him your vehicle for awhile & you stay home w/kids) and just get it done. I'm sorry, that sucks- I hate those unexpected expenses.

pookie2005 · February 2009

Jaylea:
Everything else aside, why would he not take his own vehicle for estimates? I get that you're going to pay for it, but I don't see why you have to take it for estimates.

I guess because he's so busy with work. IDK. I thought it was strange too but what can I do? It's our fault it broke.

CBKMRB · February 2009

Right, it is your fault it got broke but as long as it gets fixed why does he care how? I would tell him either:

A. he takes it to get estimates and you will give him the money for the window

or

B. you will just take it and get it fixed.

Sounds like he is just making things dificult.

amanda&rob · February 2009

Why do you have to pay for estimates? I have been in plenty of accidents and have never had to pay for any estimates. Maybe it is a regional thing? IDK, call around and see if they give free estimates. Sorry you guys have to by a window with your tax check. ugh.

katie277s · February 2009

Brideofranken:
if you're paying for it, what does he care if you get any estimates or just get it fixed?

Agreed. And if he insists on being there for the estimate, then why do you need to be there?

gibs · February 2009

I think you're being ridiculous. You broke the window and you have a 'busy weekend' so you can't fix it, and so now he has to drive a van with a broken/shattered window? Suck it up and get it taken care of ASAP. Make it a priority and stop whining

pookie2005 · February 2009

Wow! I wasn't expecting to get so many responses! Thanks, ladies!

Um, well dh just called me and said he found a few places that will do free estimates so that is good!

We just told him we'd get the estimates done because we feel badly about it. I DO think it's a little funny that he wants us to get so many. As far as I know, we are just paying for this...he hasn't said anything about going through insurance. He may only have liability on it because it's a '98.

Thanks for the support. We are going to try and reschedule something to get it done sooner.

Shelly203 · February 2009

We just had to get my windshield replaced because a neighbor kid threw a rock and hit it and it cracked it. Here's what I did: I called several places and got free estimates over the phone. They ask you what make of car, year, etc. and they can just type it in the computer and look it up for you without you even having to go anywhere. It's definitely worth a try...just look them up in the phone book and make sure they are licensed. We actually ended up going with a mobile service who came to our house and replaced it. It was the cheapest estimate, and obviously the most convenient! They gave us a two hour time frame that they would be here, and they replaced it within half an hour. Check into that too. It might solve your scheduling problems. Estimates should be free though, either way. GL!

august06mom · February 2009

no reputable place will charge you for an estimate

Dougsgirl4ever · February 2009

You do not have to take the van in to get an estimate on the window you need to know the make model & year of the van & get in the yellowpages under auto glass & start calling for quotes. I work for an auto glass co. you are going to get estimates that are high & low I would call about 5 co & then pick which one you want to go with. Most have free mobil service to have it fixed meaning they will go to where the van is.

pookie2005 · February 2009

gibs:
I think you're being ridiculous. You broke the window and you have a 'busy weekend' so you can't fix it, and so now he has to drive a van with a broken/shattered window? Suck it up and get it taken care of ASAP. Make it a priority and stop whining

1) It was a priority until he kept telling us he was too busy...now we're busy. It's not like I'm getting my nails done, we're out of town...preplanned. Would you reschedule it? It happens.

2) It's not like we left it open. We taped it up. There is no moisture getting in. Besides, he only drives it once or twice a month and it is garaged the rest of the time. It's not his daily driver, he has 2 other cars.

3) Thanks for your constructive critisism.

ak071401 · February 2009

See if there is a Safe Lite Auto Glass place in your area or something similar. They get the make and model of your car, which window needs replacing and they come to you to fix it. My car was broken into and the window was shattered in the process and they did mine for about $130. They came out the day after it happened.

DandR · February 2009

Just call three places..all they need to know is the make/model/year of the vehicle and which window needs replaced and they will give you an estimate...no need running all over town.

And many auto-glass places (at least around here) will come to you to fix it...as in your house, your place of employement, whatever.

I think you both (him and you) are making this harder than it needs to be.

august0605bride · February 2009

why is it not covered on his insurance?

pookie2005 · February 2009

august0605bride:
why is it not covered on his insurance?

pookie2005 · February 2009

Sorry, that posted by itself! He doesn't want to go through insurance. It will raise his rates for a window my dh broke. That wouldn't be fair.

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