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How were you when DH/SO went back to work?

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My DH is scheduled to return to work tomorrow after being off for two weeks.  I am really getting upset about it but am not sure why.  I am totally confident in my abilities to care for the baby and all but I think it's just the security of having another person in the house with me.  I'm not worrying as much as I was two weeks ago when he was born but I would still feel a little better if he was here til the week's end.

How were you ladies when your DH/SO went back?  Any tips for me? 

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Re: How were you when DH/SO went back to work?

  • InLovewSBInLovewSB member
    Yes, I was scared of the time when my H went back to work. Just really really nervous. And, in fact, that first day the baby cried almost the whole day and it was very stressful. But most days after that were just fine.
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  • chloeelynchloeelyn
    My DH had 3 weeks off and I still cried te entire first week he was back. It was just the idea of being alone all day with the baby and not knowing what would happen or how it would go. I got over it eventually but it was hard. Now, I go back to work and DH is home with the baby for 7 weeks coming up here and he is afraid of being alone all day., its just something you get used to. Now when he goes in daycare im going to really be a mess.
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  • Lucky_DragonflyLucky_Dragonfly member
    MH originally said that he was going to be home owth me for at least a week and have his collegues cover his clients. Then when DS was born he took that back saying he can make more money if he didn't have to give a portion to his collegues so he went back to work after day 3. So I kind of got shafted. ( MH is self employed)
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  • Alli3586Alli3586 member
    It was hard that first day because I was used to having him around, but DD and I got into our routine and now I treasure our days alone.
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  • missfiremissfire member

    I was really scared, but it ended up being easier than I thought. Just don't plan on getting anything done other than watching the baby the first few days. You'll be pleasantly surprised if you actually do, instead of being disappointed if you don't.

    I also joined a mom-baby group through our hospital and it has been a life-saver. Honestly, just the moral support from other moms has made every part of parenting easier for me.

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  • Miss.ModularMiss.Modular member

    ha i posted the same thing when my husband went back to work!!  I was a crying weepy wreck for three days leading up to it.  But, honestly it wasn't  nearly as bad as i anticipated (as everyone told me!)    you find you get into your own groove quickly, and it's fun bonding with your child alone!

     

     

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  • ali-1411ali-1411 member

    DH was only able to take off 3 days...two of which we spent in the hospital.

    I was fine.  It was the 2nd week that was hard when he went out of town for 5 days that sucked.

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  • inbetweendreamsinbetweendreams

    DH is a firefighter, and he works 24-hour shifts. He had 2 weeks off with me, but his first day back to work meant he would be gone for 24 hours. I cried my eyes out when he left that morning, and I'd be lying if I said it wasn't rough. But DS and I made it through.

    My only tips would be to ask for help from a friend or family member if you need it, and don't worry about doing anything else (housework, etc.) besides taking care of your LO if you feel overwhelmed.

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  • JessiRayeJessiRaye member

    My H was off for 3 weeks. I've been home by myself for 2 now. The first week I was absolutely fine. (This is my second baby.) The past few days I've been overwhelmed because I'm trying to do too much around the house AND entertain my 3 year old PLUS deal with the 5 week old that has been so fussy. Today is the first day that I feel more relaxed and the funny thing is...DH is out of town the rest of the week! But I got up early this morning (5 am) and started out the day determined to make it work.

    So far so good....Today that is:)

    Good luck to you! Just take it day by day and don't try to do too much. You'll get overtired if you do that anyway.

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  • KellyNAaronKellyNAaron
    DH was off for the first month. When he went back to work I cried a lot that first week. I just really missed him a lot after having him around non-stop for a month. Plus I was just completely exhausted (lack of sleep) which I think made me more emotional too.
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