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Stupid Mom ..... TOTAL VENT!

MiaVonTMiaVonT
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Ok, so I just got off the phone with my mom who piissed me off royally!

 

She was asking if MIL is buying the cribs, I said yes, I believe so. If not we will. She said ok because I was planning to get the bassinets. I said that's nice of you but we really don't want bassinets for them, we think it's a waste and would prefer something they can use longer. She tried telling me all the features in it and all that crap. I'm like we would prefer a pack n play for nap time. She said omg you cant put two in there are you crazy? I responded that I have talked to MoMs and they have done that with no problem and then she went on to ask why am I being such a hillbilly? Indifferent

 

yeah I flipped out! I said wtf does a PnP have to do with hillbillies? and I'm not a hillbilly! WTF did you get that from? are YOU f'n crazy? It should be things we want, not what you want! 

 

Then she went on about highchairs .... totally going in the direction of the ones we dont want!!! I'm like DH wants this kind and she pooped all over that too.

 

I told her Mom I'm sorry but I really have to shiit now, bye. (not true, but I wanted to be rude)

 

so I do have the right to say that I don't want said items right? or am I being hormonal? the whole hillbilly thing piissed me off! she's lucky I didn't call her a worse name! 

 

 

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  • hisbabybearhisbabybear member
    wow that was rude. i would try and tell her what you want and tell her to look at your registry. you only want things that you are registering for and if she gets you something other than that just make sure to get the reciept from her and return it later on.
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  • sxu0007sxu0007
    Yes you do have the right to be mad you hillbilly....times have changed since your mom had kids!!!  (PS, we registerd for a pack and play so I am a hillbilly too!) Big Smile
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  • Laura&MikeyLaura&Mikey
    I think with your mom you should be able to tell her what you do/ do not want and she should respect it. If it was grandma I would say just be nice, but your mom should listen
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  • CorinneallysonCorinneallyson member

    Indifferent

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  • kaighteakaightea

    I wish I had some advice, but not really. I just wanted to say my mom did the SAME thing the other day!

    She told me she'd buy a glider and a bassinet, and I said thanks, I'm very grateful, etc. but I'd prefer a pack n play instead of a bassinet.

    Then she goes on and on about how cute my bassinet was when I was a baby, and that she was going to buy a bassinet instead of a PnP for that reason, listed all the features of one she found online, etc.

    I felt bad doing it, but I told her if she got us a bassinet we wouldn't use it, and we'd have to get a PnP ourselves - she finally came around and agreed to buy the PnP (although I think it's a 50/50 change we'll get the one we want - my mom just discovered Craig's List and is hooked).

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  • MiaVonTMiaVonT

    I was trying to tell her please don't waste money on something we will return or never use ... she can get them for her place and she said no they will be for yours .... and then said she will have to check out the pack n play then.

     

    I'm like the baby items are not like they were 20 something yrs ago mother! 

     

    She's being a total ass!

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  • minamariaminamaria member
    You have every right to let her know what you want and worse case if she still buys you something you don't want/need without the receipts to return it tell her to keep it at her house and let her know that's more use that you would have for it at yours.  Also the PnP is a great idea, my cousin has twins who are 1year old and they both still nap in at together.  You are completely in the right here don't let anyone tell you otherwise.  I think all mothers of ours have their moments when they feel they have every right to what they think and what they want not realizing their advice is just as important as everyone else's idea because in the end it what you and dh want.  Good Luck w/ your mom.
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  • KelliLyneeKelliLynee member

    It must be a common thing because my mom is doing this too- trying to buy us stuff we dont want/need and wont use. (As per my previous posts regarding a monitor and a used humidifier. After she told me which monitor she got I looked it up and it got 2 out of 5 stars on BRU and is totally not the one we would have picked.

    I asked her to please save her money until we start our registry because we are spending a lot of time reading reviews & safety ratings, etc. Not to mention we want stuff to match, etc. AHHHHHH.

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  • Mrs_mamMrs_mam

    My mom does the same thing. She's gone so far as to demand that she be "#1 Grandma" even though she lives 5 hours away and that she will be angry if our kid sees MIL more often (MIL lives 10 min. away).

    She goes on and on and on about wanting to buy things for us, and she has no money. Then she demanded to buy the crib, but won't ship it to me. She wants me to get it at my shower, so I will drive 5 hours to the shower, she will be the star of the show giving me a FULLY ASSEMBLED crib, then I have to take it apart, fit it in my tiny car, and drive it 5 hours home. Pisses me off. Oh, and I'll probably end up paying for it anyway.

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  • TinkermegTinkermeg

    Def stand your ground...it's your baby...and times have changed since your mom had babies.

     

    My mom has a lot of great advice most of the time...but she says things sometimes they make me wonder if she knows the baby is going to live with ME. She said to me yesterday that she thinks that her dog and my baby will be so close that they dog's name with be her first words. I asked why my daughter wouldn't be attached the very affectionate cat that LIVES WITH ME. I asked her if I was closer to our pets growing up or my grandparents ...and of course the answer is ours. I just don't think she thought about it.

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  • liongish119liongish119

    LOL  omg moms are funny.  I completely empathize with your horror stories: my MIL has a bad habit of giving me things just because they were a good deal*.... I just sigh and remember that its the thought that counts.  They do it because they love us.  And the rivalry between Mom & MIL is just funny!  I feel greatful that this baby will be so loved- although I must admit I roll my eyes a lot when I'm on the phone with Mom :)  

     *one of her presents one as the best White Elephant gift- which means that out of 50 item it was the most hideous.  Official story: the dogs broke it.

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