***Moms of 2*** Re: Leaving DC while in the hospital

Re: ***Moms of 2*** Re: Leaving DC while in the hospital

• hannah&ben

  February 2009

  This time (just like last time) we'll actually have my in-laws come to our house to watch the kiddos.  It's probably not as big of a deal since Ava is younger than my children (and doesn't understand as much about exactly what's happening).  But, the kids knowing that I'm at the hospital having a baby is a big huge deal that kind of freaks them out - so to make things less stressful on them we'll make sure they get to keep their routines as close to normal as possible while I'm away.  And, they have school and extra curriculars I don't want them to have to miss (IL's live in Oakley - we live in Taylor Mill - it would take forever for them to cart the kiddos back and forth). Plus, I'll be gone longer than you will since I'm having a c-section (I'll be gone for 3 nights instead of 1) So, that's another reason to have the IL's here...

  So, basically our situations are nothing alike  I'm guessing if I were only going to be gone 24 hours, the designated sitter was close to me, and my children were much younger I would do exactly what you are.  Your plan sounds just right!

  Hannah
  

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• hav2run

  February 2009

  Oh Kessler, you are making me think about things I do not want to think about!  I want my hubby with me 24/7 the next time, and that might not be a reality.  I am watching this post out of curiosity.
  

  
  
  

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• nire99 member

  February 2009

  I was really worried about this also and was originally scheduled to be induced for a different reason so I thought I had it all planned out that my parents would pick DD up from our house on the night of my induction.  I went into labor early though and my parents were able to come to our house and get DD so we could go to the hospital.  They brought her to the hospital to visit the next day and it worked out great. 

  I knew she was having a ton of fun at their house so even though I checked out the day after I delivered we still had her stay with them an extra night so we could be alone with DS and get settled in.  I felt really well rested by the time she came home and it made it so much easier to adjust to two kids.  All total, she spent two nights/three days with grandma and grandpa.  They made it really special for her and she had so much fun that she still talks about it to this day. 
  

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• becca070707Ken

  February 2009

  I had a bag packed for Kellen just like mine. I had bought all new toiletries so I would have them packed as well. The only thing we had to grab was his pillow and snowflake (his BAB he sleeps with). Although he was 6 it is always hard to leave your children. He was excited not only b/c the baby was coming, but he still got to go to summer camp, which he loves. My MIL brought him up to the hospital after camp and they stayed up there until I had Ayden. Both of our families were up there, so he had all his Aunt's and Uncle's there. He thought it was the greatest thing ever. But then again he was 6 and Ava is 1. The only advice I can give is to have Ava's stuff packed and ready to go wherever your stuff is. Remind her when it is getting close that the baby will be coming soon and she will be staying with your mom and she is going to have lots of fun. Let her know that your mom will bring her to the hospital to see you and her sister. I let Kellen pick a gift out to give Ayden when he was born. He didn't let it out of his sight until he gave it to him. It is now Ayden's favorite toy I also had a Big Brother shirt for him to wear. Whatever happens just remember that Ava will be in great hands and well taken care of and to not worry. I know, easier said then done. She will be fine
  

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• alisonada member

  February 2009

  We were really stressed about this because our only local family is a couple of DH's aunts/uncles, and they all work FT and we're not particularly close to them. Our only plan was to immediately call MIL if I went into labor and she was going to jump in the car and drive down (a 4 1/2 hour drive). So this could have been a major problem if I had went into labor and started to progress quickly.

  But we found out Kady was breech the day before my due date, and scheduled a c/s. This obviously made the logistics easier, we just had ILs come into town the evening before my c/s and they came over in the morning before we left for the hospital and watched Piper at our house. (My parents came later that day and they took turns spending the night at our house since I was in the hospital for 3 nights.) I was nervous about this too though because Piper sees her grandparents so infrequently that she really doesn't even know them, but she actually did fine. I will say that I REALLY missed her while I was in the hospital - it was the first time I'd been away from her over-night. But - I did have Kady to keep me occupied and had such of a "new baby high" that it wasn't unbearable. Our parents brought Piper to visit every day I was there, and DH drove back and forth between the hospital and our house so he could be there to put Piper to bed. DH did stay with me in the hospital though, because I had a c/s I wasn't really up and around and it was great having him there versus relying on the nurses for everything.

  It is stressful to think about, but I'm sure things will be fine :-)

   

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• A&Amommy

  February 2009

  Could your parents come to your house?  This might be easier.  I went into labor in the middle of the night, my watter broke at about 1a.m.  So instead of waking DS up and carting him out the door (he was 15 months old at the time), we called and my Mom came over.  DS never even knew we had left.

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• cat81305 member

  February 2009

  I am in a different boat b/c I don't have any family near us (at least 1 hour away).  We are going to have my mom come down as soon as I am in labor and if we have to she will meet us at the hospital to get DS.  We plan on having them stay in a hotel since we are delivering in OH.  My DH will stay with me then until the baby is born and then he will stay the night with DS and my mom will stay with me in the hospital.  I don't want DS to feel neglected by us so that is why we are thinking this way.  I want DS at the hospital as much as possible though after the baby is born so we will see how it plays out.  Good luck in your decision!

  Our kids are 19mths apart and we LOVE it!!
  
  Married to my BFF on 8.13.05 (after dating 5 years)!
  
  DS born 2.14.08. DD born 9.30.09.
  
  

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• sprads

  February 2009

  My situation was a little different because we only have my stepsons with us about half the time. So, due to not wanting them to have to miss school, we had it planned that my aunt (who is only 10 years older than me) and one of her daughters, who loves to babysit and has a special relationship with the boys - they are very close had agreed that if I went into labor when the boys were at school or in the middle of the night, that I would call them and they would come to the house. We had them added to all the 'ok to pick up the kids from school lists' at the schools and had it all planned out. Turned out though that I went into labor at 2:20am on a Monday morning on one of the weekends that they weren't with us and had Brooke at 8:53am so DH could still pick them up from school that afternoon and brought them up to see us. (also receiving their big brother presents - webkinz from the hospital gift shop that they picked out when we were there for the sibling class) My mom was going to spend the night with them that night and take them to school the next day, but we gave them the option of spending an extra night at their mom's house which is what they ended up choosing after about 5 changes of mind. DH said that he wanted to be with Brooke and I in the hospital since he did that for each one of the boys.

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