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Worry Warts...
Holy Moly. It gets worse the longer I know Joe and the older he gets. I worry about everything. Like, for example, the car chase last night on I-45. I was no where near it....but I started invisioning cars crashing into my car while Joe is in the back seat. Or the plane crash in Buffalo or the Hudson. I start imagining what I would do in those situations and thinking about how I will never fly with him. I worry about him choking on his food at school or feeling lonely and it consumes me all day. It's like anytime something happens on the news or to someone else, I imagine it happening to Joe and I fixate on it. My thing today is that I am going out of town in 3 weeks without Joe and my in laws are watching him and I am terrified that he will drown in the bath or that my MIL who constantly talks about her "chemo brain" and how forgetful she is will forget him in a car or in the bathtub or something.....Anyone else have this problem/issue?
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Re: Worry Warts...
I constantly worry that F is dead in her crib of SIDS. I totally understand where you are coming from.
After I read about the break in post, I dreamt we were broken into.
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All. The. Freaking. TIME. Seriously, I feel like that's all I do is worry. I am EXACTLY like you and feel a little comforted that other people do the same thing - I take something in the news, something that I hear happened to someone else's kid (even if I don't know them), and totally fixate on it happening to Charlotte. I don't know how to control it but I need to learn because like you say, there's more to worry about as they get older, plus I am prone to anxiety (was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder about four years ago). I don't know how to not worry. I also worry about people taking her, hurting her, her choking on food at school, falling in the bathtub, people crashing into our car....omg, I could go on all day.
I hate it. It makes me cry to think about anything happening to her.
PAGAS, I was the same way when Char was teeny. I would constantly get up to check on her, I was always paranoid about making sure there was nothing else in the crib with her, making sure her sheets were pulled tightly so she couldn't suffocate...I don't really worry about SIDS anymore, but there are nights when I look at her on the video monitor to make sure she's breathing and if I don't see her move or can't visibly see her back rising and falling, I go check on her.
I think your worry about SIDS will pass with time. I cried numerous times after she was first born thinking about that. Totally normal, but totally scary.
You are not alone!
I have irrational fears of my children drowning. I can barely stand it that our neighborhood is full of swimming pools that can be accessed via unlocked gates. None of the pools have any toddler barriers like Catch-a-Kid, et cetera because of course all the owners have children who know how to swim. I will be a nervous wreck when the weather gets warmer.
Have you read the book Freakanomics? I should never have opened it. Do you know that swimming pools are statistically more dangerous than a gun kept in the house? Ugh.
it actually steals my breath when I think about terrible things.
you are so not alone.
Definitely not alone. Ask Brandi - I was a freak when house hunting about the location of her room and kidnappers.
I bought the Angel Care monitor and used it until she started rolling off of it and setting it off.
I don't worry about her so much when I am home (she climbs on everything and is forever tripping and getting bumps and bruises), but the scenarios I conjure up freak me out.
Heck, I can't even watch L&O SVU anymore because it just freaks me out.
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I thought I was a little extreme in my worries but at least now I know it's normal. Last night, I saw a commercial for Cancer Treatment Centers for America. I has just put C down for the night and sat there sobbing at the thought of him growing up without a mommy if I were to get cancer and die myself. That of course is the most recent freak out of many I have had. I know it's nature's way of seeing to it our kids are pretected, but it's just awful. It doesn't help that I have had some unsavory things happen to me and struggled with PTSD so I feel like even more of a sitting duck sometimes.
You are absolutely not alone. ?I literally make myself sick with worry about everything related to the safety of Wyatt and DH. ?I worry about Wyatt dying of SIDS, being left in the car by ME, drowning in the tub even though I never leave his side, I worry that something could happen to me here at home and no one would know it for a long time and he would just be here alone... I could go on and on about how I obsess. ?And, well, DH is a police officer... so the possibilities are endless there.
Also, I'm not sure if this makes sense, but things have happened in my life that make all of my worries seem like very real possibilities. ?I never have the "that only happens to other people" thought because I AM other people. Crazy, huh?
I think I've gotten better as Addie gets older. When she was little I definitly had the SIDS fear, the fear I left her somewhere, etc.
I'm better now but have the strangest irrational fear of her falling somewhere, like between the railings from upstairs at someone's house, or into the seal pool at the zoo, thinking of her on a ferris wheel makes me nervous.
But I don't have the kidnapping or more real fears anymore. which makes me realize how even weirder the other fears are.
You're definitely not alone. I've always been a worrier, and now I'm ten times worse with the baby. There have been several break-ins around this area during the day and I'm so freaked out now. Rena's room is upstairs and since all this happened she's been napping downstairs in the pack n play. I'm so worried that someone will break in and I won't have enough time to go upstairs and get her!
I was also terrified of SIDS when she was younger. I still check the video monitor all the time to make sure I can see her breathing!
Constantly, it's like I'm obssessed with worrying. I have way too many fears to list here. You are definately not alone in this.
I still have irrational fears like that myself. It was WAY worse when K was a newborn, I would have constant fears that I would get in a wreck with her in the car, or that she'd get kidnapped, or that she'd get sick.....the list goes on and on.
It's better now....but I have to mentally FORCE myself not to let my mind wander there!