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Anticipation of Labor/Not being in control

PeacheeKeenPeacheeKeen
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Anyone else struggling with the anticipation of labor and having no control over when or how it happens?  I never considered myself that much of a control freak... but I guess I am.  I don't like to be surprised or scared by anything and I just feel like I have NO control over my body or when labor is going to happen.  I'm working right up until he is born so I always feel like when I leave for the day I have loose ends that might not get tied up before maternity leave.

DH keeps telling me to get used to it because from the second this baby comes I really wont have control over anything.  I know he's right... but I'm struggling.  Maybe it's the hormones? 

Can anyone else relate? 

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  • lata82lata82
    ugh yes I feel the same way. I work in a family business and we are short staffed to begin with and we haven't found anyone to help out while I am on maternity leave. If I just knew when she would be here it would be so much easier. We have this big open house on Sat and we all have to be here and I just know she will decide to come then.
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  • PeacheeKeenPeacheeKeen

    For your sake I hope that she holds on until after Saturday! 

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  • lata82lata82
    yeah my parents too! Because there is no way in hell my dad could make my mom stay, I swear she will get to the hospital faster than DH and I
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  • nellieboonellieboo
    I have that fear too. I'm worried I'm going to leave things for other people who won't know what to do with them. I know it will be fine, but the anticipation/not knowing is hard!
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  • ArcticFoxArcticFox member

    I hear you!  I already have a DD and it was wild.. my water broke and right then I said, "OMG, we are having a baby".  It was like get in the car and get to the hospital - for some reason I wasn't ready to hear "get to the hospital now" by my Dr!  Well hello! 

    I left work a week before my due date and I was there until 8 pm tying up loose ends.. it was such a disaster!

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  • daisy58daisy58

    I had felt the same way. I worked until I found I out I was being induced the next day. At work I tried to get most items done and points were someone could easily pick up.

    I had a fear of where is my water going to break, but when I found out I was being induced reality really sunk in that baby would be here in a day or two!

    I think it's common feeling! Your DH is right- your baby will be in control now- when he/she eats, sleeps ect. 

    You'll do just fine- and it's will feel natural.

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  • lrngAUSlrngAUS

    I totally understand where you are coming from.  I have moments when I am fine and looking forward to it all starting but overall I have a constant knot in my stomach about it all (or is that the babies leg stuck in my ribs?)

    Anyway, I am finding little things that I can control now which help me to feel better about later going into labour and having the baby eg. I have started doing yoga specifically designed to help with labour and I am trying to get into some relaxation and meditation type exercises to stop myself from getting overwhelmed by it all.

    At the end of the day these things may not work but it makes me feel like I am doing something productive at the very least.  I am the type of person who will work myself up in the lead up to something big but when I am in the moment I have no choice but to deal with it and get it through it.

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  • sharon2004sharon2004
    I'm like that too - I don't want to be surprised by something so major, but that's just how it works.  It's so frustrating to not know even what week the baby will come.  I was all hyped up about it the week before last, and last week I kept hoping every day would be THE day, but still nothing.  This week I'm just kind of resigned to the fact that there's nothing I can do but wait and try to wrap up everything at work as best as I can.  Like you, I'm working right up until the end and so I guess I really should be worrying more about having my water break at work. 
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