If you're having more than one shower...

saj&jaj · February 2009

Okay, this might be a stupid question, but if you are having more than one shower and have been asked to supply the guest list, are you inviting the same people, give or a take a few folks? My concern is that I don't want to come across as greedy, i.e. I don't want people to think they need to bring a gift to both, that seems a bit much, especially in this economy, and I certainly don't expect someone to bring a gift to both.

Should I have the hostess of the later dated shower just put "no gifts please" on the invite? Have you ever been invited to multiple showers (baby or bridal) for the same person? Did you find that annoying/greedy? Did you give a gift at both?

Tinkermeg · February 2009

My family is doing different people at both showers. One shower is my family and one is DH's. They wanted to have a joint shower, but the guest list was too big. I don't know if my perhaps my mom will be at both.

Mrs_mam · February 2009

I am having 2 showers because my mom's family is 5 hours away from where I live. So the shower down there will be friends/family from home and my shower up here will be friends/family who live up here.

I am inviting MIL to the far away shower, just as a courtesy. I am also inviting my BFF to both but I told her I don't expect her to drive 5 hours to a shower. Maybe if yours are in the same town you can have a family shower and then a friends shower? Or divide by family, your family goes to one, and DH's to the other?

Mrs.Carlybella · February 2009

i would think most people who have multiple showers have them because they are being thrown my diff groups (own fam, In-laws, friends, work). I would keep the lists segregated to the diff groups, and if there are a few people i was super close with (my sis, my bff) i would put them on both lists and just say to them hey, i want you there, don't go overboard

saj&jaj · February 2009

MIL would be the only person coming from DH's side-I don't know his Aunt and don't think she'd make the journey from GA to VA anyway, and I have zippy in the family department other than Mom, sister, and Dad's cousin, so I don't think it would work to have a seperate family shower but it is something to think about for the one my sister is hosting (just keep that one small).

kkenner · February 2009

I'm having two showers...One thrown by my best friend and the other by my mom (6 hours away). Only one person requested to be invited to both. IMO, I would keep the guest list for each one different unless they are family.

alli&pat · February 2009

i don't think people should be invited to more than one shower. the only exceptions for me are my mom, MIL, SIL, and best friend. i also had 2 friends request that they be invited to both. however, the whole reason that i'm having multiple showers is because its different circles of people. i do think its greedy and annoying as a guest to be invited to multiple showers for the same person.

grinsandgiggles · February 2009

You should never invite a guest to more than one shower unless it is someone like your mother, sister, or maybe a best friend.

One of the main reasons for having more than one shower is to make it more convenient on your guests...one for one side of the family, one for another or one for family/friends and one for co-workers.

rrotem · February 2009

After I went to 3 showers and a bachelorette for one friend (I was a bridesmaid) - I put my foot down and only went to one baby shower for her even though I was invited to two. ?If there are people you are really close with and for whatever reason want to invite them to both - I guess I would say to those people before inviting them - "I am having two showers and it's no pressure but I just wondered if you'd want to be invited to both" or something like that. ?I was annoyed to be invited to be invited to more than one because I felt obligated to go to both then and I still feel a little bad about turning down the second one even though I know I shouldn't! ?

peachypear · February 2009

grinsandgiggles:
You should never invite a guest to more than one shower unless it is someone like your mother, sister, or maybe a best friend.
One of the main reasons for having more than one shower is to make it more convenient on your guests...one for one side of the family, one for another or one for family/friends and one for co-workers.

Ditto.

The_Jen626 · February 2009

I had 4 showers total

1. My Mom and her family/friends shower

2. Couples shower for our friends

3. MIL and step-MIL families/friends shower

4. work shower

About 5 of my girlfriends were overlapped between the first 2 showers. I told them each specifically not to bring a gift to the couples shower, and 3 of them did anyway. I would avoid overlap as much as you can, if possible.

The New Mrs. · February 2009

Our immediate family will be invited to both so that grandpas and grandmas are not discluded, but they know it's because they're family and should be there, not because we want a gift. Otherwise, one set of friends (in our area) to one and DH's family and childhood friends in his old area.

saj&jaj · February 2009

I spoke with my sister and my friend and I think they are going to co-host a shower. I really didn't feel comfortable having 2 showers with the same people so I feel like this is a great compromise. Thanks for the input ladies!

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