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at my wits end...

Goldie_lvGoldie_lv
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I"m pregnant with my 2nd child  and having a difficult pregnancy so I'm not as able to chase my 2 1/2 yo ds around.  He refuses to listen to me or do anything I ask of him.  I find myself yelling and screaming (and crying) all the time.  My DH only has to look at him and does whatever he wants....I HATE always yelling, I hate it....I've tried asking nicely, I ask a million times nicely...with no response.  I use a 'big' voice, I use a 'stern' voice...I shout, I yell...still nothing. I put him in the corner, I'm very consistant with my punishments....and still notta....but like I said, DH walks into the room and he scrambles.......I'm so tired, and so uncomfortable from this pregnancy (and experiencing much physical pain)...my heart is breaking...I know he's only 2 1/2, I know this is supposed to be how he behaves....I just don't know how to handle myself....what do I do?!?!?
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  • Mysterious_wifeMysterious_wife member
    When you figure it out let me know.  I have repeated myself and yelled all day.  DH can look at her and she stops or does what he says.  It is a PITA.  DH brought up a great point.  He thinks it is because we are together 24/7 and knows how to play me, where as he is only home at night.
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  • brittneycc1982brittneycc1982

    Aww, I'm sorry! : (

    It sounds like you need a little break.  Even if you H can take DS away for a couple hours so you can relax.

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  • luckyladyNJluckyladyNJ

    Sounds like you need a break...it makes me think of the IKEA commercial where the kids are fighting, the mom comes in the room and says "someone needs a time-out" and mom goes to her bedroom to lie down, leaving the kids stunned because they thought they were going to have a time-out.

    I'm sure it's very difficult to be pg (with all of the hormones and exhaustion) and parent a 2 1/2 year old at the same time. I don't know what his behaviors are, but maybe you can pick and choose which behaviors your're going to address (be it a stern "no" or time-out), and which behaviors to just ignore or redirect. Hang in there!

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  • FolanMamaFolanMama

    Momma needs a pedicure!!!!!

    When you figure it out, start a show... oh, wait, they have one.  Supernanny.

    I actually try to watch that show to figure out what the hell she is doing different.  My theory-- it's the accent.  Who doesn't love an accent?

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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    First - HUGS.

    Mine are 17 months apart.  I still remember clearly how exhausting it was to care for a difficult toddler while huge pregnant.

    Second - I HIGHLY recommend the book "Parenting with Love and Logic for Toddlers" (6 months to 5 years)

    I was much like you - at my wits end and ashamed of the type of parent I was becoming.  Exhausted and loosing patience were my norm instead of the random exception.

    This book changed all of that for me.  Now no matter how insane he behaves my blood pressure doesn't rise one single bit.  It helped me take the emotion out of discipline.

    It changed my life and I believe it may have saved the future of my relationship with my son(s).

    Honestly - get this book.  You'll want to get on top of how you handle him before the baby comes.  Once baby is here you're physically in better shape to handle the toddler but sleep deprivation challenges everyone's patience to say the least.  Having some of these tools in place before the baby arrives will ease the transition for you all.

    GL!

    Shell

    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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